Post # 1
- Wedding: November 2018 - City Hall
My fiance keeps telling me to do whatever makes me happy, so I’m stuck in deciding what to do by myself and it’s becoming really overwhelming, thank goodness it isn’t a full blown wedding!
We’re getting married in the courthouse and I’m having trouble deciding what to do next. Courthouse weddings are in the AM, it opens at 8:00 am specifically, and I have no idea what time I’ll get out of the courthouse to properly plan. We could be the only couple that day and get out at 8:30 am, or there could be 10 people before us and get out at 12 pm. I’d love getting out for lunchtime because what I’d like to do is get married then have lunch either at a restaurant or at my home. There’s a total of 12 of us so catering to my home or a restaurant isn’t going to be super bad for our budget, the only thing is that I can’t make a reservation without knowing what time and I wouldn’t like to be getting catering for lunch and us be done at 9 am.
Now some of you might recommend getting there a bit later, but then I risk not being seen if there are too many couples because they stop at 4 pm. So if I’m like, number 13, and number 12 gets married at 3:50, I’m out of luck! I can’t get married. We have family flying from out of the country and literally leaving the day after, so not getting married is not an option lol Since that’s the most important part!
I’m just feeling overwhelmed in what to do. I suck at planning. What would you bees do? Yes I’m having a courthouse wedding but I still want it to feel special, my father recommended going to Denny’s because it’s both breakfast and dinner but I don’t want to go to Denny’s for my wedding. I don’t need a 5-star restaurant, but, not Denny’s lol Not that there’s anything wrong with it, just not what I’d like.
My fiance just told me we’ll worry about it when the day comes, but we’re 12 people, I wouldn’t like to get to the restaurant and not be able to be seated, I prefer something so important as our wedding celebration to be planned out x.x; And I called the courthouse to ask what the regular amount of people is but they say they couldn’t guess cuz it varies, but that Mondays (my wedding date) is usually the busiest. Help! Any ideas welcomed!
Post # 2
Honestly I would choose a nice restaurant to have lunch, maybe somewhere with a private room, and hire an officiant to come perform the marriage ceremony there, rather than leaving it all up to luck. With that many people, you NEED a reservation for lunch, and you can’t control City Hall’s timeline, so just cut City Hall out of the picture.
Post # 3
Ok deep breath Bee!
You are right you should have a defined plan for your wedding, don’t just wing it, sorry but you Fiance is wrong on that score 😊
Why not book a time far enough in advance that you are sure you are going to make it. Then you can plan a fun silly in between activity that you could do or skip depending on what time you get out.
So if you booked for 1pm and get there at 9, if you are the 15 couple and it’s taking a long time for each you will still have several hours to give the place a heads up about the time change. If you get out super early have another activity based on what you like, maybe Champaign toasts and some informal park pictures or mini-golf or city tour for out of town guests. If you get to them great but could also be skipped if needed. Then have your formal sit down meal exactly as you want it without stress.
good luck Bee
Post # 4
I would either go with a park, or have at the same location as the lunch reception. This would be way to stressful for a timeline, you could be standing around the court house for hours. If it was just you and Fiance that would be ok but you can’t ask your whole group to do that. I’m surprised they don’t do it by appointment, but since they don’t I would pick somewhere that I could make firm plans.
Post # 5
aushi : I would arrive at the courthouse early to ensure that your ceremony can be conducted that day. I would make a reservation at the restaurant of your choice at whatever time you want to eat lunch.
After the wedding and before lunch, I would take pictures, take your family sightseeing, whatever is necessary to fill time. Check to see what sightseeing opportunities are available that don’t require booking ahead.
If you get an early ceremony, most likely you can phone the restaurant and have your reservation changed to an earlier time, if you want. They are always happy to have larger groups come in before the lunch time rush.
Post # 6
- Wedding: November 2018 - City Hall
Horseradish : That was the original idea but most of the places i found were too out of budget to rent out a room.
anikaof9 : LOVE That idea! There are a few out of town guests so a not so important activity, like sight seeing or love the mini gokdgolf idea, is great!! Not a big deal if we miss it but fun if we have time. His family is staying at the hotel behind ours (total coincidence lol!) Maybe we could hang by the pool! And make a reservation by the restaurants near the hotel. Yes! Love it!