Post # 1
So I’ve never been a Maid/Matron of Honor before, but I am this weekend. And I never paid attention at any other weddings I’ve attended.. When does/should the Maid/Matron of Honor fix the Bride’s train? Is it just when they are in front of the priest or do I have to follow her when she lights the candles, does the prayer, etc?
Like I said, stupid question, but I am hoping for help so I don’t look like an idiot! 🙂
Post # 3
By fix the train, do you mean moving it into a bustle? I think that happens after the ceremony but before the reception…sorry I’m no help, lol. I was Maid/Matron of Honor once and my friend had no train on her dress.
Post # 4
I’ve only seen it done just when they are in front of the priest, otherwise, it would look a little funny with you following her everywhere!
Post # 5
Ask the bride what she wants you to do. This is probably something that you will go over at the rehearsal. I just had my Maid/Matron of Honor do one fluff right when I got to the end of the aisle and joined my husband at the alter.
Post # 6
I think you are asking about making it look nice throughout the ceremony?
I only messed with it when she turned to face her Fiance, but I’ve been a Maid/Matron of Honor twice and neither wedding had any additional moving for thinks like a unity candle or prayers.
Post # 7
You mean laying it nicely, correct? I’m not sure, I think it depends. Ask the bride what she wants.
Post # 8
Probably just when she first gets to the altar, turns around for the exit, or whenever it gets particularly bunched up.
Post # 9
i don’t really remember ever fixing my friend’s train when i was her Maid/Matron of Honor…someone (the venue coordinator/DOC/bride’s father/you) should arrange the train right before she walks down the aisle and it will most likely stay in place enough. i think it would be weird/distracting if you were constantly fixing it during the ceremony. after the ceremony you’ll be in charge of bustling it and then it won’t be an issue for the rest of the night.
Post # 10
I’m expecting my MOH’s to fix it when I get to the alter and while I am walking down the stairs so that I won’t trip.
Post # 11
When I was a Maid/Matron of Honor, I fluffed as needed. Maybe only 3 times during the ceremony, and we had a lot of moving around, up, down, kneeling, up down, etc. It was a full Lutheran Mass. Pretty much, if she moved around and then I knew she’d be standing in place for awhile (and there would be a photo op) I fluffed and evened it out. Definitely you’ll want to fluff before she walks down the aisle at the end.
Post # 12
The only time i wish my Maid/Matron of Honor HAD fixed my trainwas when i went to face my fiance in front of the priest…otherwise that was it. 🙂
Post # 13
depends on what the bride wants really. most wedding i have attended the moh follows bride pretty much everywher and fixes the train every time its getting twisted..
Post # 14
Yes I was referring to the ceremony..
Thanks for all the help! 🙂