(Closed) Stumped on the proper etiquette here…

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What would you do?
    Don't invite the PI at all : (7 votes)
    10 %
    Invite the PI and his wife only : (60 votes)
    86 %
    Invite the whole family : (3 votes)
    4 %
    Other : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    8190 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    absolutely not. you can invite who you want.  you are inviting your sister and your cousin as the only children.


    if there were a lot of kids there and your bosses’s kids were the only ones not invited, that might be a little questionable.  but you are under no obligation to invite your bosses kids.


    Post # 5
    2213 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Nope, you don’t have to invite the kids.  We’re only inviting family kids to our wedding, because we want our nieces and nephews there, and I also have an aunt and uncle who don’t understand etiquette, so addressing an invite to them as a couple would be useless.  I know they’ll just bring the kids, so they are also invited.

    As for the rest of our guests?  Allowing friends and coworkers to all bring their kids would just be way too many people.

    Post # 6
    5480 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    You don’t have to invite them, but make sure you address the invitation directly to Mr. and Mrs. So-and-so, NOT The So-and-so Family. 

    Post # 8
    129 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @Taeyers:  I don’t really think you’d HAVE to invite the PI but it would be nice. I don’t think they would automatically assume that the kids are invited unless explicitly told that it’s OK. I work in academia too and although they are happy to bring their kids when appropriate, they are also pretty used to the idea that kids generally stay home with sitters.


    Post # 10
    1063 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2016

    @Taeyers:  Nope! The invite to them is already a courtesy, and inviting the kids I think would be more the weird thing than the expected thing. So don’t sweat it, you don’t know them and it’s not a family wedding for them. If the PI and wife go, it will prob be more fun with them w/o the kids anyway!

    Post # 11
    1770 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 1997

    @Taeyers:  You don’t have to invite the children.

      I would be more concerned with the fact that you work in a very small office of maybe 5 people and you are leaving 2 out.


    Post # 12
    5664 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @Taeyers:  No, you invite boss’s typically to be nice, you definitely do not need to invite their children.

    Post # 14
    1770 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 1997

    @Taeyers:  nice to know!

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