(Closed) Suggestions for ring upgrade, please…

posted 6 years ago in Rings
  • poll: What do you think I should do...
    remake the e-ring as a 3-stone ring, using current centre stone as a side stone : (16 votes)
    25 %
    remake the e-ring as a 3-stone ring, using all the same size (0.30 ct) stones : (0 votes)
    replace the current centre stone with a larger stone, either diamond or moissanite : (18 votes)
    28 %
    leave these rings alone and add an eternity ring : (20 votes)
    31 %
    something else entirely : (10 votes)
    16 %
  • Post # 3
    443 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I think your set would look great flanked by an eternity band! But then again I am not a believer in changing your original set.

    Post # 4
    3340 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

    Why do you want to change your rings on your 10th anniversary?  Do you not like them now?  Or are you afraid you won’t like them in the future?  Are you just planning on upgrading the center stone?  Or do you want a whole new look?  Sorry, I’m just confused.

    Post # 5
    2903 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I don’t really like the idea of getting another eternity band because it may overwhelm your center stone. So… I say eaither just upgrade your center stone or add a halo head around your existing diamond.

    Post # 7
    1473 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    You could always update the whole engagement ring. New stone and setting with a moissanite and maybe give your original ring to one of your children as an engagement ring or something like that.


    Post # 8
    8041 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @10plus:  I would either add a halo around your existing center stone or upgrade the center stone to a larger diamond. I’d personally rather have a smaller diamond than a larger moissanite, but that’s just me.


    Post # 9
    1266 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I like the idea of upgrading the center stone and using the current center as a sidestone for a three stone ring. πŸ™‚

    Post # 10
    3063 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I think if you’re going to be upgrading you may as well just go for a whole new stone and turn your original diamond into a necklace or right hand ring… or get a second stone someday and wear them as stud earrings! Smile

    Post # 11
    1531 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    Oh, don’t include me in your concern about not understanding!!! I absolutely get it. I am going through something like you are, to a lesser degree. I don’t want my centre stone changed, but I have picked out an anniversary ring to replace a small half eternity ring. I will wear the small half eternity ring on my right hand. 

    The only glitch in this is I am assuming my SO is going to buy the one I picked out lol! It could be another one.

    Now, back to your dilemma. I love your set, I really do. There is something very classy about it. In my opinion, if I were looking for more bling and/or a slightly different look, I would go with a half pave eternity band. I love pave (that’s my thing lol).

    My only concern is replacing your diamond with Moissy. While I love the look, you have a lovely diamond that has lasted you 10 years and seen you through all the adventures you have been on. A diamond can bear the weight of that tale and although Moissy is “almost” as durable, if you ask a gemologist the difference on the MOH’s scale of hardness between a 9 and a 10 is actually quite substantial.

    As far as a 3 stone ring, with your original as a sidestone? It just might work with your band. I hesitate only because I have  a 3 stone ring and rarely wear it. I find it too uncomfy. I am always aware that it is there and I cannot wait to remove it. I am sure others feel differently, so I can only speak for myself. It is a very lovely look.

    Again, my preference is pave 1/2 anniversary band. I will be (hopefully) getting mine either on the 25th of next month or before. I chose 1/2 tcw  so it wouldn’t take away from my centre stone. The band being replaced is the one closest to fingertip. Hard to tell, but it is much smaller than the other one. πŸ™‚

    On the offchance you have not seen my rings, here they are (again lol)

    I hope I haven’t been too wordy (lol!) I do go on at times.

    Post # 13
    1245 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Congrats on the upcoming anniversary!  I too am a member of the 10+ club πŸ™‚

    I totally understand wanting to change up your set.  Your tastes change over time and I think an anniversary is a great time to do it.  I have changed my set several times over the years so I don’t find it odd at all that you want something different.

    I totally hear you about your husband not being excited about diamonds – I have one just like him!  Mine thinks diamonds and fine jewelry for that matter are a waste of money – and yes, sometimes I agree – but he’s indulged me to this point.  He hates me talking about changing things up so I am done. πŸ™‚

    My original e-ring diamond was around .42 ct.  I had that made into a pendant so I like the idea of taking your original diamond and doing the same.  Then you can wear the one your husband proposed with – you still have that sentimentality behind it.

    I also like the 3 stone idea – I have a 3 stone ring myself.  I think that kind of ring would look nice with your existing band.

    For my 10th anniversary I got a half eternity band.  Honestly, I hardly wear it.  I find it rather uncomfortable with my 3 stone ring and the 2 end diamonds come loose all the time.  I was told it’s a well made ring – I had it sized down and ever since I did, the diamonds are constantly coming loose.

    Go to your jeweler and get an estimate on different options.  That may steer you one way or another.  Good luck! πŸ™‚

    I would not add a halo to your existing setting.  I just don’t think it will look right.  Maybe I’m wrong.  I don’t have Photoshop so I cannot play around with it to see.

    Post # 15
    1176 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @10plus:  Well, any way you slice it, rings ARE a frivolous expense. But they’re so nice, lol! Add me to your list of fellow Bees who are excited about your idea. However, if finances are limited, I personally would be more excited about spending a large chunk of change on a cruise, or on paying off the house earlier. So in your situation I would discount diamonds (I own both, and prefer moissanite anyway).

    Do you want to keep your original wedding band, or are you considering a completely new set?

    I like the idea of a new ring, instead of resetting your current stone. That way you could keep the original ering (maybe to give to a daughter). I’d want a bigger stone, for sure. Have you looked at other jewels, aside from moissanite? BetterThanDiamond.com does some lovely gemstone rings. You could get a RHR instead of a wedding set . . .? 

    Also, have you looked on diamondbistro.com? So many possibilities!!!

    Anyway, if I were you I’d get a budget before I gave more thought to this idea. You have –what? — at least 5 months to save up, right? Can you afford $200-300 per month? That’d get you a gorgeous moissanite ring.

    Congratulations on your upcoming anniversary, that’s awesome. And three cheers for frivolous expenses of the sparkly variety!

    Post # 16
    5788 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @starla:  +1 I think you should keep the original (sentimental reasons) and I personally like the look of 3 stones v. halos. Depends on what you like (try them on, you can’t tell from pictures!) and your budget. Would you consider using what you have for one side stone, getting a second .3 to match it for the other side, and getting a totally different shaped stone in the middle? Maybe an oval? Or a pear? And keep the wedding band as is. Or a gemstone even for the center stone on the 3 stone! Oooo how about an emerald! πŸ™‚ What’s your anniversary month? You could do the color for that month …

    The topic ‘Suggestions for ring upgrade, please…’ is closed to new replies.

    Find Amazing Vendors