- 4 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016
My HUSBAND and I got married on June 14th at 11 am and had an afternoon lunch/champagne and cake reception. The ceremony and reception took place in my parents’ front yard. We got 670 pictures back from our photographer the other day, 13 weeks after our wedding (: I’m going to try to recap our wedding without posting pictures of people other than my Darling Husband and I (as much as possible) to respect their privacy. I wrote most of this when we were on our honeymoon in June so it would be fresh in my mind:
The days leading up to the wedding were super stressful and I would never wish my experience on any bride! 😉 There were thunderstorms and heavy rain for four days before our wedding, which made it really hard for them to put up our tent and they kept putting it off. At one point they even said they might never be able to do it! Needless to say, it cut into our decorating time. They ended up bringing the wrong tent anyways and had to get the right tent from another event. They ended up putting up the tent at 2am and then the next day there was a huge issue with the building inspector so our tent almost didn’t pass inspection. The linen rental also got messed up and my linens were all rented to another bride by accident! Luckily it got resolved when the woman we were renting the linens from found the same linens in another city an hour away. We ended up decorating under the tent Thursday and Friday and luckily the rain stopped Friday night. Our rehearsal went super smoothly and really helped calm me down. Our officiant was so reassuring and helpful- he was amazing!
Our wedding day was absolutely perfect. It was completely stress-free, which was an amazing relief after the stressful week we had! Our wedding was at my parents’ house and so I slept in my bedroom there the night before the wedding. I ended up waking up at 5:30am because I was super nervous and excited. I tried just to relax and enjoy the sunrise. Around 6:30 I decided to start on my makeup and I’m so glad I decided to DIY it, because it gave me something to focus on and I found it very calming. By 7:30 I finished my makeup and went outside to meet up with our DOC (who was also a good friend from highschool) and basically drool at how beautifully everything came together aha. It was the first time I had seen the tent without its walls up so it was pretty magical. I couldn’t believe that after all that rain, the sky was bright blue and cloudless.
My Darling Husband arrived shortly after the DOC around 7:30 and we all worked on setting last minute stuff up like the drinks and desserts for after the ceremony. I’m so glad it was a cool day, because none of the desserts ‘melted’ 😉
The bridesmaids arrived at 8am and helped with setting stuff up as well since the photographer was coming at 8:30 to do detail shots of the stuff under the tent before guests arrived (I’m so glad we asked her to do this, because there was no time after the ceremony with family pictures and our formal bride&groom pictures). Once the photographer and her assistant arrived, we went inside to ‘get ready’. The groomsmen came around 8:30 as well and started slowly getting ready. My bridesmaids got into their dresses and did their makeup and hair. My mom was my Maid/Matron of Honor so she was already at the house and getting ready before the bridesmaids arrived. Our ‘getting ready’ pictures started around 9:15 and lasted until about 10:30 when our photographer went to get pictures of the guys downstairs and guests before the ceremony.
I was so excited that my dress fit and that it went on super smoothly. It had a corset under a zipper and buttons so I was a bit nervous that it would end up taking a long time or that we wouldn’t be able to figure the corset out. Luckily it was pretty quick thanks to my mom and then after some pictures we added my veil and garter. I didn’t actually end up wearing my garter for the ceremony though. I was super nervous and the garter was kind of itchy and tight and I just didn’t have the patience for that 😉 I wore it after the ceremony though and decided not to toss it. It’s by Florrie Mitton and was a total splurge so it’s a keepsake aha. I wore shoes for our pictures, but for the ceremony I was actually barefoot under my dress (: it was so comfortable and made me so happy!
I did my bridal portraits in my bedroom even though my photographer kept insisting that for my best interest we move them to my parents’ bedroom. I stood my ground, because I really wanted pictures in my room. It’s a really pretty room with a canopy bed and matching built-ins and window seat. It has a ton of natural light and nice fabrics.. Honestly, this is the only part of the day that really frustrated me. First, she hadn’t even seen the master bedroom because the door was locked so she had no idea if it was actually better. Second, my parents didn’t get their room “photo ready” because they didn’t think anyone would be in there. Third, my parents border collie was being kept in there with a dog-sitter during the wedding. It would have been super stressful to move him around- he’s really skiddish. The part that really bugged me was that they asked my Darling Husband and he said no and then they asked me. It was just very manipulative.
