- 8 years ago
- Wedding: December 2023
Sorry that this post is so long – I’m just wondering if this behaviour is normal, and whether anyone has any advice.
We have two fixed male cats from the same litter, just over a year old. They’re both outdoor cats, as we live on a farm – away from any proper roads.
One of the cats, Merlin, has always been ‘my’ cat, and he’s always been fairly affectionate with me – but not my fiance or anyone else. He liked to sit on me quietly, and sometimes push his face in mine before curling up and sleeping, but he’d always be happy to be put and sleep elsewhere when I had to get up, and was always eager to go outside at night.
But now he has suddenly become really super clingy. When I’m home he follows me around the house, if I sit down he stands on me (its a battle trying to get him to sit) and constantly pushes his face into mine.
If I go to the bathroom he follows me there – I’ve had to give up on baths and just take showers because he will get into the bath with me. When he goes to eat he will have a few mouthfuls, run back to me, then go and have another few mouthfuls (repeated until he’s full).
He doesn’t want to go out, except when I try to go to work – when he’ll jump up on my motorbike as I’m trying to leave – so I’ve had to shut him in the house while I’m leaving because it’s too dangerous otherwise.
He’s NEVER been allowed in the bedroom – it’s been strictly a cat free zone – but now he runs in after me and tries to sleep under the covers next to me. If we shut him out he sits by the door and claws and yowls. If we put him outside he sits on the windowsill of the bedroom and does the same thing. My fiance goes crazy, so I’m just letting the cat in at the moment, and trying to ignore him when he paws at me or rubs his face on mine. After a while he lies down and goes to sleep (again, under the covers, practically in my pajamas) but then later he wakes up again and wakes me up.
I’m at a loss as to what to do – there’s been no change in his or our routine. The only thing that’s changed is that my rats had to be put down recently, but he had started all this before then.