Post # 1
For those of you reading along, the money situation with my sister’s Fiance over her engagement ring and him repaying me have reached a dissapointing and uneventful stalemate.
After goading and prodding him with texts, finally adding my sister into the loop and getting a response that basically says, when we have the money, we’ll pay you and that’s it….I’m pretty defeated by the whole thing.
Looks like I’m stuck holding the bag until THEY decide they want to pay me…luckily Dad is in on the whole thing, and promised to let me know as soon as their tax return gets in…so at least I’ll know when that $$ is there, and he’ll push them to pay…but I have to wait it out, they aren’t willing to lift a finger to help me in any way until then…and that hurts, a lot.
Not to mention he got pretty nasty with me toward the end of all this, when I reminded him that I agreed to no such arrangement, he was supposed to make payments and didn’t so this is just what I’m being offered, so I’m stuck.
Hopefully this whole thing gets resolved sooner or later, but my question is this. I have no desire to see or speak to either of them again, and apart from receiving the money they owe me, there is no need for further interaction, as it only upsets me and makes all the things I’ve done for both of them seem like I was being used…so, would you just get it over with, let them know that Mr. 99 and my’s participation in the wedding is not going to happen any longer and block them from all the social networks so that I can put them out of my mind and lick my wounds in private…or do I hold out until I get paid?
Post # 3
I would most definitely wait until you’ve received your money. If he is already being ugly towards to when you reminded him about his end of the agreement, chances are he may become even uglier and decide not to pay you. Of course there would be steps you could take to rectify that, but there’s no point in it turning into a knock down drag out fight if it doesn’t have to. I think I’d grin and bear it (bare it…?) for the time being until you are paid every last dime that you are owed.
I’m sorry you are going through this.
Post # 4
I would keep quiet till you have money in hand…after that? I’d let my bitch flag fly and cut them out of my life. The reason I say that is because, in my experience, ugly people get uglier once they’re “punished.” They typically don’t have epiphanies, realize their wrongdoing, and amend the behavior. Most likely, they’d simply use your actions as fuel for their fire to justify any subsequent nasty behavior which would probably involve you NOT getting paid.
Sorry you’re going through this. I don’t know about the legal process but if they still fail to pay you can you take them to small claims court and take the ring back?
Post # 5
Actually, I’d just ask for the ring back. I read back to your old posts and saw that the ring was less than $500 (no point in court for that). I’d give them a little time then knock on the door and tell them you want the ring in your hand since they don’t want to pay. If you’re not concerned about losing the relationship then, to me, it’s a fair request. It wasn’t a gift and is technically YOUR property.
Post # 6
I like the idea of taking the ring back, but I don’t think that would work, honestly. I think you’d get the door slammed in your face.
Post # 7
Stay quiet at least until the tax refund comes in. If it seems they have no plan to pay you back with that, take them to small claims court. It’s ugly, but if they aren’t even acting sorry they can’t pay then you have to do what you have to do.
Post # 8
@Nona99: I’m sorry; this sounds terrible. I am a little confused as to why your sister hasn’t stepped up to the plate, considering it was an arrangement made between her Fiance and you (I’m assuming?!). I would DEFINITELY wait to cease communication via phone, facebook, etc until after you’ve been reimbursed. This may cause more tension and they may be more reluctant to reimburse you.
I certaintly hope it works out for you. And seriously, what’s the deal with your sister? Perhaps, sitting down with her and talking to her may help sort this out without any conflict?
Best of luck!
Post # 9
@Janaic88: I don’t even know her anymore…she used to be my best friend in the whole world…now I seriously doubt she would squat to piss in my mouth if my gums were on fire…she knows about all of this, and neither of them will actually talk to me, it’s all text messages, like teenagers…I’m done, I just want my money and them out of my life….it sucks
Post # 10
Wow, that’s awful. I’d wait for the tax refund to come in.. and hopefully you get your money. If not, I agree with what an above poster said. Just ask for the ring back. If you bought it, it’s yours. It really sucks when people change. It’s honestly better to cut out toxic family members in my opinion. My mom has an awful sister, and finally they had a falling out last year and it’s finally been peaceful in our family. Life is too short to be wasting it on people who just want to use you or not treat you well, family or not.
Post # 11
I read back over some of your previous posts to get more of the story, and I’m curious…is the $330 or however much is still owed worth it? Yes it SUCKS to do something nice for someone only to have them stab you in the back, but don’t you think you’d have a lot less stress in your life if you just let this one go and cut off all contact with them? $300 is a lot of money to me on any day of the week, but I guess it is up to you to figure out what is worth more; the money or your level of stress over the issue. If she doesn’t call you or make an effort to stay involved with you or what’s going on in your life anymore, chances are that cutting off contact will be easier than you think. No, you probably won’t get your money back, which sucks, but you know she won’t expect you to pay for this or that for her wedding or provide services for free, such as the hair and make-up on her wedding day.
Post # 12
Unfortunately I’ve never been in a situation like this where I’ve gotten my money back. An ex owed me $1K.
At the end, I decided it was worth that much to me to never have to speak to him again.
I hope you have better luck!
Post # 13
I would wait until you have confirmation on them getting the cash, in hopes that they may actually give it back to you. If they still don’t pay up I’d probably cut my losses and cut them out of my life. $500 isn’t worth it, if she clearly doesn’t think you are.