(Closed) Stuck

posted 5 years ago in Vow Renewals
Post # 3
4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

What jerks, I’m sorry you had to deal with that! And what you said to them was dead on – having a private ceremony that is just about the two of you is pretty much the most UNselfish way out there to do it! I think your plan sounds very nice, and I hope that you don’t have to deal with any more grief over it.

Post # 4
746 posts
Busy bee

Your vow renewal ceremony is a celebration of your relationship. It’s a shame that your family doesn’t want to participate, but it shouldn’t stop the two of you from enjoying your vow renewal plans. 

It’s not uncommon at all for family and friends to feel put out by being asked to spend money to attend a vow renewal or destination wedding in an exotic location. I know it’s hard not to take it personally, but try not to! 

Post # 6
679 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015


If your family was not at your first wedding, then I could see why they would be hurt. I don’t think you are being selfish at all; I just think that you may want to consider their feelings even if you don’t agree with them. I would also advise against speaking to your in-laws as angrily as you did and hanging up on them. That is rude and only fans the flames.

My Mother-In-Law has said some inappropriate things to me. I show everyone that I have more class than she does by refusing to respond.

My husband and I eloped when I got married. Our vow renewal will include my family because I know they were very hurt when I eloped. My husband’s family had a party for us on our one year anniversary and my Brother-In-Law is a loose cannon, so we are not inviting them.

The topic ‘Stuck’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors