Post # 1
Oh no bees, I just had the worst waiting meltdown! I signed into Facebook this morning and there was 7 engagement announcements. Two of them were from women who have been together less time than we have and one of them really hurt. It shouldn’t because I don’t usually care what other people do but this was different. It stung!
I’m so worried that he won’t do it when we’re on vacation that I’ve already started looking for places to rent. I actually think that the way he’s screwed me around so much has driven such a wedge between us that I’m really starting to think that I’m almost getting ready to leave. I just don’t understand why he would constantly hurt me with this rollercoaster?? He kept hinting it would happen before our trip but we go on the 25th… We’re out with friends tonight and because of commitments we both have we won’t see each other much between now and when we leave. He’s just stringing me along isn’t he?!
This is not a good feeling 🙁
Post # 3
@givemecouture: only you know if he is sincere in his desire to marry you. You have to try to block out the timelines others relationships are on. itll make you crazy. Think about not being on facebook, it might help.
I really hope he isn’t stringing you along and if he is, we’re here for you! big time!
Post # 4
@givemecouture: My eyes seriously bugged out at the 7 engagements notification you saw. I know how that feels and I feel your pain. I hate technology for that reason! Have you talked to your SO about your feelings? I can only imagine the feelings you are experiencing right now and my heart goes out to you. I agree that only you know if your SO is true in his desire to marry you. I truly hope that he is sincere. I hope that you go on vacation and he’s got an amazing surprise for you! If he doesn’t we’re all here for you! *Hugs*
Post # 5
I honestly don’t usually give a shit what other people do or what anyone on Facebook does. This one just really bothered me and I totally broke down! I know I’m being stupid.
I’m just really starting to question if I can be with someone who would do this?! It just feels like a wake up call with alarm bells all of a sudden. All I’m doing is waiting around for this guy and I just feel like an idiot right now.
Post # 6
@EmilyJoy: 7 today and 4 yesterday. Crazy huh?!
Oh he knows how I feel… It’s been 10 months of promising it’ll be “soon” and setting wedding dates that pass.
Post # 7
SEVEN?!!? And FOUR yesterday?!?! Holy moly, I think that’s enough to make anyone who’s even thought about marrying their partner break down.
Post # 8
@givemecouture: stop letting him not keep his promises then. its human psychology to get away with what you think you can get away with. rational choice says he’ll renig so long as theres no punishment strategy.
Post # 9
@givemecouture: I hope you don’t think this is creepy, but every time I see a post from you I keep hoping that this guy has manned up and proposed!!! I get so pissed at all these guys keeping you lovely ladies waiting. For some reason your story in particular has struck a chord with me – I wish you the very best!
Post # 10
@givemecouture: Wow, 11 in total!! That’s crazy. I can understand the feeling, I get worked up over 1!
Have you told him how you feel about feeling strung along? I swear I’d be in peices if I saw that many announcements!
Post # 11
I’m having a meltdown weekend, so I am right there with you. He has been saying it was happening for the last 3 months, so I finally asked him for a new, realistic timeline. He sighed and started into stories about logistics and said to give him a few more weeks. This morning, another engagement, of a couple who have been together for 5 months, was announced. I want to throw up and being calm is literally driving me crazy…uggg!
BIG HUGS to you!!!!!
Post # 12
@givemecouture: Big hugs!!! You don’t sound like looking for places to rent is calming you down, like it does for some people. I hope you find your happy soon!!!
Post # 13
@givemecouture: I truly hope he isn’t stringing you along. That is a very cruel and selfish thing for him to do. He knows what you want and he needs to man up and admit he wants something different or propose already. I have my fingers crossed that it happens before or on this trip. Maybe he has something ultra romantic planned for the trip and knows that you deserve a great proposal after all this disappointment. If he doesn’t propose I think it is definitely time to move out and get some distance from this relationship.
Post # 14
I am so with you! I saw 3 since Sunday! One girl has been with her bf for longer than I have been with SO…the one a year and the last one they both have kids from other relationships..him already being married before….I vented to my best friend about it & she was really sympathetic! It helps to have people on here who understand what you’re going through! I’m glad you’re looking out for yourself and starting to look for places in case he doesn’t because that shows you value yourself and your own life goals!
*hugs* Just know that all of us waiting bees get the itch when we see others who have been together less getting engaged.
Post # 15
Woah, that is a lot of announcements to just take in your stride. I’m not even waiting as such and that would make me have a little ‘why am I not being proposed to?’ moment. I full understand your pain.
My advice? Crack a bottle of wine, open that chocolate & watch some awesome movie where lots of people get shot and die (Iron Man or Avengers – something with also delectably good looking men will help ;))
Good luck xx