Post # 1
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Sugar bee
I saw this meme in my Facebook feed today and it made me think about how stuff like this being passed around could be very insulting to some people.
The ring shown in this meme appears to be a ring from Etsy which costs around $200. It won’t let me paste the link in here but if you search “minimalist diamond ring” on Etsy it comes up in the first few listings. Anyway, whenever I see the meme I think of the girls out there who have that ring and the guys out there who bought it and how both must find this meme, and the comments that are often made on it when it’s posted, disgusting and insulting. My e-ring, which I absolutely love, was around $200 pre-loved, I feel really good knowing that because I would be very uncomfortable having a huge amount of money wrapped around my finger and with the addition of a wedding band the maximum investment that I’m comfortable with (around $300) for jewellery I never take off has been reached. I think these memes are terrible and most likely hurt relatioships by making men feel like they need to have a huge amount of money to ask thier gf to marry them and inspiring gross materialism in women who would have otherwise been happy with that ring if they had not seen the meme and read the dispiraging comments. I would be interested to hear other’s opinion of this meme, and others like it.
Post # 2
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Honey bee
I said “yes!!!” with no ring. Materialism is and always will be a thing. We all participate in some way. If I got huffy about every meme I saw that rubbed me the wrong way I would be huffy all day every day lol. Pat yourself on the back because you would have said “yes” if he proposed with that ring, then move on. No biggie.
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
I agree with you.
Have you read the bee? There are thousands of posts of women complaining their e-ring is too small. Its an epidemic.
I told my Fiance that I’d say yes to a ring pop because he waited so long (10 years). I have many rings I would have been happy to use as an e-ring. He ended up buying me one, and I’ll use one I already have as a band.
Post # 5
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Sugar bee
I totally agree. I still don’t understand why women who would say “no” to that won’t consider a more affordable option. My ring is 2.3 carats but it’s a sapphire. And my ring was so cheap I couldn’t saved up for it in high school! I don’t think there’s anything wrong with wanting a certain style or size, but you have to compromise.
Post # 6
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Sugar bee
- Wedding: April 2017 - Hogarths, Solihull
nykkee : “would you say yes if he proposed with this ring”
Of course I would, that ring is cute AF.
Also, you know, I love him and want to marry him. I don’t need a ring at all for that!
Post # 7
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Bumble bee
I really like that ring! DH proposed with no ring and I said yes…we went the next weekend to pick it out together.
Post # 8
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Sugar bee
desertgypsy : I think the approach of Christmas is making me touchy about materialism in general. I have been living with my fiance for 5 years and have 4 custodial step kids, the materialism of Christmas is a huge stress point for us and it ruins the holiday. Having that on my mind while planning my wedding, plus that meme, got me thinking about how materialism ruins romance as much at it ruins holidays and I just kinda got made at the meme maker.
Post # 9
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Sugar bee
scissorgirl : the ring pop reference brings up an image in my mind of a Candyland (remember that board game) themed wedding. Very cute!
Post # 10
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Blushing bee
If you would consider not marrying someone because they bought you a ring you don’t like, then you’re not mature enough/in love enough to be married. If you don’t feel comfortable telling your partner that you have certain ring preferences, then you’re not communicating effectively and your relationship is in trouble. If your priorities are so out of order that you consider an engagement ring to be worth going broke over when your partner can’t afford it, then you’re not in a good headspace to be married. Marriage is about a partnership.
Post # 11
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Sugar bee
stephisaur : Yay! That should be everyone’s reaction to this meme! It’s the negative comments people make when someone shares it that bug me!
Post # 12
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Sugar bee
Curlycupcake : I think it’s super cute too. Bezels are beautiful!
Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
nykkee : for the record I really like that ring, its cute and elegant unlike the ‘keeping up with the jones’ huge diamonds which to me just look superfical
my first engagement I had no ring, instead I gave him one of mine
second engagement (too the same guy again but a year after we originally broke up) was one he took off his finger and put on mine, it was a chunky biker style skull with red eyes (probably not ruby, maybe garnet or some other similar gem stone)
that didnt last long… he was a chronic cheater 
a year later met my now fiance who ive been with nearly 10 years and my ring now is a vintage sapphire and like you only cost $200 – I agree im not comfortable wearing something super expensive and honestly I would be mad if my fiance spent loads since we are saving up for IVF which is FAR more important than worrying about having the biggest or most expensive ring
Post # 15
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Bumble bee
When I first saw this thread, I thought it was going to be about this meme:
Both are stupid. I would have said yes to any ring (or no ring) from my Fiance.
