- 9 years ago
- Wedding: June 2011
Okay huge post here but bear with me Hive! I was hoping I could make it through the engagement without any guest drama, but unfortunately it doesn’t look like it’ll end up that way.
I’m having some huge regret about inviting my “friend”/coworker (who is my supervisor and helped me get this job.) We knew each other as acquaintances before I got hired but were never really interested in becoming better friends. She mentioned the job opening about 8 months ago and then got me an interview. Because of her recommendation I was hired immediately. I absolutely love this job, my boss, and my other coworkers…but over the course of the 8 months I’ve been working here, I’ve had some issues with my “friend” and her attitude.
The majority of the time we get along pretty well. We work very closely so we see each other most of the day and chit chat about a lot of things including the wedding. She even bought me The Knot wedding planner book after I got engaged. But…
She can have a very immature, rude and know-it-all attitude with me. Any mistake I make is pointed out with a snotty tone and look. If I get frustrated or need to vent about anything work related I’m usually told to either deal with it or get over it (quite the opposite rule for her though- she can go on and on about boyfriend trouble, work trouble, any trouble. And if I complain about any personal drama she acts very disinterested and eventually changes the subject back to her). Heaven forbid if I need to take a day off. She pouted and then ignored me the day I was sick and really needed to skip work. She eventually rubbed it in my face the following week.
The last straw was last Friday when she purposefully tried to make me look bad in front of our boss. I’m given a 30 minute break before she leaves for the day and last week she came up about 15 minutes late. She told me I could take my break and I waited in the lobby, assuming that she would let me know when she was ready to go home. She was closing up some FedEx that needed to go out and I figured I would just finish them up once she left, not thinking about what time it was. Our boss came in a minute or two later and asked why I wasn’t helping her. When I explained I was on my break my coworker immediately snapped “Your break was over 10 minutes ago. I was waiting for you to come up and tell me I could go home.” WHAT!? You’re MY supervisor! When have I ever had to tell you to go home??? Right away I retaliated with how she’s never had to wait for me to tell her she could leave and that she knows I can finish whatever she’s been working on once her shift is up. She just made a face and shrugged. I was so angry I was ready to quit right there.
I donâ€™t see anything thatâ€™s happened as enough reason to speak with my boss just yet, but if things continue to get worse I may have to. Itâ€™s not about my feelings but about having a healthy work environment. As far as wedding things go, Iâ€™m extremely regretful that Iâ€™ve invited her to the wedding. Iâ€™ve never actually said it or given her an invitation but I did ask for her address the other day which Iâ€™m sure she assumes means sheâ€™s getting an invite- besides the fact that Iâ€™ve already invited my boss and my other coworker. It would make things very uncomfortable if they received invites and she didnâ€™t. I initially invited her because like I said, the majority of the time we get along very well. We laugh, joke and just talk in general quite a lot. But her attitude has gotten worse over time and it is not a quality I would want in a friend. Itâ€™s funny because things will be fine for a while and then sheâ€™ll suddenly get very snotty with me out of seemingly nowhere. Itâ€™s very confusing to say the least. Iâ€™m at a complete loss of what to do. If I donâ€™t invite her I risk having work become a complete hell. If I do, I know Iâ€™ll look back at my photos and regret having someone there who can make me feel so bad. I know there isnâ€™t much I can do in this situation but I guess I just needed to vent =/