Post # 1
im turning to the internet for advice, im a little nervous.
My fiancé and I are both vegans, have been for years, and always always always cite ethical reasons for our lifestyle. We would LOVE to have a vegan wedding as it aligns with our beliefs. The problem is we’ve done some research online and it seems like many people are vehemently against the idea of this. It seems like a lot of people wouldnt enjoy a vegan wedding and feels it’s unfair to the guests. I get that. I wouldn’t serve tofu or fake cheese at my wedding. But then I’m struggling because I will not enjoy my wedding knowing what my money went towards. It sounds dramatic but I try my absolute hardest not to contribute to any cruelty and I’ll be paying thousands of dollars towards something I do not support.
Its really a moral dilemma for me. Do I have an unpopular wedding or do i not enjoy my own wedding. How does one make sense of this ?
Post # 2
This is definitely a hot topic here. But as a guest (and meat eater) I would absolutely understand if you only served vegan food at your wedding and would personally still enjoy it, as long as you have a caterer who can make decent vegan food!
Post # 3
Not sure how its morally wrong for you to serve vegan food at your wedding. I am not vegan in anyway but love cooking vegan dishes and never been unimpressed or “upset” about it. I love eating all food.
Just serve vegan food with alergies noted and enjoy. No one will care and if they were that upset over those types of things, they probably shouldn’t be attending the wedding in the first place.
Post # 4
veganbride1991 : have a vegan wedding if it’s the important to you! No one loves a bloody steak more than this girl right here and I can live on vegan food for a night. So long as it’s something familiar that just happens to be vegan most people won’t even notice.
Post # 5
- Wedding: November 2019 - City, State
If the food is good, then I think your guests will have a fine time regardless. I’ve had vegan food that was amazing, but I’ve also had vegan food that was completely inedible. So just keep in mind that people’s palates might not be as accustomed to it as yours is.
But as a separate point of interest, I would recommend not heavily advertising that it’s a vegan wedding. Just serve your vegan meal options and call it a day; there’s no need to grandstand it or make it a big announcement. People will be more understanding if they feel like it’s not being shoved in their faces.
Post # 6
I have never been to a vegan wedding, but have had some kick ass vegan food! Vegan enchiladas – so good!
Just as PP said, as long as you have a caterer that makes great vegan food, you will be fine!
Post # 7
Agreed with pp! Just make sure it’s delicious food, and I doubt most people will mind 😊 I think you’re right to avoid fake cheese and tofu- I wouldn’t do a ton of processed soy, and as pp said make sure to note allergens especially for nut-based dishes. But I think some delicious, colorful, veggie-based vegan food would be great! Also agree with pp though that you shouldn’t make a big thing about it being a “vegan wedding”. At most, I’d note on “delicious vegan fare to be served” and leave it at that. 😊
Post # 8
I have been to a vegan wedding. I personally thought the food was delicious. Some people may have privately been miffed that there were no meat entrees, but nobody verbalized any complaints. The entrees served were quinoa stuffed bell peppers, and I finished every single bite! I noticed that many people hardly touched theirs which was a shame. Some people are going to be picky eaters no matter what you serve. Be true to yourself.
Post # 9
I’m a meat eater and would have no issue with a vegan only wedding. I’ll be honest, it probably won’t be my favorite wedding food ever. But it’s one meal. I would be grateful and eat it and enjoy the rest of the festivities! I think all non-vegans would prefer the meal to not heavily include mock/“fake” cheeses, meats, etc. But there are plenty of things out there that are vegan or easily made vegan in their normal, original form too (falafel, hummus, lots of Indian dishes, etc.) Stick to your morals and have a vegan wedding!
Post # 10
bluejaybride : I definitely would not mention the word vegan on invites or anything. Food is food, no need for a heads up about it.
Post # 11
hickoryhills : lauraloo : yeah, I think we would not advertise this giant vegan feast, but just go with dishes people are more famaliar with that are already vegan or can be easily veganized. Definitely no “vegan chicken” or anything. Thanks (:
Post # 12
sapphire27 : it definitely is a hot topic here and on another wedding forum I looked for. Brides were being called “rude” “ungrateful hosts” and “selfish” for even thinking it 😰
Post # 13
1. Find the best vegan caterer in your area – one that actually specilizes in creating vegan dishes – not just a caterer that “can do veggie sides”. This will make all the difference and you can be confident that you and your guests will enjoy the food.
2. Only invite your family and friends that love and support you. This may seem like a no-brainer, but seriously. If your loved ones really care for you two, then they will support you and “get over” not having meat/dairy for one meal.
I’m having a vegan wedding this Saturday! I was a little nervous about what some people might say, but then I remember how delicious the food was at the tasting and I know they will enjoy it too. The first thing I did was book the best vegan caterer in our city – then found a venue and date that worked around her. I swear she is a magician when it comes to plant-based food haha. We also found an amazing vegan bakery an hour and a half away from us to do our dessert table. I’m so excited to go to a wedding where I can eat more than just salad and fruit! LOL
Don’t compromise your morals. I would hate to see a bunch of dead animals at my wedding that I paid for when I didn’t have to – I’m sure you wouldn’t like it either and would be a sore spot on your day.
Post # 14
I think it’s absolutely fine to stick to your morals and have a vegan wedding. You wouldn’t expect someone to go against their religious beliefs and I don’t think this is any different. If any friends or family can’t respect that then I don’t think they truly care about you.
Post # 15
twinkie698 : fiancé and I just went to a vegan food festival and we found SO MANY amazing caterers and restaurants ! We were truly impressed and it definitely gave us some inspiration. There was one bakery that had a 2 hour wait to buy their pastries and they’re pretty well known not just in the area but in the vegan community in general.