Post # 1
The wedding is a little under 4 months away and I still have NO idea if I want to take Fiance last name or keep mine. This is horrible to say out loud but.. I dislike the sound of his last name and I really like mine because attached to it is my Greek heritage. I am between changing my last name to my middle and taking his as my last, keeping mine or just taking his. He isn’t pressuring me at all, he says he will support whatever I choose but would rather have his wife carry his last name. I love the idea of the tradition and sharing the same name with our future children, but I am having such a hard time thinking of letting go of my maiden name! Any other bees struggle with that? If so what did you do? I’m torn.
Post # 3
@krrmee5: Have you considered making a new name? I love that idea because I feel like I am not joining FI’s family any more then he is joining mine, and above all us we are making a new family. Im actually quite passionate about this but Fiance wont have a bar of it
Post # 4
I wish! I would absolutely love that, but mine wouldn’t go for it either. He is very traditional and loves his last name, which I respect. Why does this decision have to be so hard!?
Post # 5
If you want to keep your last name, keep it. If he’s okay with you not having the same last name as him, that’s fine. Don’t worry about future children, nobody will think twice when they find you you have a different last name than your kids.
Post # 6
- Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand
I struggled with this decision for a while because I love the tradition of taking your husband’s last name but the combination of my first name and his last name sounded like a cartoon character. I eventually decided to hyphenate. I made it clear I wanted out future kids to also have the hyphenated name so hubby chose to change his last name as well 🙂 side note: he actually wanted to change his last name to mine but I felt awkward about that
Post # 7
don’t worry about the name thing, I’ve always had a different last name then my mom and it’s never hurt me. It’s actually been benificial in ways, because I can list her as a reference, and no one knows she’s my mom haha