papayagirl : I tried posting before but it’s now gone so hopefully this doesn’t create a double-post.
My ex-husband spent all our money/savings right before leaving me (mostly on booze and strippers). I was away on a vacation with my sister at the time. When I returned, he ended our marriage. It was a shock at first but I actually felt relief and excitement afterwards, we did not make each other happy and weren’t right for one another. We both made mistakes which ultimately ended our marriage. On top of spending all our money, he dumped an entire joint-debt on me, refusing to contribute to the payments and denying any attempt to communicate with him. He invited a stripper (who has the same name as me) and her two kids to live in our apartment before I even collected my things (furnitures, extra clothes, etc.), like WTF. I had moved in with my sister pretty much immediately but I see now that was a mistake. 6 months later he reached out to me saying he missed me and wanted us to be a family again (with our two dogs), he said that he would only address the debt if we were a family again otherwise I’m on my own (seriously messed up, he was trying to manipulate me into getting back together with him). I of course said NO WAY and asked him again to take responsibility for his part of the debt. He decided to call me names and ceased contact again (this was moments after he asked to get me back).
Anyways, I got back into the dating world and dated a few guys. Some of them were just fun to be with but one of them I really liked (so much!). He ended up choosing another girl over me. It hurt me but I added the experience to my “lesson pile” and kept moving on with my life because I knew I wanted to be someone’s #1.
Luckily I worked at a travel company and they helped me travel once a year (one of the perks!). So I was planning my next trip and really wanted to go to Egypt, but the flights were too expensive. My company only gave you a certain allowance for flights and the trip itself. My ex-husband left me so broke and destitute that there was literally only one country that I could afford to go to without accumulating extra debt: Turkey.
I met my current SO on that trip. In fact, he was my tour guide 🙈 (classic, I know). We did long distance for two years going back and forth, he took me to Peru and we went to Morocco (another work-sponsored trip).
The thing is, we never would have met if my ex didn’t leave me in such a bad situation. He basically pushed me towards my new SO. Maybe I should thank him, lol! (not really)
No one has ever made me this happy. I used to date a guy that couldn’t even bike to my place to come see me and now I have a man who would cross oceans (and have) to have time with me.
We actually joke that I might have an Egyptian Boyfriend or Best Friend right now if it wasn’t for my ex 🤣
I meant to keep this short but you know how these things go 🙃
We all deserve someone who is over the moon to be with us.