Post # 1
I’m feeling overwhelmed, and I’m hoping you lovely Bees can help. I’m being pulled in two very different directions dress-wise. I’m wondering if any of you had similar problems and how you chose? For reference, I’m a short but extremely well-proportioned and curvy street size 18.
First, there are the dresses I love… I adore the look of antique lace and beading. I’m a sucker for 3D flowers. Basically, if it’s romantic and feminine and vintage, I’m drawn to it. Maggie Sottero’s Harlow and Gatsby, neither of which I’ve been able to find in ANY size, are both perfect as far as I’m concerned.
I’ve had a hard time finding anything similar in my size. I came closest today. I found an all lace dress with a slim a-line fit. The top of it was weird and unflattering, but the bottom was not unlike the Harlow. It looked nice — not stunning, but definitely pretty. I also tried on Casablanca 1988, which I LOVED on the hanger. The shape is different from the Maggies, but it’s the exact feel I was going for. It looked lovely on and is just very ‘me.’ It also fits my venue and anticipated wedding theme perfectly. Still, as gorgeous as it was and as nice as it looked on me, the Casablanca isn’t the most flattering dress I tried on.
Any bridal consultant will tell you, diagonal ruching and corset backs are a curvy girl’s best friends, and from a totally objective standpoint, it really is true. While the Casablanca looked great on, it couldn’t hold a candle to the Anjolique #1010, Maggie Sottero Madison, or Ella Bridal #5431. These dresses are all way more modern, and the first two are much simpler. They’re not at all my style. But all three are absolutely STUNNING on. I’ve never tried on anything so flattering. And despite the fact that they don’t match my initial vision, I can’t help but love them, too.
How did you pick? Did you choose the dress that was most flattering? The one that was most ‘you?’ Did you manage to find a happy medium? I’m lost!
Post # 3
I chose the most flattering dress for my body. It’s how I normally buy my clothes (i stay away from stuff that’s too trendy; it usually looks goofy on me, like empire waisted dresses, etc) and my wedding dress wasn’t any different! my dress fit me, but it was pretty traditional/sparkly/not too crazy/no lace. Pretty basic. I love trendier dresses, but they’re pretty out of my price range and since my venue was a plantation house, I didn’t want to go all crazy.
Just b/c something looks pretty on the rack doesn’t mean it’s going to look good on you unfortunately. You can find some middle ground, though. But since you said you “love” the modern dresses, too, I think you should sit on it and make sure you love it in a week or two.
I love sparkly bridal gowns. A little bling is a good thing! But if you feel like going with a simpler, but amazxingly cut gown is more ‘you’, keep looking. But make sure you made the right decision; lots of brides afterwards complain their dresses wasn’t “bridey” enough and needs to be punched up.
Post # 4
Sigh. I thought I was going to be TOTALLY in love with the crazy skirted dresses. Lots of Lazaro and Rivini… but once I tried them on, I hated them. Hated hated hated them! They made me feel like a walking circus tent! I must have tried on about 30 trying to find one that didn’t make me feel huge.. I still LOVE them- on other people and on the hanger. Not on me, which is a shame because I only get one chance to wear this elaborate of a dress. Unless I go to a ball! The one I ended up loving we’re actually having made in a different material.
Post # 5
I really like ones with the little cap sleeves or straps, but they all made me look SO TINY… like I was playing dress up in my mom’s closet. I have a small frame (and apparently small shoulders) I’m also only 5′ tall, so they just weren’t made for me. I ended up getting a strapless number (JSM1103 by Sottero&Midgely) that made me look more adult.
Post # 6
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
I’m the exact opposite of you. I wanted something VERY simple, modern, flowy chiffon, not sleeveless, with a v-neck.
They all looked awful on me.
The dress that looked best on me was a strapless ruffly ballgown. My body, which I think never looks good in anything, looked good in that dress. But it’s so not ME. So I don’t know what to do.
Post # 7
I think it’s possible to find a happy medium, but I do think picking something that is flattering is more important than something that is super “you”. I wanted my dress to be somewhat unique and I also wanted to steer away from strapless dresses, because I saw so many brides wear strapless gowns. However, when it came down to it, strapless just looked sooo much better on me than anything else, so the gown I ended up choosing was strapless. I do feel like my dress is still very “me” though, and I think the fabric is unique – so all in all, I’m very happy with what I chose. I think you will be able to find something that is flattering and is still “you” if you keep looking.
Post # 8
It would be easier if I looked BAD in the lacey, romantic, vintage-y dresses. I don’t. In fact, I think I look very nice. But objectively, I know my body looks best in dresses with simpler bodices with dropped waists and lots of diagonal ruching.
Post # 9
I love the look of beading and lace and romantic ruffles oh so so much. But on me I look like I’m dressing up in my grandmothers beautiful clothes. So I went with what suited my look best – a 50’s silouhette and simple straight lines.
So long as you’re comfortable and you love it then go for it!
Post # 10
I think its very important to go with what looks best on you. The dress is to compliment you and your womanly features, not the other way around. I found this to be something that took awhile for me to understand, bc i loved Amsale Tyler but she didnt love me back and was very hard to let go of lol
Post # 11
I would vote for choosing the silhouette that looks most flattering, while not totally giving up your style. If they’re made in a fabric you absolutely hate, then obviously don’t get them. But otherwise I think you would love them more in time and they would “become you”, the more you look at yourself and feel stunning. Then you can play with adding elements from your style. For example, I wanted lace, my dress didn’t have it, so I’m getting a very lacey mantilla. I wanted a full skirt but got a trumpet, so I’m fluffing out the skirt with crinoline. Etc etc.
Post # 12
I totally ended up picking the one that looked the best on, even though it was nothing like what I originally envisioned.