Post # 1
I already posted about the idea of a three-stone ring…
But after drooling over all the gorgeous rings on here, I am not necessarily convinced of what I would like.
I’m posting a picture of what my rings look like now. They are diamonds, with the largest being 0.30 cts, and the wedding band consisting of antique diamonds from my grandmother’s ring.
The idea is to have one or both of them reset for my 10th anniversary. I am open to hearing all ideas…halos, multiple stone settings, diamonds, moissanite…or leaving them alone and adding an eternity band. Please tell me what you think would look best. Thank you!!
Post # 3
I think your set would look great flanked by an eternity band! But then again I am not a believer in changing your original set.
Post # 4
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
Why do you want to change your rings on your 10th anniversary? Do you not like them now? Or are you afraid you won’t like them in the future? Are you just planning on upgrading the center stone? Or do you want a whole new look? Sorry, I’m just confused.
Post # 5
I don’t really like the idea of getting another eternity band because it may overwhelm your center stone. So… I say eaither just upgrade your center stone or add a halo head around your existing diamond.
Post # 6
With my tenth anniversary coming up, I am looking at ideas for how to mark the milestone. 10 years seems like an opportunity to explore an update/update on my wedding rings. If I opt out of doing it now, I doubt it will ever happen. Which might be OK, but I haven’t decided yet!
I am excited by the development of moissanite since I first went shopping for “bling,” and I am open to including different gemstones. I may end up doing nothing, but I do love sparklies and there are SO many ideas on this website that I find it hard to settle on any one thing.
I am sure there are many ladies on here who love jewels, so it seemed like a good place to ask. So far, it is a bit surprising that the only answers I’ve had are from people who either don’t understand the idea or are not excited by it. I thank you and appreciate all feedback, but I do find that a bit surprising. Are there any bees on here who get fired up by any opportunity to purchase/design/acquire more jewelry?
Post # 7
You could always update the whole engagement ring. New stone and setting with a moissanite and maybe give your original ring to one of your children as an engagement ring or something like that.
Post # 8
@10plus: I would either add a halo around your existing center stone or upgrade the center stone to a larger diamond. I’d personally rather have a smaller diamond than a larger moissanite, but that’s just me.
Post # 9
I like the idea of upgrading the center stone and using the current center as a sidestone for a three stone ring. 🙂
Post # 10
I think if you’re going to be upgrading you may as well just go for a whole new stone and turn your original diamond into a necklace or right hand ring… or get a second stone someday and wear them as stud earrings!
Post # 11
Oh, don’t include me in your concern about not understanding!!! I absolutely get it. I am going through something like you are, to a lesser degree. I don’t want my centre stone changed, but I have picked out an anniversary ring to replace a small half eternity ring. I will wear the small half eternity ring on my right hand.
The only glitch in this is I am assuming my SO is going to buy the one I picked out lol! It could be another one.
Now, back to your dilemma. I love your set, I really do. There is something very classy about it. In my opinion, if I were looking for more bling and/or a slightly different look, I would go with a half pave eternity band. I love pave (that’s my thing lol).
My only concern is replacing your diamond with Moissy. While I love the look, you have a lovely diamond that has lasted you 10 years and seen you through all the adventures you have been on. A diamond can bear the weight of that tale and although Moissy is “almost” as durable, if you ask a gemologist the difference on the MOH’s scale of hardness between a 9 and a 10 is actually quite substantial.
As far as a 3 stone ring, with your original as a sidestone? It just might work with your band. I hesitate only because I have a 3 stone ring and rarely wear it. I find it too uncomfy. I am always aware that it is there and I cannot wait to remove it. I am sure others feel differently, so I can only speak for myself. It is a very lovely look.
Again, my preference is pave 1/2 anniversary band. I will be (hopefully) getting mine either on the 25th of next month or before. I chose 1/2 tcw so it wouldn’t take away from my centre stone. The band being replaced is the one closest to fingertip. Hard to tell, but it is much smaller than the other one. 🙂
On the offchance you have not seen my rings, here they are (again lol)
I hope I haven’t been too wordy (lol!) I do go on at times.
