Post # 1
I was SO EXCITED to get our engagement photos back from our photographer last week. We did a cute themed session and we both love how the photos came out. Friends and family who saw them also told us they loved the photos. So, since I lvoe to look at big wedding blogs like stylemepretty, 100layercake, etc I thought it would be so so cool to have our photos on them!
we have a tight budget, so our photographer isn’t any big name, she takes amazing pictures but she doesn’t have a blog and doesn’t submit her work to other blogs. So she isn’t going to submit our pics anywhere, but she’s fine with me doing it. I was all ready to send them in and told my Fiance about the plans.
apparently, fi is really against sending them out. He says it’s vain, there’s no point to it, and that I’m just showing off and craving attention. I’m not sure what to tell him. I want to submit these pictures to blogs because I think it would be cool to be featured, to inspire other brides and share our ideas with people who are as excited about weddings as I am. I guess there is an element of seeking attention in that? The thing is, I’m not an attention junkie at all. I haven’t gotten or desired that much attention during the engagement, I am pretty shy and don’t like public speaking. I don’t even use facebook or other social networking sites, for goodness’s sake!
So right now Fi is dead set on no sharing photos, but willing to discuss it further. I need a more convincing argument than “I think it would be cool” or “I want our photos to be an inspiration. I tried explaining that it was like publishing a poem you wrote – I was proud of something we had participated in creating. He said though, that the quality of the pictures is the photographer’s achievement, not mine, and what business do I have showing it off.
Ughh, I had no idea this is such a big deal. it’s not like we’re going on a reality TV show or something. I really need some rational perspectives from other bees on this.
Post # 3
Hmm, I can understand your FI’s position, but I don’t agree with him 🙂
I’m not an attention whore at all. Like, it was hard to be the center of attention on our wedding day. BUT, that said, I submitted our wedding to a blog, and it was published, and I was quite proud of it. The blog feature focused a lot on our details, which we both worked really hard on. Plus, we had a unique wedding, and I was happy to show it off 🙂
I’m also the editor of a wedding inspiration blog myself, and I LOVE featuring photographers that aren’t well known, but crazy talented. You could tell your Fiance that you’re doing it to give your photog some much needed newbie exposure to help get her name out. I mean, if it gets picked up by one of the big ones, it could really help her out.
And worst case scenario, it doesn’t get picked up.
Just keep in mind that blogs like exclusive material, so onky submit to one blog at a time 🙂
Post # 4
That’s unfortunate! I get a lot of my ideas from blogs and looking at other bride’s photos. I think if you put all that time into making a beautiful wedding for your guests, there’s nothing wrong with showing other people in the same boat looking for inspiration! I guess I can see how some people might see it as attention whoring…but overall I think the intentions are good – you’re proud of your event! Nothing wrong with that!
If my pics turn out good enough for a blog, you’d better believe I’d want to submit them!!
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2010 - Indiana Memorial Union
I don’t think it’s wrong, but as far as I’m aware, those blogs only take photos from photographers, not brides. Why not put the pictures in the weddingbee gallery? A lot of those get published on the front page!
Post # 6
I’ve looked in the submission criteria – some take submissions from photographers only, but others encourage both vendors and brides to submit. I didn’t know about the Weddingbee gallery – thanks for the tip. The main concern, though, is still my FI’s reluctance to put these pictures ANYWHERE public…
Post # 7
Have you tried showing your Fiance any wedding blogs where people post their pictures. Maybe if he sees how accepted it is he will be more apt to let you do it. If it’s an issue of privacy with him then you may never be able to change his mind. I would take the angle that many newly engaged women look to blogs to help them with ideas. I know that my first few months of being engaged were spent gathering information and ideas that I could then incorporate into my wedding vision. Blogs are a free way to do that without buying a ton of $9.00 wedding magazines.
Post # 8
heck! I say show ’em off lady! Okay okay, I suppose you should get your Fiance on board. hehe. Is he just shy? Maybe tell him you want to help your photographer out!