Post # 16
- Wedding: November 2018 - San Diego, CA
oh wow didn’t realize my POV pissed so many people off lol. I was actually stating my opinion and nope I don’t really have anything else to do just being pregnant and stuck at home reading about other people’s drama on the internet. I wasn’t saying it to be rude or condescending, just actually maybe upset about my own life experience and fear of it being talked about. Soooo thanks for all the wonderful feedback guys, truly.
P.S. talking about it to people on the Internet isn’t any different than people talking about it in real life, but because of what I’ve been through I just abstain from doing it in both places, so to each their own <3
Post # 17
Here’s a thought: sometimes it’s not all about you
Post # 18
If this is a touchy subject for you, why would you open a thread whose title makes it pretty clear what it’s about only to be personally offended by it?
I know someone from work who was blindsided by her own divorce. She thought their marriage was fine and he came home one day from work, said he was in love with his co-worker and was moving out that same night and moving in with her. She was devastated. We were friendly but not super close or friends outside of work so I don’t know the situation well enough to know if there were warning signs she missed or if he was a master of deception leading a double life. It seems so cold and cowardly to do that to her totally out of the blue.
Post # 19
I had a good childhood friend whose parents were the picture of LOVE. They played and were affectionate and laughed. They seemed SOO in love and I spent a lot of time at her house.
I moved out of state and connected with her years later as an adult. Her mom had a stroke when she was 19 and her dad abandoned the family (she has two younger siblings she had to take custody of). Her mother lived in a vegetative state for several years so she was juggling her siblings and trying to visit her mother/grieve.
Her dad hooked up with some young girl and he and the new wife are really nasty. My friend actually blocked him from all social media and does her best to keep all info from him.
Blew my mind! They were SO in love, it was heartbreaking to hear what had happened.
My friend is married to a great guy and has a beautiful family so she is doing well thankfully!
Post # 20
An old friend seemed like he was in the perfect relationship. Proposed to his girlfriend in a huge public proposal with an over the top expensive ring. Had 2 weddings, one local and then a destination wedding in the Caribbean, took his new wife and their families on their honeymoon to Europe. They acted sooo in love all of the time, constantly posting about their undying love for each other on social media. Divorced in 2 years. I moved away and lost touch so I have no idea what happened but I couldn’t believe it.
Post # 21
It always surprises me when people who have been dating for YEARS get married and then almost immediately get divorced. You see this among celebrities also. (Look at Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie OR Jennifer Aniston and Justin Thereaux)
You never know what’s going on within someone else’s marriage.
Post # 22
Yes or do so after a baby . I sometimes think the wedding or the baby was actully a sort of attempt to shore up an already failing relationship, consciously or not.
In answer to OP’s question , yes, I had a friend whose husband of about 17 years said he ‘wanted space’, moved out, moved another woman in, had a baby, forced a divorce and got remarried all in most amazingly short space of time. She and their young son were taken totally by surprise. It was all pretty awful.
Post # 23
Not a divorce, but a long term (10+ years) relationship.
He and his gf were the “perfect” couple, so madly in love. She really is a lovely woman, very beautiful and a personality to match her outer beauty.
He got assigned to a third world country for work and they decided, wisely, that she would stay behind.
Next thing we hear, poor guy has dysentery, despite all of the meds his doctor sent him with.
Second thing we hear; he dumped his gf. We were all, WTAF?! No explanation was forthcoming. His gf was gutted. He didn’t tell her anything either.
All we could do was speculate that he found some kind of hookup.
It was especially agonizing because the girlfriend had a child; the product of a date rape. The child lost the only daddy the child had ever known.
Absoluely no one saw that coming. Although, I will admit, I had a very bad feeling about his leaving. Something felt really off to me.