Sudden divorce…

posted 7 months ago in Beehive
Post # 2
89 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2018 - San Diego, CA

Yeah, my own actually came out of nowhere. My biggest fear was actually people talking about it after the fact. I know people did, but if I found out a friend was talking about it to strangers on the internet I’d be devastated. 

Post # 3
159 posts
Blushing bee

moonandstarsxx :  Not sure if this is an insult to the OP but COME ON. She just opened with the vaguest story ever. No one’s feelings are getting hurt here.

Post # 4
3417 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Even people who don’t know each other could play the role of the happy bride and groom in a “fairytale” wedding. It’s like an Instagram photo – we have no idea what is truly going on behind the scenes.

Post # 6
4035 posts
Honey bee

moonandstarsxx :  Really? Trying to shame a poster about a totally random unidentifiable story? You must have better things to do.

Post # 7
419 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

rainbowduckie :  I was on the other side of this…many of my friends were completely shocked when I left my first husband. Things gradually, but seriously, deteriorated within the marriage…but I never felt like it was appropriate to tell friends b/c i felt like it should be private between me and my then-husband. I finally told some friends when things reached a boiling point and I was ready to move out. I wish I had told at least a few friends what was going on much, much earlier. Also, my ex and I were not the type to disrespect each other or bicker in public, so to everyone we seemed like a really solid couple. You just never know what’s going on at home. 

Post # 8
2192 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

n00bee :  same here. I know it shocked and devastated a lot of family and friends. I couldn’t really talk to anyone about our issues because all our friends and family were mutual, and my ex is a great guy in most ways. 

Post # 9
2917 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

Good thing the couple OP is referring to will never know considering there are no identifying details and it’s an anonymous forum. And how is it any worse than talking to people you know in real life?

OP I know several couples who had the perfect wedding and on social media seem like the perfect couple but behind the scenes are struggling to keep it together, and  are considering divorce. It might be a shock to other people when they split, but not to the people in the relationship.

moonandstarsxx :  

Post # 10
2658 posts
Sugar bee

n00bee :  KittyYogi :  yup.  Only one friend knew what was happening and most people were pretty shocked.

Post # 12
9670 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

Yes. One day my mom called to tell me that some close family friends were getting a divorce. My brother was best friends with their son, we hung out with them all the time, and went on family vacations together. They were at my wedding and then my brothers wedding just a couple months before it suddenly came out that he was having an affair and said horrible things to her (like he never loved her at all) and they got a divorce. 

I’d known them for so long and they always seemed so happy (and not just on social media). It really shook me. My mom was also shocked. Though my dad said he wasn’t and always thought something was off about the husband and that take also shocked my mom and me.

Post # 13
768 posts
Busy bee

Yes. There was one in my SO’s friendship group last year. Together ten years, married in a big showy country house wedding all bells and whistles. split 12 months later due to a gay affair – massive shock to everyone. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Post # 14
1981 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - Sussex, UK

Yes, my close friend has been with her D.H for 20 years, married when she was 30 and when she was pregnant with their second child at 37, which he had really pushed for, he told her he didn’t love her anynore. She was shocked. I was shocked. A lot more has come out about what he’s been up to including seeing other women and trying to drain their savings slowly over the course of a year from their savings. They are going through courts at the moment and sadly he doesn’t want me near the kids as he thinks I talk badly of him which of course I never would in front of them. Luckily I can still speak to her all the time.

My group wedding photo is a little sad as three couple have split since our wedding in May 2016. All involving children.

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