We were initially going to elope, but found it hard to share the moment without family.
We are having a brief ceremony (like, 30 minutes tops) in a beautiful chapel we were able to rent for less than $1000 for 4 hours!
After that, the reception is less than 2 miles away at a fun restaurant, where we will pay for everyone’s meals (about 100 people including kids). That will cost around $1800-$2000 before tip, and me, fiancé, and Mother-In-Law LOVE the food.
After the restaurant if people want to go out, we’ll go out. We couldn’t see paying for decorations, DJ, photobooth, and all this other stuff that is just way beyond our budgets. My father passed away, so I didn’t want a “first dance” or anything, we don’t care about the garter or bouquet tradition, and none of that other minutiae like favors matters to us.
My dress cost $121.00 and my veil was $320.00. I’m pretty sure with everything, the whole event will be under $10,000.00, including rings. I’m having surgeries, I took a huge pay cut with my new job, and we want a house and children soon. It doesn’t make sense to splurge so much.
Seriously, nix ANYTHING that doesn’t matter to you. We don’t even have a wedding party, because we want our friends to enjoy themselves and we don’t want drama. Our photographer was only $400 (She’s only covering ceremony; we can get phone videos for reception). Our videographer is $475.00. Avoid getting family to do anything; it’s too much stress if they mess it up.
Enjoy your day, and do it your way. Don’t make your wedding like every other cookie-cutter event just to impress people. Have it reflect the best parts of you and your partner 😀