Post # 12
Thank you for the ideas so far…goes to show how many options there are, and why I find it hard to choose!! I am leaning towards resetting my existing stone as a side stone….something like this would go with my band, I think:
Part of the challenge is the cost. Even after 10 years, my husband is not as excited about diamonds as I am (is this unusual? lol). His ring is titanium and he is happy to be done with thinking about it. lol
My best argument is that our daughter has diamond for her birthstone, and I would like to be able to pass down my diamonds to her. I think if I put it that way, my husband is less likely to think it a frivolous thing to spend money on. We have three children, too, so the three stones have more than one meaning for me…but my husband isn’t as moved as I am by sentimental mathematics. We are less than three years away from paying off our house, so I’ll see if I can factor that in too…HA!
The next step is probably to go to my jeweler and find out what he can do. If he says it’s going to be 10 thousand bucks, I’ll just have to re-think the whole thing! We may need those smackers to pay for braces, hockey, a second car, or all of the above, and I don’t want to be accused of putting myself before the family. But I sure do love the ring porn on here!! Thank you for your input!!!
Post # 13
Congrats on the upcoming anniversary! I too am a member of the 10+ club 🙂
I totally understand wanting to change up your set. Your tastes change over time and I think an anniversary is a great time to do it. I have changed my set several times over the years so I don’t find it odd at all that you want something different.
I totally hear you about your husband not being excited about diamonds – I have one just like him! Mine thinks diamonds and fine jewelry for that matter are a waste of money – and yes, sometimes I agree – but he’s indulged me to this point. He hates me talking about changing things up so I am done. 🙂
My original e-ring diamond was around .42 ct. I had that made into a pendant so I like the idea of taking your original diamond and doing the same. Then you can wear the one your husband proposed with – you still have that sentimentality behind it.
I also like the 3 stone idea – I have a 3 stone ring myself. I think that kind of ring would look nice with your existing band.
For my 10th anniversary I got a half eternity band. Honestly, I hardly wear it. I find it rather uncomfortable with my 3 stone ring and the 2 end diamonds come loose all the time. I was told it’s a well made ring – I had it sized down and ever since I did, the diamonds are constantly coming loose.
Go to your jeweler and get an estimate on different options. That may steer you one way or another. Good luck! 🙂
I would not add a halo to your existing setting. I just don’t think it will look right. Maybe I’m wrong. I don’t have Photoshop so I cannot play around with it to see.
Post # 14
@country chic: Thank you! It is nice to know I am not alone! I will talk to my jeweler and see what he can suggest.
Post # 15
@10plus: Well, any way you slice it, rings ARE a frivolous expense. But they’re so nice, lol! Add me to your list of fellow Bees who are excited about your idea. However, if finances are limited, I personally would be more excited about spending a large chunk of change on a cruise, or on paying off the house earlier. So in your situation I would discount diamonds (I own both, and prefer moissanite anyway).
Do you want to keep your original wedding band, or are you considering a completely new set?
I like the idea of a new ring, instead of resetting your current stone. That way you could keep the original ering (maybe to give to a daughter). I’d want a bigger stone, for sure. Have you looked at other jewels, aside from moissanite? BetterThanDiamond.com does some lovely gemstone rings. You could get a RHR instead of a wedding set . . .?
Also, have you looked on diamondbistro.com? So many possibilities!!!
Anyway, if I were you I’d get a budget before I gave more thought to this idea. You have –what? — at least 5 months to save up, right? Can you afford $200-300 per month? That’d get you a gorgeous moissanite ring.
Congratulations on your upcoming anniversary, that’s awesome. And three cheers for frivolous expenses of the sparkly variety!
Post # 16
@starla: +1 I think you should keep the original (sentimental reasons) and I personally like the look of 3 stones v. halos. Depends on what you like (try them on, you can’t tell from pictures!) and your budget. Would you consider using what you have for one side stone, getting a second .3 to match it for the other side, and getting a totally different shaped stone in the middle? Maybe an oval? Or a pear? And keep the wedding band as is. Or a gemstone even for the center stone on the 3 stone! Oooo how about an emerald! 🙂 What’s your anniversary month? You could do the color for that month …