(Closed) Struggling with the idea of registry

posted 9 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper

Honestly, if you don’t do a registry a lot of people will probably just give cash.

You could always do a honeymoon registry!

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

Well, we’re not to the registry point yet, but one of our worries is that we already have a lot of what we need. Dinnerware is the one thing that we will genuinely appreciate, since we’re using FSIL’s old crappy set from her college days. But beyond that, we’ve bought everything ourselves. So I’m not sure how we’re going to tackle that, but I think I’ll end up registering for a lot of upgrades of what I have now. 

It does feel weird, knowing that people will be buying us gifts, but gifts are appreciated, not expected. It’s just giving people the option to buy them. If you really feel uncomfortable with it, you could put “in lieu of gifts, please donate to ____ in our names” but be prepared for people to think they know better than you and buy you gifts anyway. 

Also, don’t forget you can register for non-traditional things at stores like Target. 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

you could always do a really small registry.  Everything will probably be bought right away.  once people see it is all sold out they will just give you cash.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I registered at 3 different places. I can totally guarantee that once you start looking at stuff, unless you two are young millionaires, there will be stuff you will want. Just do it. If you don’t like the stuff from the registry, you can return it later.

I am soooo glad I registered. We actually feel like adults now with all of our stuff!

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

And also, if you don’t register, some people just don’t feel comfortable giving money…and you will get tons of stuff that you don’t want (like a step ladder) that cannot be returned!

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

People are going to want to give you a present, whether you expect/want them to or not. Registering prevents you from getting a bunch of random stuff that you don’t need. Plus, it makes it super-easy for guests to get you something they know you’ll like – they can just pick something off the list!

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

people will probably bug you if you don’t register, they WANT to buy you things. we had an engagement party and shower, so naturally most of our registry items are already bought. i thought we had a lot of stuff on there too because while i live with my fi, i moved in with him and didn’t come with much, so we don’t have a lot, just what he had from his bachelor pad. he didn’t even own a pan when i met him! we are upgrading everything. after our shower we got complaints that we need to add more to our registry. we wanted to say just give us money, but obviously you can’t say that!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I agree… people will want to buy you gifts.  What about setting up a Charity registry where rather than giving you gifts they donate money in your name to your favorite charity?  I think we’ll do a combination of this and a regular registry for the few things we do need (and won’t have the $$ to purchase now b/c of the wedding!  ha ha!)   http://www.idofoundation.org/welcome/registries/donationregistry.html

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Soon- Well, then it sounds like you answered your own question. Though, okay, one more suggestion… what about a honeymoon registry?

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We don’t live with each other yet (for religious reasons) so we don’t have anything for our future apartment. So all the gifts will be gladly accepted. We went the other day to register at Target. It was SO much fun. After signing up they give you a ‘scanner guns’ and you walk around the store picking items that you want as gifts. The whole experience is just fun! You should try it.

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