Post # 1
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Helper bee
So me and Fiance the whole time being engaged have thought there is NO WAY we are doing a registry. We just don’t see the point in people buying us gifts for us celebrating? Kinda feel that it is that outdated tradition where typically you didn’t live together so you NEEDED items. We are very fortunate that we have everything we NEED, but yeah a nicer microwave etc would be nice. I just don’t feel comfortable with doing it at all! The lady that I work for put up some good points to why we should. So now im debating this, and feeling selfish that I would want to put new kitchen/home items on a list for people to buy us.
Anyways, I am worried that I am going to get a overwhelming number of phone calls of “Where’s your registry? What do you want? We have to get you a gift.” I can’t rattle of the same list to everyone, then i’ll end up with alot of work donating items and/or returning.
Any of you ladies register because you felt like you had to? Or REGRET not doing it because you ended up with a lot of STUFF you didn’t want? (<– Im honestly more worried about stuff, i hate clutter gifts. Lol!)
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
Honestly, if you don’t do a registry a lot of people will probably just give cash.
You could always do a honeymoon registry!
Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
Well, we’re not to the registry point yet, but one of our worries is that we already have a lot of what we need. Dinnerware is the one thing that we will genuinely appreciate, since we’re using FSIL’s old crappy set from her college days. But beyond that, we’ve bought everything ourselves. So I’m not sure how we’re going to tackle that, but I think I’ll end up registering for a lot of upgrades of what I have now.
It does feel weird, knowing that people will be buying us gifts, but gifts are appreciated, not expected. It’s just giving people the option to buy them. If you really feel uncomfortable with it, you could put “in lieu of gifts, please donate to ____ in our names” but be prepared for people to think they know better than you and buy you gifts anyway.
Also, don’t forget you can register for non-traditional things at stores like Target.
Post # 5
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Sugar bee
you could always do a really small registry. Everything will probably be bought right away. once people see it is all sold out they will just give you cash.
Post # 6
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Helper bee
I registered at 3 different places. I can totally guarantee that once you start looking at stuff, unless you two are young millionaires, there will be stuff you will want. Just do it. If you don’t like the stuff from the registry, you can return it later.
I am soooo glad I registered. We actually feel like adults now with all of our stuff!
Post # 7
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Helper bee
And also, if you don’t register, some people just don’t feel comfortable giving money…and you will get tons of stuff that you don’t want (like a step ladder) that cannot be returned!
Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
People are going to want to give you a present, whether you expect/want them to or not. Registering prevents you from getting a bunch of random stuff that you don’t need. Plus, it makes it super-easy for guests to get you something they know you’ll like – they can just pick something off the list!
Post # 9
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Helper bee
Thanks for the advice girls. We are very lucky to have the things we do in our home at a young age, so this is pure guuuuilt thinking about!! But after showing Fiance this i think we may do a small registry list for that kitchen stuff i will never get around to buying.
@Fabulous – Fi was like i would feel so grateful if we even got a step ladder, ummm im not sure that would fit well in our 2 bed apartment! ;p
Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
people will probably bug you if you don’t register, they WANT to buy you things. we had an engagement party and shower, so naturally most of our registry items are already bought. i thought we had a lot of stuff on there too because while i live with my fi, i moved in with him and didn’t come with much, so we don’t have a lot, just what he had from his bachelor pad. he didn’t even own a pan when i met him! we are upgrading everything. after our shower we got complaints that we need to add more to our registry. we wanted to say just give us money, but obviously you can’t say that!
Post # 11
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Helper bee
I agree… people will want to buy you gifts. What about setting up a Charity registry where rather than giving you gifts they donate money in your name to your favorite charity? I think we’ll do a combination of this and a regular registry for the few things we do need (and won’t have the $$ to purchase now b/c of the wedding! ha ha!) http://www.idofoundation.org/welcome/registries/donationregistry.html
Post # 12
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Helper bee
Soon- Well, then it sounds like you answered your own question. Though, okay, one more suggestion… what about a honeymoon registry?
Post # 13
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Bumble bee
We don’t live with each other yet (for religious reasons) so we don’t have anything for our future apartment. So all the gifts will be gladly accepted. We went the other day to register at Target. It was SO much fun. After signing up they give you a ‘scanner guns’ and you walk around the store picking items that you want as gifts. The whole experience is just fun! You should try it.
