(Closed) Suck it up and pay for the flight or sit this trip out?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Suck it up and pay for the flight or sit this trip out?
    Pay for the flight : (32 votes)
    51 %
    Sit this one out : (31 votes)
    49 %
  • Post # 2
    Member
    1043 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2015

    Is it possible to stay longer than three days?

    I’d personally suck it up if the expense wouldn’t cause you any real hardship. I can’t really imagine a relationship working out in the long term if one person consistently refused to visit the other’s family because they were too far away.

    Post # 3
    Member
    7905 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    $700 is a lot of money! Talk to him more about the logistics of traveling there. Maybe he knows of a flight route that would be cheaper. If the town is smaller, you might be better off flying to the big airport and then driving to your destination. Does he fly a lot for work? He might be able to transfer some frequent flyer miles to you to help with the cost.

    There has to be a more economical way of traveling there. If it’s too costly for either of you to pay for the whole trip, perhaps you could split your travel cost. 

    Post # 4
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    1587 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    Have you met the family before?
    Have you spent holidays together before?

    I’d do it since it’s pretty special to spend a holiday with family if you’re in a serious relationship. I know that’s not an insignificant amount of money, but it would make me question where the relationship falls on your priorities if you are able to afford it and just don’t want to spend that. If you honestly can’t afford it and still pay your bills, then you can’t and that’s understandable.

    Post # 5
    Hostess
    3166 posts
    Sugar bee

    I would suggest a trip together later in the year when you’ve had more time to save and the cost of flights has gone down. If finances are tight right now, it’s a significant expense. Plus you have to consider how much you’re already planning to spend on gifts for loved ones.

    Post # 6
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    253 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    I would consider spending it on a husband or serious live in boyfriend but other scenarios I would just sit it out and try to visit during a different time that is cheaper. I am frugal and this will be my first time flying to see my husbands parents around the xmas holidays. It would have been over $600 for each person to fly there on xmas weekend but only $280 for other weekends in December so we agreed to visit 2 weeks before xmas to save money. His parents did not seem to mind. We can still enjoy the Christmas spirit because its still December.

    If he offers to pay your ticket I think that would be fine too!

    Post # 7
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    47205 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    If he travels for work, does he have points or air miles he could use to purchase both your tickets?

    Post # 8
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    14967 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    For $700 for 3 days.. I’d pass.  Id go another time when I have more vacation time to spend there and flexibility to get cheaper flights.  

    Post # 9
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    6638 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2015

    daisylover77 :  It’s a long time until Xmas… you need to look at tickets in early November, not now!  The prices will generally drop.  Also make sure you check out the redeye flights no one wants.  Are you traveling overseas and/or to another country?  I ask because me flying home from a small local airport to an international one is usually about 600 and that’s a 2000 mile journey in the same country.  I don’t see how it could be more expensive than that!

    Post # 10
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    558 posts
    Busy bee

    Definitely check other routes! If you’re in a hub city, then pick a different airline, or if you are looking at nonstop, try from a nearby smaller airport!

    Post # 11
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    2109 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    Keep checking the flights to see if prices drop. If you do your due diligence and keep looking for a cheaper flight but none appear, your SO should understand. $700 for 3 days is insane. 

    Post # 12
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    9737 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2016

    I wouldn’t spend $700 for 3 days. I would watch to see if it goes down (or if there is a cheaper airport you can fly to and drive a reasonable distance) but unless it’s a pretty drastic drop I just wouldn’t be comfortable spending that amount of money.

    My husband and I always split up for Christmas while dating. There are less expensive times of the year to meet family.

    Post # 13
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    3427 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2016

    Keep checking flights. Is there any way you could do the trip earlier or a couple of weeks later? Tickets may be much cheaper. Or could you fly to a different airport and turn it into a roadtrip the rest of the way by renting a car? 

    I don’t think his family will think you are cheap. That’s a lot of money for someone just starting out. But I do think you should go if you can.

    Post # 14
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    671 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    How long have you been dating? How serious are you guys? Does his family expect you to come and have you met them before? I wouldn’t do this for someone I had been dating less than a year, but If I was nearing engagement or had been dating several years I would, especially if I had not yet met his family or would have limited oppertunity to in the future 

    Post # 15
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    3617 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2000

    If you cant easily  spend $700 on this, then skip it. 

    If it is important to meet his family and get to know them, Christmas hell may not be the best time for that.

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