- 1 year ago
- Wedding: February 2020
It’s happened. The thing I was fearing above all in my venue search: I am hopelessly stuck between two venue options!
This weekend I toured venues up in Maine, and now I have narrowed it down to 2. I’d love unbiased opinions on my situation as my loved ones have been great, but are all repeating the “Whatever you want!” line.
Things to keep in mind: This will be a winter (February) wedding in Maine. Road conditions/weather is somewhat unpredictable around this time, but both venues are off major highways so roads *shouldn’t be* too bad even in a storm. Family are coming mostly from Maine and western Mass. Most guests will require accommodations.
Option 1: Seaside Resort
PROS: Being at a resort, I won’t have to worry about guests traveling the day of the wedding from the venue/reception back to their hotels (should they stay at the resort). The DOC was so nice and they seemed really flexible about vendors and alterations to the package. The venue was definitely pretty and I was excited that the carpet matched my ideal wedding colors (light blue, white, and silver/gold). Cake costs were also included in the package, so that’s one less vendor I’d have to worry about. She was willing to pencil me in without a deposit for a few weeks while I decided, so like I said, really accomodating and willing to work with me. It is also the cheaper option of the two by about $3,000 estimated out of a total wedding budget of $20,000.
CONS: There isn’t a great ceremony space option. The reception room would be shared with the ceremony space and would be switched over during cocktail hour (as would the other venue), however the ceremony space is rather bland. We would be allowed to bring in our own archway if we wanted and liven it up as much as we would like, but really, it’s just in front of some double doors.
Option 2: Elegant Barn
PROS: There’s no denying it–this place is stunning. Big WOW factor. This venue also has a DOC as well as taking on all decoration set-up (even DIY centerpieces). They specialize in weddings and have the day planned down to a T. While this could be a negative with the limited flexibility, I won’t lie that it would be nice to let someone else take the reigns fully. The ceremony space in front of the fireplace is so beautiful too.
CONS: It is not a hotel/resort, so guests will have to travel day of. There are hotels less than 10 minutes away, however I plan to be staying about 25 minutes away. They do offer transportation via buses (school buses, haha), but that would be an extra $800 for 2 in itself. Also, cake is not included in the package unlike option 1. The DOC was friendly but as I said, I got the vibe that the package was not customizable. They would bend on the bar situation (we’re playing with the idea of an open tab for our guests, but with a limit), but they won’t distinguish it between beer and wine and top-shelf liquors, it would just be open to all (Option 1 would let us do it however we want). Also, this venue over-all would be about $3,000 more.
Both venues have pretty equal packages such as tables, chairs, linens, food, and drinks offered. Honestly, it’s pretty much the same. Both have rave reviews about food and day of experiences. While one is pricier than the other, both fit in our budget.
I am so torn! Help!