(Closed) Stuck between my family and my non-proposing SO!

posted 4 years ago in Waiting
Post # 46
Member
3029 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

What I see is a bunch of people trying to impose their beliefs regarding critically important life choices on you. Your parents think you should wait until marriage to live with someone. Your boyfriend thinks that living togther is an important thing to do before marriage. How about you? What do you think? 

Think hard about the life you want and go live it. If that means moving in with your boyfriend and pissing off your parents, go do that! If it means staying at home until you marry and pissing off your boyfriend, go do that instead! Oh, and there’s always Option 3 of doing neither and moving out on your own for awhile to discover yourself. Remember that none of these people get to live your life and deal with the positive and negative consequences of your action or inaction, you do. 

Good luck hun… I was in a similar situation (though not with a high school sweetheart; I met Darling Husband when I was 20), and there was just no way to make everybody happy. So I made myself happy. 🙂 No regrets! 

Post # 47
Member
4253 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

ringfever123:  So HE’S ok financially, but my point is that YOU need to be ok financially too.  Independent of each other, you need to be financially secure.  In other words, I wouldn’t move in with him until YOU are able to afford your own place on your own.  It is honestly waaaay risky to move in with him and he pays for almost everything.  I’m more worried about YOUR financial stability.  Trust me on that, it’s so very important.

Post # 48
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2006 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

ringfever123:  after 9 1/2 years at 24 and 25, I’d want a ring and proposal before moving in. I agree with the others, he’s making excuses!  Interesting user name you have of ringfever, clearly you want a ring too. Don’t settle girl!

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