(Closed) stupid question… when/what are vows???

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

@honeygoldbee:  yes, those are considered the vows. You can either do traditional vows like you have listed above or write your own (or both!)

We had:

Officiant: Do you MissTatas take Darling Husband to be your husband? Do you promise, before family and friends, to commit to your love for him, to respect his individuality, to be with him through all of life’s changes, and to nurture and strengthen the love between you, as long as you both shall live?

Me:

I do.

I have major social anxiety so I refused to commit to saying more than “I do” and “With this  ring, I thee wed” during the ring exchange.

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Nevermind answered by pp

 

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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

Vows are often confused with the Declaration of Intent.

The DoI is near the beginning, and goes something like:

Declaration by GROOM and BRIDE

I ask you now, in the presence of God and these people, to declare you intention to enter into union with each other through the grace of Jesus Christ, who calls you into union with himself.

BRIDE, will you have GROOM to be your husband, to live together in holy marriage? Will you love him, comfort him, honor and keep him, in sickness and in health, and forsaking all others, be faithful to him as long as you both shall live?

BRIDE: I will.

GROOM, will you have BRIDE to be your wife, to live together in holy marriage? Will you love her, comfort her, honor and keep her, in sickness and in health, and forsaking all others, be faithful to her as long as you both shall live?

GROOM: I will.

Later in the ceremony, after any readings, sermons, prayers, etc, but before the exchange of rings and declaration of marriage, are the Vows. The couple may write their own, or use a standard script such as this one from the Book of Common Prayer:

EXCHANGE OF VOWS

BRIDE and GROOM face each other, joining hands. The pastor may prompt them, line by line.

GROOM to BRIDE: BRIDE, in the name of God, I take you to be my wife From this time onward, To join with you And to share all that is to come, To give and to receive, To speak and to listen, To inspire and to respond, And in all our life together To be loyal to you with my whole being, As long as we both shall live.

BRIDE to GROOM: GROOM, in the name of God, I take you to be my husband From this time onward, To join with you And to share all that is to come, To give and to receive, To speak and to listen, To inspire and to respond, And in all our life together To be loyal to you with my whole being, As long as we both shall live.

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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Bump! I’m a little confused by this too, like where do the “I do’s” fit in with the vows?

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