Struggling with picking a dress

posted 3 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
105 posts
Blushing bee

Well I noticed nobody’s replied up til now, so I’ll try to give my own opinion. With emphasis on the word opinion! I’m not an expert on anything!

Looking at the dress, no I do not think it is worth that much money (my opinion!). On the other hand I don’t know what kind of artisanship has really gone into it. It appears to me, to be an Indian-style dress (I could be wrong obviously), so I don’t want to judge the work the same way I would judge a European hand-beaded dress. 

So what I’m saying is, as long as YOU know what went into the beading on that dress, and what materials it is made of, you will be able to judge whether or not it’s really worth that much. But just looking at it, I assumed it was a very cheap dress (mass-produced in a factory and also made of cheap materials). So do your research and ask them exactly what kind of dress it is, and decide yourself.

About alterations to shorten it AND add a bustle, I’m no sewing expert by any means, but just have a look at all the different layers in your skirt. ALL those layers will have to be cut and hemmed to shorten it. Then, ALL those layers will have to be gathered and sewn, possibly in more than one place, to create a decent bustle (if you’re looking for a nice adjustable bustle, I don’t know what kind you want).

So based on that I’m guessing alterations won’t be cheap. I don’t want to say the alterations will cost as much as the dress, but they might easily cost more than half the value of the dress.

But again that’s all just my opinion. (DISCLAIMER!!)

Post # 4
11375 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

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hermionegranger :  it looks great on you! 

Do they have an alterations person who could give you a quote so you could have an idea of a range for alterations? If not, I’d pick  your alterations person and ask them for a ballpark based on the dress and the alterations you feel are needed. 

Post # 5
4023 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Alfred Angelo is the bridal design company that went bankrupt last year (or maybe a little longer) or so. As the PP said I find that dress to look a little cheap. I think it’s the coloring of the appliques that throw me off. Alterations can often cost 100s of dollars. I think you can do better for 800. Look into Allure and Mori Lee. They have similar price ranges to Alfred Angelo. 

Post # 6
2646 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

 If you’re not absolutely sure do not pull the trigger.

IMO you can find something that does you justice better.

You will find a dress that once you put it on you absolutely cannot say no.

Post # 7
105 posts
Blushing bee

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FutureMrsBex :  Went bankrupt? Wow… so could it be that the store is overcharging for the dress? Who knows

Post # 8
1171 posts
Bumble bee

I’ll be honest I don’t think the colour of the lace / embellishments looks that good. It looks old / yellow against the white/ivory background. Also probably because it’s not steamed / ironed, just looks crinkled, of course looks a bit nicer in the stock photo but still, I think you can do better. 

Agree with finding out the alteration costs too. Typically the seamstress would charge by per layer, so the more layers the more expensive it will be. Also if they’re not ordering it in your size (seeing that other PPs said the designer went bankrupt?) it will cost quite a bit too to have taken in to fit your size too if it doesn’t already fit. So I think it will definitely end up costing upwards of $1000 in total taking into account alterations. 

I say keep looking.

Post # 9
16 posts


I agree with the above posts too. There are so many brands around that price range, I’m sure you can find something you love  

As another bride that just spent months looking, if you’re not sure, don’t go for it. I think if you’re already hesitant about spending that much, it’s going to be much worse to spend that much to find that you don’t love your dress. Spending $800 on something you don’t love feels a lot worse than spending $1000 on something you feel great in. (Not saying you need to up your budget in any way.)  I was having a horrible time justifying the money I was going to spend on a dress and even put money down on one and immediately panicked when I got home. I was lucky enough to be able to find something at the same shop so I didn’t lose a deposit. But seriously, when I put on a dress that made me feel great, the money became so much less of an issue. The one I ultimately picked was cheaper than my original dress, and I need minimal alterations as well. So keep looking, you’ll find it! 

Oh, something the shop I went to had me do was take some time off from coming in. I’d had 4 appointments where people came in with me, I liked dresses but ultimately got home and realized they were just “fine”. I took 2 weeks and didn’t even look at dresses at all and then 2 weeks looking online, saving pics of what I liked. I then went back in by myself.  I had tried on so many dresses, I was super confused and no longer really knew what I wanted. That time off did wonders. I found my dress by myself about a month ago and still couldn’t be happier with my choice  

 I think I was having a hard time making sure everyone loved it, not just me.  Sometimes you just need a reset. 

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