Post # 31
Just serve food that is naturally vegan (like no soy frankenfood “chick’n”) , and don’t advertise it as vegan. I think a lot of the problems people have with vegans is that they tend to be really preachy about it. Not saying you are!
Post # 32
veganbride1991 : have a vegan wedding. Anyone who thinks otherwise when it’s an ethical choice for you is a jerk. This is not the same thing as jumping on a weird fad diet and insisting your guests adhere to it.
That said, go the ‘real’ route. Serve something that is often vegan anyway. Like Indian food. I defy anyone to be sad about samosas. If it’s at all okay with you, maybe compromise slightly by going vegetarian so guests can have cheese or butter or something (say if you went with pasta). But again, not if it goes entirely against your ethical code.
Post # 33
DogsAndWine : we definitely don’t want to use our wedding as a platform. We really try not to be preachy, but pretty much all of our friends and family know how we eat so it won’t be a surprise
Post # 34
This has been so supportive guys I actually really appreciate this !
Post # 35
Be a good host and offer delicious options for guests, but otherwise – serve what you want. Period.
It’s funny how the people on here are like “only serve ‘normal’ vegan food because tofu and seiten are scary!” – yet they probably have no issues eating the chemically modified “food” at McDonalds
Post # 36
veganbride1991 : I haven’t been to a vegan wedding but I have been to work events with wholly vegan food. In that instance, the person organising (or caterer) made selections that weren’t recognisable and fake substitutes – there was a creamy whip thing but it obviously couldn’t have been cream. It was a weird, unappetitising colour. This event was a flop. On a side note, I also disagree with the person in question using a work event and work funds to push her agenda, especially when it was a meat eating crowd.
I eat quite a few vegan meals and I don’t pretend with fake meat or cheese (I can skip cheese for a few meals). Honestly there’s so many fantastic, filling, flavourful vegan meals that you have the opportunity to really break the stigma around vegan meals. Personally, we chose our wedding breakfast based on what we wanted to eat out of the options. I think most couples do.
Post # 37
twinkie698 : Completely agree. Also, I’m not a vegan, but there’s an Italian restaurant we go to all the time that has the most amazing vegan meatballs. I prefer them to real meatballs actually. I don’t even know what’s in them and I don’t care. So it is possible that the “fake” thing can be just as good if not better than the real thing!
Post # 38
I would feel horrible if I found out that the bride & groom served non vegan products because they thought I’d be displeased. I would never expect someone to go against their morals and ethics to please the crowd. Please do what you feel is ethically and morally right. If anything, if I were attending your wedding, I’d find a new favorite dish! I do eat meat, but I love trying new recipes, including vegan!
Post # 39
twinkie698 : It’s funny how the people on here are like “only serve ‘normal’ vegan food because tofu and seiten are scary!”
No one is saying that at all. But if someone is already worried about what their guests will say, this is the easiest way to AVOID all of that. I don’t think tofu is scary. But I know many people who do. If someone is worried about how her guests will accept the menu, I’d bet she does too.
Post # 40
veganbride1991 : Unpopular wedding.
If you were hosting a meat and cheese-filled wedding for a bunch of vegans, this would be different. But the great thing about not having dietary restrictions is that you can eat anything. I’m sure there are people who wouldn’t know a dish is vegan. I’m wondering how many of these people are stereotyping or being closed minded. I have tried several super yummy vegan dishes. It’s not like vegans are deer, they’re not eating grass. There are ways to hold to your beliefs without shoving kale down everyone’s throats, there are vegan dishes the guests can enjoy too. They don’t have to know it’s vegan.
And TBH I really think anyone attending your wedding should appreciate what they’re given. It’s a free (to them) party. Your guests should love you and support your beliefs. Would a Republican not go to a Democrat’s wedding? Or would a Christian not attend a friend’s Jewish ceremony?
Post # 41
I’ve had incredible vegan food. And I’ve had some that was really not so good. As long as you get a great caterer I think it will be fine. Maybe have a non-vegan do the tasting with you to give you some opinions since your vegan palate may be diffeeent than a meat eaters.
Post # 42
If serving vegan food is an “agenda” why isn’t serving meat also and agenda or pushing your beliefs on people? These comments are so weird.
Post # 43
jellybellynelly : That’s exactly what people are saying though… “serve food that is naturally vegan instead of mock meats/cheese” because non-vegans don’t want to try those foods. And then you literally said that you know some people that think tofu is scary – that’s what is funny to me.
I agree with you that it would be in their best interest when serving a large diverse crowd to have these “normal” vegan food options for their guests, but that doesn’t mean that they can’t also have yummy tofu/seiten/soy/other scary vegan options for those guests that are open minded to trying new things.
People can be so rude/opionated when it comes to food – which is why there are discussions like this where OP is questioning going against her own morals just so she doesn’t offend non-vegan guests.
It’s just plant-based food people! It’s not going to bite! LOL
Post # 44
It is NOT unfair to your guests to have a vegan wedding, as long as you have a decent amount of dishes for people to choose from. I totally get being a vegan due to ethical reasons, it’s why I don’t eat meat. I often wish I didn’t love fish and dairy so much.
Post # 45
I’m not vegan, and honestly I wouldn’t be thrilled it was only vegan food, but I wouldn’t make a big deal of it. That’s what the couple wants so I’d understand that aspect of it.