(Closed) Stuck in a rut! – Please help Bees!!!

posted 11 years ago in Fitness
Post # 3
199 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I am sorry, I know your feeling, I am 5’4 and feel heavier than others my height but everyone tells me I am not that big, I compare myself to the bigger girls. I gained a lot of weight when FH got back from Iraq because we are foodies and we eat everything and anything. I don’t have any advice other than just focus on your dress and what you want your body to look like. It has worked for me, I am still working on my arm and sometimes I do get disappointed because I see no change but I have a picture of my dress in my purse and I pull it out everytime I feel like that. Actually, these past few weeks I think I have gained some weight again, I feel bad but I just go back to my dress and that gives me more than enough motivation.

Post # 4
33 posts
  • Wedding: October 2019

I try to use this mantra in my own life:

"Nothing tastes as good as being thin feels!"

I’ve struggled with weight issues my entire life, and what works for me is thinking about exactly what I’m eating, why I’m eating it, and if I can find a healthier option.  Doesn’t work all the time, but I’m able to regain my will power when I am in this mind set. 

Also, try Weight Watchers.  They have a healthy approach to lifetime wellness.

Post # 6
199 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Oh, I also carry a picture of my shoes too. I know I am psycho but I really love my shoes.

Post # 7
364 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I second weight watchers.  I’ve yo-yoed, been an exercise anorexic, been obese class II and WW has been the only thing to help repair my food/weight/health issues.  I’ve lost almost 25 lbs in 3 months and I’m thrilled with the habits I’m forming and learning.  It is a very supportive and accepting atmosphere.  I’d suggest going to the meetings.



Post # 9
58 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m going to third Weight Watchers.  I’m 4’10" on a good day, and unfortunately, when you’re petite, every pound shows.  I tried everything, but Weight Watchers was the only thing to really give me perspective on a lifestyle change, and the weekly weigh ins were motivation to not go off the deep end during the week.  I even chose Sunday as my weigh in day to avoid weekend temptation.  Over the course of 5 months I lost 20lbs, and for the first time in my life was a size 2.  That was 2 years ago, and I have never gotten more than 5lbs over my goal weight now that I get portions and the benefits of excercise.   Good luck and hang in there. 

Post # 10
739 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009 - Red Fish Grill

It’s great that you’re realizing there’s something you want/need to change.  That’s not always easy, especially when it means dramatically adapting your lifestyle.

I think the most imporant issue here is getting you healthy.  If you have a medical condition that is aggravated by certain foods, definitely address that first.  Especially with an upcoming wedding, you’ll want to feel your best so that you can enjoy every moment!  Maybe you can consult with your doctor and a registered dietician to help put together a plan (with creative, tasty recipes) to help you get on track with regard to food.

Not to get too Jillian Michaels (who I love!), but if you notice a correlation between food and emotions, discussing things with a counselor will help to figure out what the underlying issues are.

I think a support system is a very powerful tool.  That’s a lot of the reason why Weight Watchers is so effective.  Not everyone can do it alone.  Having people with a common goal encouraging and keeping each other accountable is so important.  I know that if I didn’t train with my running partners, my lazy behind would probably sleep in for most of our Saturday long runs.  Knowing that they’re up at the crack of dawn, too, makes me feel better.  (I guess misery does love company!)

With regard to workouts and exercise, keeping a schedule really helps me.  I log my hours and miles, which is a great motivator on those days that I think I can’t do something.  Keep a journal of what you do and how you feel, and over time, you’ll see how far you’ve come!

I’d say set small goals and have rewards for each one.  Buy yourself a new lipstick after a week of sticking to your diet.  Treat yourself to a manicure after a month straight of packing your lunch.  Maybe a new skirt when you hit the 5 lbs. lost mark.  Kind of like gold star stickers for grown-ups!  :o)

Lastly, if you have a bad day (or week) and slip up, it’s OK!  Just dust yourself off and keep going!

Post # 12
45 posts
  • Wedding: June 2009

Look at it this way: When you eat junk, you feel crappy. When you eat healthy, you feel better.

Rather than dieting to look thinner, diet because it lessens your digestive problems. If you happen to lose weight in the process, all the better, but if your body hates you for eating junk you should listen to it. I’m not saying to tackle as strict a diet as you did before (sans gluten, dairy, yeast etc) but cutting out processed food is a great change. No matter what your weight is when you get married, you want to look and feel healthy.

And remember to treat yourself once in a while too…the more you think you’re depriving yourself, the more likely you are to eat crap every day. A tiny bit of fried chicken never hurt


Post # 13
303 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Definitely focus on the medical issues. That’s what forced me to stop eating all the crap I’ve been eating. I try to manage my protein and make sure it’s 25% of my daily intake, get 2 veggies, 3 fruits, and watch my sodium, cholesterol, and calorie intake. That sounds like a LOT but if you get on a calorie counter website (I use thedailyplate.com), it’ll automatically show you all that stuff. It has REALLY helped me!! I practically don’t have room in my diet for unnatural, overprocessed foods. Oh, and I only drink water, milk, and V8 fruit juices.

Having a support system is definitely helpful. Posting on here can be therapeutic- talking to others about how you’re feeling is good- my Fiance has really be amazing as I’ve struggled with the past few weeks of getting on and sticking to my new way of eating. It’s been rough.

The best of luck to you!!

Post # 15
235 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I think you need to sit down and have a conversation with your Fiance about this.  It sounds like he is a big part of derailing your healthy eating efforts – and its true for most women.  Having a support system is crucial.  If you live together, make rules about what foods are allowed in the house.  He is allowed to have any snack food he wants, as long as he hides it effectively or it is barbeque flavored.  I think you need to explan to your Fiance that the lifestyle you are leading is not good for your digestion, and that being miserable about your weight is making you really unhappy.  For a long time, I didn’t talk to my Fiance about how unhappy I was about my weight, because he would always just say "but you’re not fat" like he was "supposed" to, and we could never have a serious conversation about how unhappy I was.  Once we started talking about it, he agreed to be supportive of my healthy eating efforts.  

Maybe you could try taking a couple of healthy cooking classes together instead of going out to restaurants, and you could cut down to one night out a week instead of 2-3.  My Fiance and I go out once a week, max, and have cut down on the snack food in the house.   You sholud consider WW or talking to a nutritionist.  There are plenty of sweet foods out there that are still somewhat healthy, and that might be a good solution for you.  

Post # 16
24 posts
  • Wedding: May 2015

I absolutely relate to your situation. Every time I splurge on junk food I feel weak, like I lost all discipline over myself. 

I think you should come clean to your fiance about your eating problems and ask him to support you in creating new healthy eating habits. It can be much easier to work toward your goal when you have someone cheering you on. In your case this is not just a vanity concern but a legitimate health issue.

Try planning your meals in advance so your not rushed into eating whatever is available, usually junk food.

You might also think about any emotional issues that may be contributing to your lack of motivation to get healthy. Their are so many great self help books about this issue. Your local library is sure to have a plethora of resources.

I’m sure you can get over this, you just need to be patient with yourself. Try changing a few habits at a time. Like drinking water instead of soft-drinks, not eating late at night etc etc. Even if you relapse, remind yourself of your goals and get back on track.

Good Luck 

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