(Closed) Struggling to make this wedding stand out from my last… *VENT*

posted 8 years ago in Encore
Post # 3
128 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Hi date twin 🙂

It is my FI’s second but my first….I am having similar issues with things such as flowers, my hair, my dress, honeymoon, music, etc. I have heard “that is similar to —‘s first wedding” quite a few times and it makes me crazy. I don’t think people should compare but it is just something that is impossible to get away from. I am even guilty myself because I am doing things differently than I would have if there wasn’t the comparison. In the back of my head everything has to be “better”.


Post # 5
780 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Ohhhhhhh my goodness I can totally relate.  My first wedding was on the beach in Jamaica.  Like you, at first I was so adament about trying to make this one different.  And I did get alot of “wasn’t that what you did last time?” comments.  I even got a “isn’t it a bad OMEN to get married on the beach in Jamaica again after a failed marriage”?  YIKES!!!  After going around in circles I just decided to do this again.  My first wedding was a DREAM wedding, very economical, honeymoon started immediately after, all that.  It was never the WEDDING last time.  It was the MARRIAGE that was a mess!!

Post # 6
3316 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

There were elements that were the same between my first and second wedding:  it was in a synagogue, the reception was a luncheon in a restaurant.  However, with the two weddings over 30 years apart, people really weren’t commenting.

Post # 7
1166 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I think the answer is right in your post: “My Fiance has always wanted a beach wedding, and I’m a beach baby.” Next time someone questions you about it, just say THAT! No apologies or further explanation needed.

Also, I do think you can make this wedding very different, even if the setting is similar. There are so many new and creative ideas for making your wedding unique and putting new twists on old traditions. Think of it as an opportunity to get creative and have fun with it! I just got married on the beach three weeks ago… here are a few of the twists I incorporated:

– Informal standing ceremony (only a couple of reserved chairs for elderly guests)
– Wedding party was made up of children (nieces and nephews, all under 12)
– The girls carried bright paper parasols instead of bouquets – made for great photos!
– Instead of a flower girl and ring bearer, we had a “ring princess” – she carried a wand with a starfish at the end and we tied the rings to the ribbons
– We had our first dance right at the end of the ceremony (after the kiss), as the sun was setting behind us
– To open up the dancing, we did a sparkler dance – guests surrounded us with sparklers while we did a second “first dance” (reception was also on the beach)

Here are a few photos…



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