Post # 1
I’m 18 and just started college in August. No where near planning a wedding yet but I’ve been a lurker on the bee for a couple of years and thought you ladies could offer some support. I have a big extended family and everyone lives within 10 minutes of each other. My house alone was home to myself my siblings my parents grandparents aunts uncles and cousins. I decided I wanted to be independent and chose a college 5 states away from my whole family. I find myself lonely the majority of the time and in general I just don’t know what to do with myself. At home I was content just spending time with my family and I don’t know what to do without them. I’ve joined a couple of clubs and I talk to people all day everyday but I havent met anyone that I’ve really clicked with. Does anyone have any words of advice? Thanks
Post # 3
Instead of focusing on meeting people, focus on exploring your own interests and doing what you like.
When you focus too much on meeting people, you can inadvertently do things or put yourself in situations that make meeting people or connecting with people difficult. When you focus on doing what you enjoy and exploring your interests, you can be more comfortable with yourself and with others, because others aren’t your focus. Does that make sense?
To be your own person, you have to focus on you, not on other people. Enjoy yourself first. In time, you will meet people who you enjoy and who enjoy you. Clicking with people will happen when it happens.
Post # 4
I really enjoy being in situations where I am separated from my family (I absolutely LOVE my family) and I can be whoever I want to be. Like PP said, go out and explore things that you like. It’ll be weird and scary at first but then it’ll start to feel good to find yourself. Good luck and have fun!
Post # 5
I have moved around a lot and all I have to say is you can easily make friends in your classes, and try and join a few clubs or organizations and maybe get a school job or do a sport of some sort. This will help you make friends. I had a school job at my junior college and I made a lot of my friends from my school job as well as other ppl from other departments who I did joint activities with. I hope this helps.