Post # 1
So I was sent a message by a fellow bee regarding a dress that I was selling that she “absolutely had to have.” I had been going back and forth about using it as a reception dress but seeing her enthusiasm and the fact that it was already discontinued, maybe I should part with it. She had also mentioned that she didn’t have a lot of money to spend and was moving within the next two weeks.
For several days this bee sent message after message within minutes of each other. I thought WOWZERS… but hey it’s her wedding, she is just excited. She wanted the dress, then didn’t want it, then wanted it again. (Can you say impulsive and impatient?) In the end, she ended up with the dress. I kept in contact with her every step from payment to tracking number. Two days after it was signed for, I sent her a follow up email to make sure she was happy with the dress. Nothing….not a peep. I found this odd because she was incessant with her prior communications??!!
Well…. I come on to this site today only to find that my dress was one of 4 dresses that she had. She sold all the dresses and bought another one. A $900 to be exact. I’m hurt. Had I known this wasn’t the dress of her dreams, the one that she had to have, how she didn’t have money, etc…. I would have kept it for a reception dress. It just bothers me how persistant she was in order to have it, then just sold it like it was nothing!
Post # 3
Consider it a lesson learned- people lie and not just on the net.
It would be disappointingto think that you had helped a fellow Bee find their dream dress then learn they had sold it.
Perhaps she really is just indecisive and thought your dress was her dream dress- then changed her mind again.
Post # 4
I see A LOT of posts from indecisive Bees that can’t decide on a dress. Buying on the internet is also really hard…you think you love it, but then in person it just doesn’t work out. As the PP said, lesson learned. 🙁
Post # 5
That’s annoying. It doesn’t take away from the fact that you did a nice thing. Karma will reward you.
Post # 6
WOW does this story sound familiar. I’m very sorry you went through this but do agree that internet purchases are really difficult sometimes. Sucks that a fellow Bee put you through this though.
Post # 7
I’m really sorry that happened to you. Although once you sell something the person who bought it really does have the right to do whatever they want with it.
It does suck though that they never even let you know what they were doing with it, especially since you are both on the bee.
I agree that you are due for some good karma.
Post # 8
What dress was it?
I’m sorry to hear about your sour experience. Weddings seem to bring out the crazy in us all!
Post # 9
that’s unfortunate but maybe the dress didn’t look good on her. have you considered that possibility?
Post # 10
Hmmm, I am slightly uncomfortable about this thread topic and I am not sure why. I think its because while I can understand the point (hey ladies, can we be a little bit more sensitive to the seller?) at the same time, I would be pretty pissed if you just outed me on there. Know what I mean? This isn’t an attack, I am openly admitting my confusion, I just don’t think it’s necessarily the right thing to do. Although you totally have a right to be upset!
Am I the only one?
Post # 11
Wow, that’s pretty rude of her! Regardless of her situation, if it were too big, didn’t look right, wasn’t the dress she wanted after all, etc, she should have at least responded to you! That tells me she was in it just to sell it and it never was her dream dress. How shady…
Post # 12
@WillyNilly: I don’t think she’s outing anyone. I’m fairly certain I (and many others) know who she’s referring to and I’m pretty sure that Purchaser Bee had openly posted about getting the dress from a fellow Bee.
Of course if I’m wrong I’m going to look pretty silly. .
Post # 13
@GroovyHippieChick: Well, damnit, now I want to know!! I don’t want to be the only one! LOL
Edit – and even if that was the case, I still don’t think its appropriate. Its the equivalent of calling someone out on a FB news feed because their status was bitchy. We don’t support that but we’ll support passive aggressive threads?
Post # 14
Karma will reward you ten fold. That does really suck, but YOU know you did a good thing and there should never be any regret in putting good out into the universe. I’m fairly certain I know which Bee you are refering to as well and as open as she has been about all her dress drama I don’t think you are doing anything wrong with this post.
Post # 15
If the agreed-upon price was OK a few weeks ago then you should try not to let Seller’s Remourse build up. Yes it sucks that the buyer mis-represented herself but when it comes to a business transaction (which this is), as a seller you have to be firm in your price and not worry about the buyer’s intent. It shouldn’t matter if the buyer is a single mom trying to pay for her own wedding, a reseller trying to make a profit, or a crazy lady who wants to dance the can-can on 43rd Street in that dress; if you were satisfied with the price before, you should try to stay satisfied and not look back.
Post # 16
@WillyNilly: Sorry, I don’t see how this thread is passive aggressive. OP has a right to be ticked.