(Closed) Stuck between a rock and a hard place…

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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198 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I would most definitely wait until you’ve received your money. If he is already being ugly towards to when you reminded him about his end of the agreement, chances are he may become even uglier and decide not to pay you. Of course there would be steps you could take to rectify that, but there’s no point in it turning into a knock down drag out fight if it doesn’t have to. I think I’d grin and bear it (bare it…?) for the time being until you are paid every last dime that you are owed.

I’m sorry you are going through this.

Post # 4
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2892 posts
Sugar bee

I would keep quiet till you have money in hand…after that? I’d let my bitch flag fly and cut them out of my life. The reason I say that is because, in my experience, ugly people get uglier once they’re “punished.” They typically don’t have epiphanies, realize their wrongdoing, and amend the behavior. Most likely, they’d simply use your actions as fuel for their fire to justify any subsequent nasty behavior which would probably involve you NOT getting paid.

Sorry you’re going through this. I don’t know about the legal process but if they still fail to pay you can you take them to small claims court and take the ring back? 

Post # 5
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2892 posts
Sugar bee

Actually, I’d just ask for the ring back. I read back to your old posts and saw that the ring was less than $500 (no point in court for that). I’d give them a little time then knock on the door and tell them you want the ring in your hand since they don’t want to pay. If you’re not concerned about losing the relationship then, to me, it’s a fair request. It wasn’t a gift and is technically YOUR property.

Post # 6
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198 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I like the idea of taking the ring back, but I don’t think that would work, honestly. I think you’d get the door slammed in your face.

Post # 7
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7208 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

Stay quiet at least until the tax refund comes in. If it seems they have no plan to pay you back with that, take them to small claims court. It’s ugly, but if they aren’t even acting sorry they can’t pay then you have to do what you have to do.

Post # 8
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418 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@Nona99:  I’m sorry; this sounds terrible.  I am a little confused as to why your sister hasn’t stepped up to the plate, considering it was an arrangement made between her Fiance and you (I’m assuming?!).  I would DEFINITELY wait to cease communication via phone, facebook, etc until after you’ve been reimbursed.  This may cause more tension and they may be more reluctant to reimburse you.

I certaintly hope it works out for you.  And seriously, what’s the deal with your sister?  Perhaps, sitting down with her and talking to her may help sort this out without any conflict?

Best of luck!

Post # 10
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1765 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Wow, that’s awful. I’d wait for the tax refund to come in.. and hopefully you get your money. If not, I agree with what an above poster said. Just ask for the ring back. If you bought it, it’s yours. It really sucks when people change. It’s honestly better to cut out toxic family members in my opinion. My mom has an awful sister, and finally they had a falling out last year and it’s finally been peaceful in our family. Life is too short to be wasting it on people who just want to use you or not treat you well, family or not. 

Post # 11
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198 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I read back over some of your previous posts to get more of the story, and I’m curious…is the $330 or however much is still owed worth it? Yes it SUCKS to do something nice for someone only to have them stab you in the back, but don’t you think you’d have a lot less stress in your life if you just let this one go and cut off all contact with them? $300 is a lot of money to me on any day of the week, but I guess it is up to you to figure out what is worth more; the money or your level of stress over the issue. If she doesn’t call you or make an effort to stay involved with you or what’s going on in your life anymore, chances are that cutting off contact will be easier than you think. No, you probably won’t get your money back, which sucks, but you know she won’t expect you to pay for this or that for her wedding or provide services for free, such as the hair and make-up on her wedding day.

Post # 12
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1684 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Unfortunately I’ve never been in a situation like this where I’ve gotten my money back.  An ex owed me $1K.

At the end, I decided it was worth that much to me to never have to speak to him again.

I hope you have better luck!

Post # 13
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1686 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I would wait until you have confirmation on them getting the cash, in hopes that they may actually give it back to you.  If they still don’t pay up I’d probably cut my losses and cut them out of my life.  $500 isn’t worth it, if she clearly doesn’t think you are.

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