Post # 16
All of the cats I’ve had in my life we rescued as kittens. Our first one was a handful. She liked to attack feet and had the zoomies 24/7. Once she reached “adolescence” she calmed down considerably, and turned out to be the most chill adult cat. I think kittens calm down relatively quickly, at least in my experience.
Post # 17
milkdud : no, plenty of people only get one kitten – you’re not a horrible person. But, it makes it a lot easier on YOU to have two. Just a suggestion. So many people think it’s more work, but it’s actually less work.
But it’s great that you can be home with him, and by September he’ll be able to entertain himself better. Do you have a variety of toys for him? Each cat seems to like a different kind, so it’s fun to get a variety so you can see what he is into.
Just the fact that you are thinking through all of this means you are a great cat mom!
Also…. WHERE THE HECK ARE THE KITTEN PHOTOS!!!!!!!!!! I mean come on, throw us a bone here!
Post # 18
When I got my cat, I was VERY overwhelmed. So much so that I resented her initially. The fact that I had to care for her, despite wanting her so badly and preparing/it was not a rash decision like yours, still really hit me hard. She was a fairly good kitten, but would wake us up in the middle of the night spazzing and biting toes. She grew out of that and now is so needy and screams and always wants attention, but don’t you dare touch her. I have considered getting her a friend, but she hates other animals, so she’s a one pet household kinda gal. I love her so much and even though she’s a lot of work, she’s the best. You’re just adjusting and need to remember like you’ve said he’s still a baby. He will mellow and fall into his routine!
Post # 19
cq123 : “When I got my cat, I was VERY overwhelmed. So much so that I resented her initially. The fact that I had to care for her, despite wanting her so badly and preparing/it was not a rash decision like yours, still really hit me hard.” — This is exactly how I feel. Thank you for that. I wanted him so badly and did so much to prepare, that it really hit me hard when I felt resentful and overwhelmed.
KittyYogi : Thanks for telling me I’m not a horrible cat mom! I know it sounds stupid, but I feel so guilty about not being the best for him. I would love an only cat, but I’m super stressed thinking he’s lonely and miserable. I just want to do the right thing. And here are some pics in his sleeper moments 🙂
editing to add: I have a bunch of toys he likes, and play with him about 3 times a day for 20ish minutes. I also just ordered a few more “self-play” toys on Amazon. I have one of this tiered ball toys that he bats around on his own and likes.
Post # 20
milkdud : man he is CUTE!!! What a little softie! Bee, I promise you your feelings will even out and the overwhelming moments will dissipate. Being a new pet parent isn’t always easy, in fact, I think it’s generally a pretty big transition. The kitten phase kind of sucks, tbh. They’re cute, but that’s about it lol. Give it time! You very well might think back when he is older and find his personality is quite different! Take a step back and don’t focus on your worries- enjoy his cuteness!
ETA: 11 weeks is very young. I got my cat at 15 I believe and would absolutely want another to be that age or older. In a months time, he will be seeming much “older”.
Post # 21
milkdud : aw thank you! cuuuuuuuuuuuute!
Post # 22
Just wanted to chime in and recommend a second kitten. We adopted our first kitten three weeks ago, and even being a lifelong cat owner that was pretty overwhelming for me. She cried at night or whenever we left the room…I felt terrible leaving her to go to the office, but couldn’t be productive at home because she was so needy and I couldn’t focus. Within 5 days we decided we needed to adopt a second, which my partner was originally very apprehensive about. The second we brought the little guy home I knew it was the best thing we could have done. Our girl was much bolder, less needy…they love being with eachother, I don’t have to spend hours playing with them to burn energy because they entertain themselves, and there is absolutely no crying at night or guilt about leaving them. Plenty of cats do perfectly well by themselves so you are absolutely not a bad owner if you don’t want two – but if you can manage it financially, it really reduces the amount you need to do!
