(Closed) Stuck with ring I HATE – engagement season ruined HELP

posted 1 year ago in Rings
Post # 16
1827 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

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@anangel:  That is so wild. I would never be able to tell the difference. At least not from those pictures you posed <3. Both are so beautiful! I feel so bad for OP. I know the feeling of being disappointed in a ring and I know the feeling of people telling me they think its pretty even though I thought it was so ugly (not sure if they were just being nice or truly didn’t see what I saw). I don’t think all moissanites are created equal either. But yours is amazing considering I cant tell the difference 🙂 Bot of your two rings are beautiful!!!!!  

Post # 17
111 posts
Blushing bee


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@adriannamonet:  I posted them because sometimes when we see things on ourselves we over analyze the little details no one else notices. I’m very sorry OP doesn’t like her ring, and I agree that a diamond or lab diamond replacement may be the best solution. 
I think to a causal observer at a normal viewing distance, the differences aren’t as obvious but OP should do what makes her happiest- it’s her ring, and her opinion matters most. 

Post # 18
209 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2020

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@serendipibee1:  buying a lab diamond from https://lightboxjewelry.com/ can be an option. Unfortunately you can’t put the clarity or cut ratings in these diamonds and they don’t come with a certificate but they are real lab diamonds. You can get a piece of jewelry and take the diamond out and put it in your ring. 

this is the most economical solution I can think of and then with time save up to buy a certified lab or mine diamond. Heck, you may not want to change it, these de beers lab diamonds look great. 



Post # 19
40 posts

I second PPs suggestion to see if you can find a lightbox diamond that fits into your custom setting. I have a pair of Lightbox stud earrings that I wear daily and I think they’re very white and clear and sparkly. Not sure if that would be in the budget or not, but you could get a .75 ct for $700 or a 1 ct for $900 and swap the diamond into your ring setting and put your moissanite into the pendent or whatever you order from lightbox, that way you’ll have a diamond for your e-ring and also a pretty moissanite necklace to wear as well.

I’m so sorry you’re not happy with your ring. I really hope you’re able to find a solution so that you can look down and your hand and love what you see. Good luck!

Post # 20
578 posts
Busy bee

Brilliant Earth sells loose lab diamonds that come with a certificate and grading report. They’re graded on cut, clarity, and color, just like natural diamonds. I got my lab diamond from Brilliant Earth and I love it! I took it to a jewelry store to have them test it with a moissanite tester just to be sure, and it tested as a diamond.

Post # 21
1463 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

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@serendipibee1:  Why did you buy a stone sight unseen set in a ring you cannot return? That’s the issue, and that’s not an issue of moissanite, it’s an issue of poor planning on your part, unfortunately.

At this point, I think you should replace your center stone with a diamond. Sure it will be more expensive than a moissanite, but it’s what you want, right?

And the moissanite you have cost max a couple of thousand dollars, probably less depending on where you got it and what size it is. So I would remove the center stone, either sell it or set it in something else, and replace the center stone in the ring.

Post # 22
2060 posts
Buzzing bee

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@serendipibee1:  “moissanite is basically getting the exact same thing as a diamond”

clearly you have learned that that is untrue. If they were exactly the same, they would be chemically identical and they’re not. If you wanted a diamond then that’s what you should have gotten.

At the very least u should have examined the loose moissanites you ordered before setting them in a custom ring. You failed to do your research properly 

And frankly I don’t understand people who buy something as a dupe for something else and then get upset that the dupe isn’t exactly the same…I mean what did you expect? You didn’t pay the premium for the diamond so you didn’t the quality of a diamond. You get what you pay for.

Moissanites are awesome and it’s a shame you got one with the intention of using it as a diamond substitute. It has its own beauty and fire that is different than a diamond and it doesn’t sound like moissy is right for you.

There are many bees who buy moissy because they enjoy it for it’s unique beauty but it doesn’t sound like you bought moissy for that reason 

This doesn’t seem like a case of getting a dud. It seems like a mind clean issue 

Lab diamonds are more affordable than mined. I would recommend saving up for a lab diamond and setting it into the setting u have 

In the future, never buy something you can’t return if you’re unfamiliar with the materials that will be involved. Don’t go custom without seeing the stone first 

Maybe you could keep the moissy and put it in a pendant 

Post # 23
10530 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

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Pps have mostly said it all, but l wonder what you mean when you say   ‘engagement season ruined’ . What ‘season’? is this? I am sorry you are unhappy with your ring, but clearly the only way to go is as pps suggest, replace it with a lab diamond. 

l think buying an engagement ring or wedding dress or anything like that with a daughter in mind to wear years in the future is  potentially problematic. 

Post # 24
445 posts
Helper bee

I’m sorry you’re going through this, I actually went through the same thing and ended up selling my ring it did take a while and I only sold it for half of what I paid for it. But I then went to lab diamonds and went through a few of those until I found the exact cut and stone size and shape that I wanted and I currently found a beautiful ring for the price I wanted and it was a steel


Post # 25
341 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2002

Sorry to hear you are unhappy with your ring. I don’t know what your budget is, but you could either sell the ring and get a new one or replace the stone with something else. Have you looked into lab grown diamonds? They are real diamonds and are much more reasonably priced. Or you could look into a white or colored sapphire. I love moissanite and think it is a beautiful stone, but they aren’t for everyone. Good luck, I hope everything works out for you.

Post # 26
1637 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - City, State

Buy a small diamond that you can afford and put that in your setting. 

Where is your moissanite from? 

Come back Op! 

Post # 27
226 posts
Helper bee

I looked at moissanite in person with Lauren B and I don’t know if it was just the brand moissanite I was looking at (Charles and Covard), but it did NOT look the same as a diamond like they did in photos (when brought out of the LED lights). Although round brilliants to me from both look pretty similar. For that reason I just went and got the diamond I wanted.

Can you update us on how things turned out OP?

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