- 5 years ago
- Wedding: January 2015
Background: My mother and I have never been super close, we have an on again off again relationship, which in the last year-18 months has consisted of texts that say “Happy Birthday” or “Merry Christmas” etc etc. She has never met my Fiance and (as far as I know) doesn’t even know that she and I were ever even dating. (We’ve been together a year this month).
I will invite her to the wedding mainly because I feel it’s the right thing to do, however I’m wondering if I should tell her I’m getting married before she gets the invitation. As bad as it sounds, I don’t want to not do it ahead of time and give her the chance to play martyr with the whole “I would have liked to have helped you or been there for you blah blah blah bs” but on the same hand I don’t want to tell her early and have her either make some snarky comment about me marrying a female (I have been married to a man in the past and have children) or have her say something stupid and hurful (because shes known to do that as well).
I’m torn on how to handle this situation. I considered just sending her a text and saying “I’m getting married Jan 3, 2015, invitations to come later in the year, but just wanted you to know”…..
How would you handle this?