(Closed) Struggling with new job or starting a family

posted 7 years ago in Career
Post # 3
4494 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I say that unless you have a dire need to have a baby right now (medical issue that may prevent it later, age, etc) then I would go for the job. In the long run the pay increase will be better for your family and you will more likely be happier with the career advancement. I understand not wanting to announce you’re pregnant after 3 months, but it happens. You could always wait a little longer if it would make you feel more comfortable. A year is nothing. Go for it!

Post # 6
2783 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

As someone who was literally in your exact spot (we were going to start trying in the fall, but I got a new job in july), I say see the job thing through.  When you do have the baby you’ll have to take time away (not sure what you get in your state, but in Canada we get a full year off), and then if you plan on having a second relatively close. ..that’s a decent amount of transition ramp-up/ramp-down time in your career, which is therefore time it’s unlikely you’ll be getting a promotion or raise….better to be in the best spot possible going in.

Post # 7
9916 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I would do both.  Start the new job, try to conceive, and see where it takes you.  Even if you start trying to get pregnant immediately AND are successful, you wouldn’t need to take FMLA for another 8 months or so…so you could always just start trying to conceive in a few months instead of right now.  


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