(Closed) suggestions for uneven attendance for bride and groom at church

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
1006 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Umm.. don’t have sides? It’s really not a big deal. Just have your immediate family sit on the specific “side” and then have the ushers seat everyone evenly on both sides. No one will care!

Post # 5
1006 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

You can even make it more of a theme if that will help. I’ve seen signs that people have placed at the front that say:

“No need to pick a side

Just pick a seat

Because today, two families

Are becoming one”

Post # 7
3718 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

We told my FI’s mom that there will be no sides– people will be here to support us as a couple, not Fiance or me. Therefore they can seat themselves wherever (outside of immediate family and some extended family). Our church is set up where 2/3s of the seating is on the bride’s side, 1/3 of the guest list is on FI’s side, and we will fill every seat!

Post # 9
9952 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Skip the sign…

I agree with @scadadle15:  just have a chit-chat with the Groomsmen / Ushers, so they are clear on which family members get the “side specific” seating, and who gets the preferred spots at the front … everyone else they can sit equally.

And well, I’d also have a chat with your Dad, telling him that although you understand “the tradition” that as the Bride (truly being in the middle of this “union” between families)… you don’t want to make your Inlaws feel uncomfortable in anyway on this BIG DAY for their son…

This is NOT A COMPETITION between the two families

A wedding is meant to be a blending of two families into one LOVING AND CARING relationship… a coming together “respectfully” means things will be easier on you as the Bride, and as a couple…

Remind him that will be important gestures / considerations if the time ever comes when there are Grandkiddies involved… as the “future” belongs to all of you starting today (LIFE IS NOT A COMPETITION)

Hope this helps,

(( HUGS ))


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