(Closed) Stupid Thoughts

posted 6 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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963 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@UJSMCWG06:  I think you just need to put her out of your mind. Seriously, you won and she lost, so no need to worry 🙂

Post # 4
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6512 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Hey!  Stop it!  Stop it right now.  Your HUSBAND chose you.  He did it with a clear head and heart.  He does not think she is perfect, he thinks you are.  And that is why he MARRIED YOU. 

This type of doubt is just going to be hurtful to yourself and your marriage.  Next time you feel yourself veering in that direction, look down at your finger and see the ring that is there, and remember your ceremony.  Remember your vows, and the lifetime commitment he made to YOU. 

Post # 5
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1251 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

@UJSMCWG06:  If he wanted to be with her, he’d be with her. Clearly, something happened that made him change his mind about her way back when.

Don’t overthink it. Overthinking things often leads to your own self-destruction, when there really is nothing to worry about.

See the top of the iceburg? That is his opinion of her. Sure, she’s nice, blah blah, sweet, okay. The rest of it? That’s what you assume from what you hear about her. Don’t fret, he loves YOU.

As long as HE isn’t bringing her up in casual conversation, don’t take it to heart.  

Post # 7
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1526 posts
Bumble bee

Chill!!!! He married you for a reason. Don’t risk your marriage by doubting how your husband feels about you. Your idea of perfect isn’t the same as everyone else’s and your husbands view is probably not seeing her as perfect, but you for who you are. 

Post # 8
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2125 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@AcheneMalefic:  Wow that is a great analogy! I completely agree.

Post # 9
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421 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@actofvalor:  Wow! That is a pretty awesome analogy. I’ll remember that one.

Sometimes I can feel the same way and feel insecure about myself. But remember he married you because he does think you are perfect for him 🙂

Post # 10
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1238 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

THIS – “Don’t risk your marriage by doubting how your husband feels about you. Your idea of perfect isn’t the same as everyone else’s and your husbands view is probably not seeing her as perfect, but you for who you are.”

 

this “paranoia” will undermine the trust in your marriage, and just bring your insecurities to the forefront, which isn’t healthy.

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