(Closed) stupid :( we did the unthinkable

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 17
5669 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Try to forgive yourself. As you said you are usually very reasonable with your money and never splurge on yourself. Since you didn’t go into debt for the ring or not pay your rent to buy a ring then I would enjoy the ring. I sometimes look back on the money we spent our our wedding, rings, honeymoon, etc. and dwell over how great that money would be in savings especially now that we are expecting. But it’s done and over with and I loved every moment of my wedding and have a beautiful ring on my finger that I intend to wear for the rest of my life.

Post # 18
3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I also get the sense from your statements that you are level headed and since you didn’t go into debt for it it’s ok, on the brightside you won’t have to upgrade in a few years.

Post # 19
4712 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1998

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@roxy821  +1

Post # 20
3226 posts
Sugar bee

LOL @RoxanneV! I agree with @Roxy821. It’s done already so there’s not much you can do since it’s already done but enjoy it. In the end since its a lifetime investment it’s not that much. I just can’t help but be bothered by the fact that it’s non returnable. Was it a custom piece? I wouldn’t be comfortable making such a large purchase with no return policy unless of course you already passed the return time for it. 

Post # 22
3450 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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@Sunfire  I agree with this.

I know it sucks to be broke.  I’ve been there.  I wouldn’t sell your wedding set though, because I believe you will regret it someday.

Post # 23
2137 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

can we see a picture?

Post # 24
1100 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

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@roxy821  Agree

Post # 25
878 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Can you get a part time job to help with your finances while you’re a student? Don’t beat yourself up about this. A ring is something you will have the rest of your life. Dont try to sell it, you will lose so much money if you do. Just move on and remain frugal with the wedding and honeymoon.

Post # 26
3774 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

I read your old threads, and I really need to ask you a very important question?  Do you really want to get married?  All of your posts indicate to me that you don’t.  $2300 is not a insane amount of money, and I am curious as to why you are having an issue. I really believe, from everything that you have said in your threads, that you don’t want to get married.

Post # 27
79 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

That’s tough.  Ultimately, I hope you love it, becuase you’re probably stuck with it now… but that can be a good thing!  Just be really, really frugal now to make up for it, and tell yourself you deserve it!

Post # 28
262 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

To someone who has NO money and that is in debt- $2000+ is a lot of money. IN Jamaica, that is nearly what a domestic helper/maid makes 6 1/2 months (I know, I know you dont live in Jamaica Cool). I realize most women have more than that spent on their rings but it dosnt mean that some women are in the position of having that much money to spend.

That being said, if the OP knows there is limited funds, why in the name of what is holy spend that amount of money on rings? Better yet, are the rings insured? If they are not, I suppport getting that done.

After all is said and done, the rings are yours. Enjoy them and you will simply have to find creative ways to work around your budgetary constraints in other parts of your life.


Post # 29
493 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’m kind of annoyed with all the statements about $2000 not being a lot of money.  It might not be a lot of money to me or you but it’s a lot of money to many people.

Post # 30
5155 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2010

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@Leland  This. $2,000 for may is the difference between having a place to live and being homeless. $2,000 is not insignificant for everyone.

OP, I looked at your old post to find you have a set from Mo Co for $2,350 so I assume that is the same set, and you cannot return it as platinum was a special order.

I would suggest if you want to try and sell it, you try listing it on Diamond Bistro and/or the Wedding Bee classifieds and see if anyone will snap it up. If you list on DB, also put a post in the Better Than Diamond forums in the Listing Discussions.  You will not get FULL price as people can just order new for that, but as it is fairly new,  you may be able to get something reasonably decent.

This is only if you want to sell it. If not, you need to find other ways to cut in your budget to either reduce cost of wedding (such as cutting out honeymoon or inviting less people), or to afford the ring (less coffees from the coffee shop, for example).

You can make this work. Just figure out what you want to do first (keep or sell) and go from there.

Post # 31
64 posts
Worker bee

I would get a part-time job, maybe something just one day a week to start get that savings account going again. As long as you can pay your bills and feed yourself you are ok for now (even if you are eating ramen noodles lol) You bought it because you like it, and you deserve it, so if i were you, I would totally keep it.  Go ask your neighbors if they need their lawn cut, poarch painted, dogs walked, kiddos watched, etc…

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