Anyways, we took my bridal portraits and then went downstairs about 10 minutes before the ceremony. At that point the guys were waiting at the ceremony space and the ring warming ceremony began outside. We chose to do it before the ceremony so that it wouldn’t take up a bunch of time during the ceremony. Our DOC collected the rings on our ring pillow a few minutes before the ring warming ceremony, they were passed around, and then our DOC collected them and gave the rings to the best man. I was super nervous at this point and was trying to relax. Our officiant came in right before 11 and asked if we wanted to postpone until about 11:10 or so since there were a few people missing. We decided to wait a bit longer if they didn’t show up, but only a couple minutes since we had a feeling a couple of our rvsps would be no shows.
We went outside and ‘hid’ behind the side of the house, waiting for the string trio to begin the processional music. I can’t even describe the feeling right before I went to walk down the aisle. It was so surreal and I remember telling my dad that it didn’t feel real. When you see a bride walking down the aisle, it’s really magical and it’s almost like she’s untouchable or superhuman or something. It was just so hard to believe that I was about to be the bride in that image, that I was going to be that magical bride!
When I came down the aisle my Darling Husband was crying! I always pictured him with a huge smile and he had that too, but he was continuously wiping tears from his eyes. It was so sweet and I’m so excited because our photographers and videographers captured it really well. My Darling Husband asked that I not post pictures of his reaction on here though ;). I remember wanting to yell at our photographer to turn around and take pictures of chris’ reaction aha. I didn’t even cry, I just couldnt stop smiling! As someone who cries at sappy commercials, I totally thought I would cry!
The ceremony went perfectly and there were absolutely no hiccups! At one point we had our string trio play a song that my Darling Husband wrote several years ago in memory of his mom. This was one of the most emotional parts of the ceremony. After about 30 seconds of hearing the song, my Darling Husband started really crying. I could tell that it was about to happen so I wrapped my arms around him and started rubbing his back. He was able to put his face into my neck to cry more privately if that makes sense. He has cried in front of me lots of times, but he doesn’t ever cry in front of others. I was so proud of him that he let himself be in the moment and not try to block what he was feeling. Honestly, over half of the guests were in tears, even people from my family who didn’t know his mom. The entire wedding party cried, even the groomsmen (the best man was my BIL and the groomsman standing beside him was my brother and when I saw them starting to cry I really wanted to rush over and hug them and comfort them too, but I didn’t want to let go of DH). I almost cried a bunch of times, but I was trying so hard to comfort my Darling Husband that tears never actually fell. It was really hard not to cry though when I saw my Father-In-Law in complete tears. It was definitely an emotional part of our ceremony and I think it was a perfect way to honour his mom.
Our vow exchange went super smoothly and I love how our first kiss turned out! I was nervous that we would somehow forget how to kiss with all the people around us aha! It was a very personal and emotional ceremony filled with lots of love. We wrote our ceremony ourselves and i’m excited to share it in our recaps.
After the ceremony, we went and took formal family pictures in my parents’ fields while our guests ate lunch and had drinks. We had a dessert table, bellini bar, salad, and sandwiches. We also had a signature drink- the blushing bride cocktail, homemade pink lemonade, coffee, tea, beer, champagne, soda, etc. People also enjoyed the favours during our ‘cake and champagne reception’. People could take rock candy, honey sticks, and a few different types of tea (: the rock candy was by far the most popular.
