Struggling with this!

posted 3 months ago in Proposals
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

lasvegasguy12 :  Wearing a fake flashy ring will also bring attention, a lot of criminals prowling the streets looking for an opportunity to prey on a tourist won’t be able to tell if it’s real or fake from afar. So in that regard, the stand in ring doens’t make sense IMO.

My husband proposed to me on an overseas trip, he hid the ring in a sock in his suitcase and then kept it in the safe up until the proposal. I think I would have been pretty disapointed if I had to wear a fake ring and see the real one once we got back home. 

Just my opinion..

ETA If you decide to bring the real ring, make sure to get insurance on it first. I mean even if you don’t take it with you on the trip, get insurance if you haven’t already.

Post # 3
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Blushing bee

I wouldn’t propose with the fake replica you posted. If you don’t want to bring the real deal, I would present her with a beautiful, simple thin band (in the same type of metal you used for her engagement ring) -with or without diamonds. After she gets the real ring, she could wear the thin band on her right hand or stack it with her engagement ring. She will have a nice memento from the trip, it will be unassuming and it will still be a quality piece of jewelry she can wear forever. 

Post # 4
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Newbee

As a woman, I think I’d prefer to have momories of the proposal with a real ring, but I wouldn’t be too upset if it was a fake one.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

Another vote for proposing with the real ring. Get it insured and propose early on in the trip. Make sure it’s the correct size before proposing so she can wear it without fear of it slipping off, or not fitting and having to leave it in the safe in the room. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

Another vote for proposing with the real ring. Get it insured and propose early on in the trip. Make sure it’s the correct size before proposing so she can wear it without fear of it slipping off, or not fitting and having to leave it in the safe in the room. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

I personally would be terrified wearing flashy jewellery overseas. Especially in a country with a relatively high crime rate. If you take the ring, maybe ask she doesn’t wear it when you’re in public? Or at least, I wouldn’t need asking. I’m a scaredy cat and would straight up die if something happened to it 

Post # 8
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Blushing bee

Are you staying in a big all inclusive hotel in Punta Cana? If so, I really wouldn’t worry about being mugged/having it stolen. It’s extremely safe inside hotel grounds or out on boat trips out. I would have no fears wearing my ring there and it’s worth £10k. I was actually proposed to abroad, and my bf snuck the ring into the safe beforehand – luckily I didn’t see it!

Side note – I think $100 is a lot for a fake ring. I bought a fake ring to take on holiday when I went to Myanmar for 2 weeks, and we were travelling around a lot. It cost me £15 ($20?) from Accessorize, and looked completely legit. But bear in mind that your future fiance might want to take beautiful ring pictures on the beach, and might be sad to not have the real deal there.

So I would either get a cheaper fake, or get insurance and take the real one. 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

lasvegasguy12 :  Fear not: your fiancee won’t be the first woman ever to wear a diamond ring in the Dominican Republic undecided.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2020

I would take the real ring and make sure it is insured.  If she isn’t comfortable wearing it afterwards, she can put it in the safe.  $100 can go towards food and entertainment on your trip!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

claroquesi :  This. Punta Cana is a super popular honeymoon destination. Do you realize how many new brides (and grooms) flash around their new diamonds? 

I would 100% bring the real ring, proposals like you are describing are pretty common and plenty of people pack them. You shouldn’t be concerned about customs, if anything just put it very securely in your carry-on (which I recommend, so that way you have a slim chance of misplacing it or it getting stolen). I’m also assuming you’re staying in a resort, so placing it in a safe as PP said is a great option for when you aren’t in your room. 

Post # 12
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Blushing bee

It seems counterintuitive to use a big and flashy fake ring for fear of being robbed over a big flashy real ring.

 

A robber scoping you out wouldn’t be able to tell the difference until they’ve already mugged you for it.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Use the real ring. My husband took my 1-carat $8K ring from the U.S. to London to propose and it was just fine. As long as the ring is insured, I wouldn’t worry about it. Once she has the ring, I am assuming your wife will take it with her on vacations, to beaches, and for traveling abroad anyway. Just take all your usual precautions.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee

My fiancé proposed with a stand in ring because he wanted me to pick out my “real” engagement ring, which was so thoughtful. The proposal ring was not expensive (maybe $100?) but the design was of my favorite animal and so it was personal and had a lot of sentimental value. I wore it happily for a few weeks until the diamond ring came in, and now I still wear it on my right hand because it means so much to me as the actual ring he proposed with. Plus it’s cute and I love it! 🙂

So if you don’t want to bring the real ring on your trip, I’d get a totally different inexpensive ring that maybe she’ll even continue wearing. It could be just a plain band or maybe her birthstone, or something else she likes. Oh and bring a picture of the real one! 🙂 

lasvegasguy12 :  

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

Aw man, Normally I would say to just insure the ring and bring it but one of our good friends got his ring stolen out of his room in the Dominican BEFORE he got to propose even. They also took some cash and other jewelry, so its not like he just lost it, it was actually stolen. From an all-inclusive. If I were you, I’d just propose before you go. Then you can celebrate on the trip. Make sure the ring is insured and its hidden or put in the safe in the room. 

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