Struggling to cope after c section…

posted 7 months ago in Pregnancy
Post # 2
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

Are you wearing those belly support bands? I couldn’t have done it without them after my emergency c-section. Also my husband put a piece of plywood under our couch cushions in order to make the couch not quite as soft. It make it easier for me to stand up. 

Honestly though  there’s no way to make yourself heal quicker, nor should you push yourself. You just had major surgery. It’s going to take time to feel back to normal. 

Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Kslim13 :  Congratuations Mom! Now give yourself permission to take some time to heal. You have not just given birth. You have also had abdominal surgery. AND, you are dealing with huge changes in hormone levels.

“The majority of women experience at least some symptoms of the baby blues immediately after childbirth. It is a feeling precipitated by the sudden change in hormones after delivery, stress, isolation, sleep deprivation, and fatigue. You might feel more tearful, overwhelmed, and emotionally fragile. Generally, this will start within the first couple of days after delivery, peak around one week, and taper off by the end of the second week postpartum.”

Many of the things we learn in preganancy, just don’t become real until after delivery.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Hey there. I’ve had two (my first- also emergency, my second planned) and will be having a third in July. The best advice I can give to you is take the pain meds (and the stool softener), and get yourself up and moving as much as you can. Walk around the house if it’s crummy outside, walk outside if it’s nice- but honestly, the more you move (within reason- don’t go trying to work out or walking 5 miles), the better you’ll feel. Also- keep in mind you’re only 4 days out of MAJOR surgery. I know it feels like you’re incredibly sedentary, but some rest is also key to your recovery.  I would say by the second week post birth, with both sections, I was off pain meds and feeling pretty good. I also found a lot of satisfaction in getting out of my jammies- even if it was just to transition to athleasure or yoga pants- but the act of getting dressed (showering etc) was really restorative. Congrats on the new baby! 

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

Kslim13 :  I just used the few I stole from the hospital 😉 But they looked kind of like these:

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

Kslim13 :  the hospital gave me the top one that 

llevinso :  posted. They gave me one when I asked for one, so you may need to ask for one too. 

Give yourself time to recover, be kind and gentle to yourself. Enjoy your baby!

Post # 9
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Busy bee

Congrats Mama! You need your rest, it will help you in the long run. Also, rest is vital to keep your milk production up. 

I’m 3 days postpartum after a C, and my big problem on the first two days was that I hadn’t been able to sleep enough. Finally got a bit better since I came home yesterday, my bed is so much more comfy! 

 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

Kslim13 :  wear a belly binder! I had one with Velcro that was actually for maternity exercise. I wore that sucker for like 4 weeks straight. It helped so much. Also, try to get up and move (gently) as mich as possible – it will speed up your recovery. 

You had a major, major surgery… give yourself a few days to recover! I was surprised how good I felt at 7-10 days postpartum even though the first few days suuuuucked. 

Congrats on your baby 🙂

Ps – like PP posted above, the postpartum hormones were brutal for me. So be forewarned. I felt really crazy for the first three weeks…. it was awful. Like the worst PMS, times a million. We were also dealing with some really stressful baby health stuff though. But then it got better! So if you’re feeling this way, hang in there for three weeks!

Post # 11
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Blushing bee

I am suprised you are out of the hospital.   The national average length of stay for a c-section in the US is 5 days.    With all 2 of mine I was in for the full 5 and for one 7 days as I had some complications.

 

  1. get plenty of rest.   sleep when the baby is sleeping.   the body requires sleep to heal
  2. hold your incision site when you need to sneeze, cough or laugh.   It needs support (oy you can use the belt from above)
  3. keep on top of the pain.  No one wants to take to much pain medicine, but studys show pain prevents healing.  Dont wait for it to get bad.  It doesnt make you a hero to suffer after having major abdominal surgery
  4. eat healthy and stay hydrated.   avoid foods that give you gas.  
  5. I had pain in my shoulder from air getting in the abdominal cavity.   That was the most awful pain.    gently getting moving helps

Good luck, take care of yourself.   Your mind body and soul has been through a lot!

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

You have received great tips so far! C sections are rough and definitely not something I was prepared for. I would say using a step stool to get in and out of bed, only going up and down the stairs once per day and relying on others as much as possible is helpful. Also, definitely take all of the pain meds – they give them for a reason. I know it seems horrible now but I remember waking up on the 14th day post csection feeling “good” and almost back to myself. Also, if you are going to wear anything aside from sweats high rise underwear with a panty liner inside the front is great! I remember trying to wear jeans for the first time (maternity mind you) and everything just stuck to my incision. This was so helpful!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I had an emergency c section and a nurse I had in recovery gave me the advice of, when you have someone helping you get up, keep your legs straight (don’t bend your knees). It puts less strain on your incision site. 

I second holding the site when you cough/sneeze/laugh.  

Drink lots of water! 

Also I think it’s quite common among us c-section moms to have feelings of guilt and inadequacy that we didn’t “give birth naturally” or some such nonsense.  We did not fail. We gave birth and we are mamas. My baby’s doing just as well as any water birth vaginal delivery with no meds babies. 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

camenae :  totally agree that there’s NO reason to feel guilt.  Personally, all I feel about my c-section is gratitude that I live in a day and age where that is possible.  Otherwise my son and I would probably both be dead.  Yay for c-sections!

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

kmjkh :  5 days?! Where is this? I got 3 days. Normal vaginal delivery would’ve been 2 days but you get 1 extra day with a c-section. 

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