My dad cut a path in my parents’ fields for our bride and groom pictures and in the end we did get some there, but our photographer really wanted to go to our neighbour’s houses to take pictures. At one house no one was home and she was like “well I have no problem with tresspassing”. I told her I wasn’t comfortable with it since it isn’t appropriate, it’s a reflection on my parents who have to live near these people for likely a long time, and who knows what animals they could have in their fields! She’s not from the country so she doesn’t get that you can’t just walk around random pastures! Thankfully she dropped it and we went to another field with permission and the knowledge that there weren’t bulls walking around 😉
We got back about 20 minutes behind schedule and so we quickly did our first dance to Overwhelmed by Tim McMorris and then the father daughter dance to What a Wonderful World by Louis Armstrong. It was nice because my mom and Darling Husband danced at the end of that one even though both of them dislike dancing in front of people. My brother and I even did a brother/sister dance to The Cave by Mumford and Sons. After the dances we did our cake cutting and cut our cinnamon toast crunch layer -yummm! I tossed my toss bouquet (a mini version of my bouquet) and my cousin caught it (: I was excited about that since I know she’s been waiting for a proposal for years!
Father Daughter Dance:
Once that stuff was done we just hung out with our guests and ate some cake and sandwiches. I’m so proud that we actually got to sample all the tiers and cakes AND try a bunch of sandwiches. All of our food was from our favourite bakery. When we were first dating in highschool we would go every Saturday to get dessert for breakfast aha. Our cake topper is actually one I wanted since I was a little girl (probably about 5) and growing up I would dream of having it on my wedding cake. When we got engaged and I bought it, it turned out that it was the exact same one that had been sitting on the shelf all those years! My dream came true!
It didn’t start raining until 4:30pm after all of the guests had gone home and it was just the (drunk) wedding party aha. The designated drivers drove the wedding party home around 5 and we left shortly after. We left in my parents’ mustang convertible and since it stopped raining for a little while, we got to have the top down. We drove around and a bunch of people honked and said congratulations and stuff (: we drove to one of our favourite parks by the water and walked around before we went home. It was so nice being able to soak it all in.
It was truly beautiful and magical seeing all of our work from the past 2.5 years come together in one gorgeous day. We collected decorations (especially the milk glass and depression glass and most of the milk glass was from my Oma for an engagement present) and worked on the small personal pretty details for years. I’m so happy that I got to marry my best friend and true love. When we were 17 and had been dating about four months, we saw a shooting star and wished that someday we would get married. Our wish came true on 14.06.14. We’ve done so many big things together as a team: applied to colleges and universities, graduated highschool, moved to a new city, started postsecondary, moved in together, got engaged, bought a car, graduated university, bought a house… and now got married. He makes me so brave and he has helped me grow into a better person. I’m so happy and lucky that I can call him my husband.
The weather was amazing on our wedding day- it eventually got a bit overcast, wasn’t too windy or humid, and was nice and cool! I know the guests were a bit chilly, but the wedding party was actually super comfortable and it was perfect weather for my Darling Husband and I since neither of us like the heat 🙂 My mom brought out blankets and sweaters for people after the ceremony.
Things that went right: Almost everything! No complaints- it was the perfect day and went so smoothly. Also, my Oma was able to attend the wedding and she stayed to see our first dance and father daughter dance (: She had a stroke the Wednesday before the wedding and her kidneys were in extreme failure – we weren’t sure if she would be able to make it to the wedding. Words can’t even describe how thankful I am that she was able to be there and that we were able to see her on our wedding day. She passed away on July 30th and everyone at her wake/funeral knew about our wedding. I guess she couldn’t stop talking about it to anyone who would listen and she said it was the highlight of her summer 😀 I was the first and only grandchild she was able to see get married. It makes me so happy that she was so proud and excited about our wedding.
Things that went “wrong”: Some guests left early (before we even got back from pictures) because they found it too chilly. Also, since it was chilly, the butterflies were really sleepy and didn’t fly out of the box for the release. We ended up just putting some on our fingers and then onto my bouquet and dress. Our photographer really frustrated me on the wedding day, but that was the biggest issue and our day was awesome despite her attitude (:
I’ll leave the link for our wedding highlight video as well (only about 4 minutes) – http://vimeo.com/99286366