Post # 1
One of my BMs, a girl I’ve known since we were both just six months old, got pregnant a couple months after my wedding. Awesome.
Last night, her mom announced on Facebook that my friend’s water broke. Even more awesome. A couple hours ago, she posted another update on behalf of my friend’s husband, that things were slowly but steadily progressing.
Just now, I went back to my friend’s mom’s page to check for more updates… And on her wall was a post from her brother (my friend’s uncle) that congratulated her on the birth of her granddaughter, Molly Marie, who was born at exactly 6:32AM. He made sure to tag both maternal grandparents and both my friend and her husband, so pretty much anyone who’s friends with them is now getting all the news from an uncle who couldn’t shut up long enough to let the happy couple announce their baby’s birth and her name on their own.
WTF, people??? I’m so angry on my friend’s and her mom’s behalf.
When the time comes for us, I’m seriously considering not telling ANYONE that I’m in labor until hours after the baby is free in the world.
Post # 3
AWWW I think they were just excited..
Post # 4
Looks like he is stealing her thunder in all of the excitement.
Post # 5
Yeah, people are stupid, it really pisses me off when people do stuff like that. It’s so rude!
This is the exact reason we didnt’ announce our engagement on fb until all family members had been told. It’s not your news to share!
Post # 6
Ugh. My mom is the same way. She can’t keep anything off Facebook. That’s the main reason she and my dad have not been told about their impending grandchild. If she’s not careful, she won’t find out about the kid until he or she starts kindergarten.
Fiance and I have decided that no one is to know when I go into labor. Because we live next door to both sets of parents (yeah, that’s as fun as it sounds) we’ll be registering as a private patient so they can’t call the hospital and ask if I’m there.
Post # 7
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
“couldn’t shut up long enough to let the happy couple announce their baby’s birth and her name on their own.”
After the birth of each of my three nephews, my brother made maybe five phone calls. The rest of the news was spread word of mouth. I don’t think the uncle was trying to rock the boat here… the parents are kind of busy right now, and their loved ones want to know!
I’ve found it rare that the couple themselves are the first one to post on FB anyway- it usually is another family member.
EDIT: Ok, I just read Sugaree’s post, and she has a very good point. There are *certain* family members I’d tell not to post- but we did that with the engagement- “Don’t put anything on FB until we do, because we want to make sure all our special people know.”
Post # 8
@rebwana: I can understand if it wasn’t the couple themselves, but my friend’s mom had specifically said she would announce the baby’s name as soon as she was born. The name was being kept a secret until then. If ANYONE besides the couple was allowed to announce the birth on Facebook, it was my friend’s mom. It’s not like she’s busy at the hospital or anything, anyway – she lives in a different state than my friend and her husband. The uncle took the announcement away from her, too. Ugh.
Post # 9
I find that older generations don’t know the online social ettiquette that younger generations do. It’s unfortunate but hopefully the couple will forgive the uncle since it’s happy news and a happy time!
Post # 10
I’m a big fan of the don’t tell anyone until the baby is here. I would probably give my mom the heads up but that’s it.
Post # 11
@howtobeawife: I think they will. My friend’s family is all really super close, and I know everyone on that side is just super excited because this is the first great-grandchild in the family. I feel bad for her, though.
Post # 12
Just wondering, do you know if your friend, her husband, or her mother even care? I’m sure they are all too busy basking in the joy of a new baby to get worked up about this. Plus, if the uncle knew these details, they’ve obviously already let the most important people know. No point in you getting worked up on their behalf if they aren’t concerned.
Post # 13
@GreenEyedMoon: That’s good! And first grandchild! Yay! Congrats to your friend!
Post # 14
We didn’t tell anyone until after we’d had the baby – made for an awesome, private, pressure free birth experience 🙂
I hate Facebook. I deleted mine over six months ago and I think the quality of my life has improved.
Post # 15
I hate Facebook for this exact reason plus the whole “I need to tell everybody about what’s going on in my life, even if I’m just sitting on the toilet taking a dump” bullcrap.
Post # 16
Everybody’s different. It’s only a problem if it upsets your friend! If she didn’t say anything about it, then why are you mad?
I had at least 10 friends at the hospital when I had my daughter, along with family, and most of them posted pictures and announcements of her birth before I even saw her…because I had a last-minute c-section…and I didn’t care! They were as excited about her as I was, and it actually made me feel awesome! We also have pictures of her that we wouldn’t otherwise have b/c of them!