Post # 23
I agree with PPs, 2 kittens are easier than one. We got our kitties together and they were able to play and release their energy with each other. and we were comfortable leaving them home alone together. They eventually calmed down after a few months
Post # 24
oh my goodness!! so cute! and you are not a bad cat mom! he looks extremely happy and although 2 cats are better than 1 (in my opinion) there are lots of single cat households that are purrfectly happy. He’ll either grow out of the mischevious phase or you’ll get used to it, just be happy he doesn’t poop on the floor every other day- cats are both the best and the worst lol. but please know that you are being a great cat mom! also just want to add with the toys- my old cat used to love climbing shelves so we actually set up a whole wall of shelves just for her, we put carpeted stair treads on the tops for grip, might be something fun for your guy if you have the space.
Post # 25
I got my cat at 6 months old. She’s always been an only cat. I think by 6 months old she must have grown out of the needy kitten stage by then? I am not sure, because I have never had a very young kitten. She is very independent. Just does her own thing. I rarely have to entertain or play with her, but will she will occasionally cuddle with us when we are sitting on the couch watching tv. She used to like to sleep in the same bed with me, but I stopped letting her in since she throws up more now in her old age and she doesn’t seem to be bothered by that either. No crying or acting out.
Just give it time and I bet your kittty will settle down. Looks like you are doing your best playing with her and providing her with toys.
Post # 26
cq123 : swimslikeacat : acornsandapples : smallbee : summeraby :
Just want to say thank you all for chiming in. You have no idea how much I needed to hear that I’m doing ok, and that everything is normal. It also helps to know that it might be only a few months to a year of the crazy kitten stage. He was a lot calmer today than yesterday, which is already making me feel better. Yesterday he went to the vet and had freedom in the house for the first time, so I just think he went bonkers! Like zero naps.
I am going to give it a few weeks before we decide whether or not to add a second kitten. I want to see how he settles into his new routine before we make the next big decision. If I feel like he’s the type who really needs the companion, we’ll go for it.
I’ve also been leaving him alone for a little longer (like 2-3 hours alone), and he’s been doing great. That calms me down a lot knowing he’s able to keep himself occupied.
Thanks again… sometimes you just need to hear it from someone who’s been there before!
PS I just successfully gave him his flea medicine from the vet- and he sat still in my lap with no issue. Hooray! And he’s eating and pooping like a champ 😉
Post # 27
summeraby : Love the shelf idea! I definitely want to get him some furniture to use to keep him occupied. Maybe I’ll add a few in our place by the windows.
Post # 28
Completely agree with the second kitten idea. Will the breeder let you take one home on a trial basis, say a week or two? I’d definitely ask!
When pets have a companion you won’t feel guilty leaving it and it will get a lot of the attention, playing and love it needs from it’s cat companion with makes it much easier on you.
Oddly enough I just read an article that in Switzerland it’s illegal to own just one Guinean pig, something to be said for same species companionship.
Post # 29
milkdud : I have two cats that were super playful things as kittens. Now sometimes when I try to play with them in the same way I used to as kittens, they give me that hoity look that only cats can give. They then get up and stalk off with their butt in the air letting me know exactly where they place my intelligence level!! 😂 It’s a lot now but you’ll miss their super playful kitten stage soon enough. They are only like this for a really short time.
As for toys. We got our youngest at Christmas time. She loved pulling off our cheap plastic round Christmas baubles off our tree. She’d then spend hours literally thwacking them across the house. The baubles were noisy as they were moved about which made it even more fun for our cat. Our tree came down in the first week of January but we put the baubles dangling from various things in our house for our kitten to discover and play with. It was a really cheap but affective toy for our kitten. She loved it and ur took her 6 months to grow out of it. Seriously reccomend this as a toy option for your cat.
Post # 30
- Wedding: May 2020 - Clarksville, VA
The last three pets I’ve gotten (one cat, two dogs) I’ve felt so overwhelmed at first and wondered if I made a mistake. They are all now the best fur babies ever and I can’t imagine my life without them. It can take a few months to adjust. I was so unsure of my younger dog for ages and now I’m seriously obsessed with him. Six months from now you’ll look back and laugh.