Post # 1
Seeing that we’re 10/11 weeks now I figured it was safe to tell our wedding party, consisting of our closest friends. I’ve noticed some pretty… interesting/rude comments made to me. Example, my friend who had a baby via c-section and scheduled her c-section for her second baby (due in april) made a comment when she found out I was having a natural birth, “Oh, good luck with that! You won’t last, I know it. Trust me.” Yeah… you would know because you went to the hospital, immediately got shot up with an epidural and then had a section… you know ALL about it. Or the men referring to me as “knocked up.” I HATE this term. The girl in my freshman year english class was knocked up, I’m pregnant, because when we’re adults and not immature asses that’s the verbage we use. And the questions I get when I talk about my decision to give birth in a birth center vs a hospital. “Oh my gosh! What if something goes wrong?” Yeah, because they don’t have a doctor in the facility or a hospital next door? Not to mention the stupid questions about my vagina and uterus from my family/MIL/strangers or random hands wanting to touch me everywhere.
What’s the most amazing thing someone’s asked/done that makes your jaw just hit the floor?
Post # 3
I got the most awful comments from a girl that I used to be friends with in high school. I get severe migraines and they pretty much blew up during my first trimester, so I’ve had to take meds for them. I have no choice, I don’t like doing it, but I’m in too much pain to just suffer through it. She told me that she would never take these meds while pregnant. Um….. you have no idea what I’m going through! She’s never even had a migraine. If she had this pain, I know for a fact she’d be in the ER asking for drugs.
People can be so rude!
Post # 4
I’ve gotten lots of comments about natural birth and cloth diapering. My Mother-In-Law said something to the effect of she hoped I would remember the health of my baby while I was trying natural birth! As if I’d risk the health of my child.
The best advice I was given, and have to give to others, is to not talk about some of your personal choices. Be vague. We haven’t decided, we’re considering the options, etc… Everyone will jump in with their 2 cents if you are too open with people about your choices.
Post # 5
“Wow you sure you don’t have twins in there?”
Post # 6
oh, I was also told by one of DH’s cousins, who is a nurse and a mom, that I was so big I was going to have a 16 pound baby! I’m not, and haven’t been that big!
Post # 7
I gained more than my fair share of weight when I was pregnant with my first born. In August, I had a teller at Walmart ask if I was having twins. I just plastered a grin on my face and said nope, there’s just one in there. And then she said, Oh well then you must be overdue, I feel for you dear. I decided not to tell her that I wasn’t due until OCTOBER, but yes I did go home and cry.
Post # 8
Too many rude comments to count, seeing as I have four children. Lol With my youngest I was 38 while I was pregnant and THAT comment came from a lady in the waiting area in my OB. She said “Aren’t you worried having a baby so old?” Yea…. That one was fun. ; )
I agree 100% with mrstilly that sometimes it is much better to be vague. And try and just let the stupid comments roll off….. We humans sometimes seem to think that the ways we have learned to do things, or just the way we have always done things, is the only right way. : ) Hang in there!! It is only the beginning….
Post # 9
My little sister is only 12 weeks along and already has a very noticable baby bump, which is absolutely adorable on her. She’s a very slender gal, so anything on her shows up. She’s one of those gals with an AWESOME body and her baby bump just makes her more beautiful in my opinion…with that said, our other sister saw her the other day and said “Hey Tubby!” I heard about this 2nd hand, but I swear when I see my other sister (who is a good deal overweight, like myself) I am going to tell her to never ever ever again call our other pregnant sister Tubby. I swear I wanted to kick her hard in the kneecaps for that one. My little sister has been slender her whole life, so even just a little baby bump is an adjustment for her. She’s getting used to it, but comments on her weight are definitely not called for.
Post # 10
I’ve gotten the “you’re getting fat” remarks from people. And I have a tiny bump that looks like I may be pregnant or just had a really big lunch. Um, let me get one thing straight, you are fat, I’m pregnant! What’s your excuse? A Twinkie baby?
Post # 11
“Did you just eat a turkey or are you pregnant?”
Post # 12
“Guess we know what you two were up to four months ago!”
Ew – no. Just don’t go there, you know?
Post # 13
@SoontobeMrsA: I’ve gotten a lot more than I’ve cared to! 🙂
Post # 14
Anything along the lines of “You are considering/doing X? I would never do X.”
Post # 15
At hearing that I was 16 weeks along, someone told me I was “hardly pregnant”. REALLY? That’s not like I just took the pregnancy test – I was through the first trimester for goodness sake!
Post # 16
@newbiecici: a Twinkie baby- I love that! Heehee!