Post # 1
FI and I are having a DW and I need help letting my guests know what they should/should not wear to our wedding.
The entire wedding (ceremony and reception) will be taking place on the sand. So it would be silly for our guests to show up in ballgowns/suits and high heels/dress shoes. I want our guests to be comfortable and not feel over dressed. I want to emphasize that they should dress for warm beachy weather…
I’ve already had several people ask me what “resort” the wedding is being held at, despite the fact they’ve received STD’s indicating that the wedding is at a Beach Club. Getting married at a beach club instead of a resort means that the wedding is more casual/laid back and not very formal.
I want to include an insert with the invitations (or possibly a section in our wedding website) letting people know that they should dress casually and wear sandals (not heels), but I don’t want to be that girl that tells people what they should wear.
Does anyone have any suggestions as to how I can word this in a cute way (maybe a cute little poem)?
Should include this info with the invitation at all?
Should I only put it on the website?
Invitations need to go out in a few weeks!
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
I would go with a blurb on your wedding website and word of mouth. As a DW, you probably wont have a huge number of attendees. Between you, your FI, and your close family members, it should be fairly easy to spread the word that it’s a sandals and sun dresses type of wedding.
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2014 - Greenbrier Country Club
Include it on the website.
No need for a cute poem, or the extra wording on the invite. If it’s a beach wedding, I think people would know what to wear though.
Post # 5
@LaEsposa: At the bottom of your invite you can say “Beach casual attire is requested”. On your website you can say: “Please dress comfortably– you will be in the hot sand! I recommend that the guys leave the suits at home and wear khakis and button down shirts and that the ladies stick to sun dresses and flat shoes.”
Post # 6
@Anna10-05-2014: yes, you would think people have enough common sense to figure out that beach wedding = casual dress!
The problem is DW’s are a foreign concept to my FI’s family, especially one that takes place completely on the sand. FMIL has been going on and on about FI’s and his brothers wearing tuxedos and what gown she wants to wear, so I’m afraid she is spreading bad info to her side of the family, even though I know she means well.
Post # 7
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@LaEsposa: Wedding website info for sure. I even posted pics of people in the clothing I was thinking of so there would be examples.
Post # 8
@LaEsposa: All you can do is let people know the conditions for the wedding (outdoor, in sand, etc). and suggest a level of attire. Then let it be. Some will be more formally dressed than you would choose and some less formally dressed. That’s how these things work. But that’s okay. I had a backyard wedding and got lots of questions about what to wear, so I put this on our website:
Post # 9
@LaEsposa: Please don’t do a poem. Those tend to be quite ghastly.
i think a quick line somewhere about casual/beach wear being fine is fine.
Post # 10
@LaEsposa: We did it on our wedding website. We explained that our wedding is on so-and-so type of terrain which makes it hard for stiletto heels. We also explained that the weather is going to be hot. We said that cocktail attire was suggested which would be in line with the modern feel of our reception
Post # 11
@LaEsposa: We had a similar situation. Our DW was held at a rugged site in the mountains with rocky, unpaved trails.
Therefore, we described the surroundings on our website and emphasized that guests should wear footwear appropriate for the terrain, and that they were encouraged to go exploring after the ceremony while we took pictures.
Post # 12
@LaEsposa: We put a section on our wedding website that indicated the suggested attire for guests. We put our wedding website address on our invitation so that everyone knew where to look.
Even if you make suggestions there will undoubtedly be someone that ignores or overlooks the suggestions so be prepared if that bothers you. We implicitly said NO jeans as our wedding was very formal. Yet a friend’s husband came in wearing bright blue jeans. I was beyond irritated considering that she of all people knew what our wedding was going to be like and had even asked about my feelings about jeans. Some people will just do what they want regardless of what is required, requested or acceptable.
Post # 13
wedding website and spread the word. tell your mom, moh, friends, cousins, etc. word will get around.
Post # 14
@JenGirl: That’s a really cute idea!
@Zhabeego: LOL, I wouldn’t have been able to come up with one anyways… but your response made me laugh!
Post # 15
@LaEsposa: Just put it on your wedding website. That being said, no one read my wedding website even though it was listed on our STD and an insert in our invite packet. We still had people calling asking where to stay, etc. FWIW, I’m a beach wedding photographer, and despite my couples being physically married in the sand – there are always people who show up in suits and heels. They look pretty silly – but to each their own.
Post # 16
We’re getting married on a lake, and the grass tends to be a little soft. I put something on our website about the venue being outdoors, and followed it up with “Dressy-Casual attire appreciated. Dancing shoes highly encouraged, but heels that might sink in the ground are not reccomended.”