Post # 1
I need to vent a little
My Fiance and I went suit shopping this weekend (mind you.. I didn’t even expect to be a part of this process at all) and it was the most miserable experience ever!!! He was grumpy the entire day. He made me do all the work (talking to the sales people, finding stores to go to, picking out suits, finding his size, CARRYING THE SUITS FOR HIM) and complained the whole time. “I’m not comfortable.” “This suit is too pricey.” and at the end of the day he lost his cool and went on about how he was tired of shopping and just wanted me to make up my mind. I looked at him all confused and said “MY mind? I didn’t even expect to be a part of this trip! This is your decision!” He tells me “All I care about is that I’m comfortable and that you like the way I look. You need to pick the suit YOU like!”
Correction: all he cared about was finding a suit…
-in the perfect shade of light gray,
-that made him forget that he’s gained 30lbs
-that i would over the moon about
-that the suit cost LESS THAN $250!!!!!!
-and that the suit was easy accessible/buyable for all 7 of his groomsmen across the states to go buy.
IT WAS IMPOSSIBLE!
I tried offering alternate solutions…
“What if you guys rent….” “That’s such a waste of money!”
“What if the groomsmen just wore slacks, a button down, and a vest… or suspenders?” “Ugh, don’t even say that. It looks so stupid!”
“What about something unusual? Like khakis and a really nice cardigan? or mismatching suits?” “You have GOT to be KIDDING!”
My Fiance is usually such a great guy, but honestly I COULD NOT STAND HIM! He was being a giant baby! And I’ve got a thousand other things to plan for this wedding. He barely has anything to do at all. I shouldn’t have to make this decision for him. I don’t want to make this decision! And I honestly just dont care! I cannot wait to put this part of wedding planning behind me for good! <br /><br />Phew…. glad to have that off my chest. Any other bees have AWFUL experiences like this with your grooms?
Post # 2
That does sound like a HUGE ass pain. But….he’s gained 30pounds. I know that when I go clothes shopping after gaining weight it is always a horrible, horrible experience. Everything seems wrong and like nothing will ever be good enough/the right price/what I want. I’m guessing he wanted you to come along as moral support to tell him that he looks amazing and handsome in the suits.
I just think that it could be the root problem that makes everything else 10x worse.
Post # 3
Have you considered having the suits made?
Several Bees have used Studio Suits so you should be able to find reviews. You choose the fabric, color, all the style details, everyone submits their own measurements-easy peasy.
Post # 4
Trust me, I showered that boy in compliments. I actually think he looks great right now, even if he disagrees. But I definitely know what you mean. Going shopping when I dont like how I look is the pitts!
Post # 5
I hadn’t even heard of this! Thank you for sending this my way!!
Post # 6
ugh. YES. I feel you. My Fiance vetoed our rehersal dinner caterer, so I told him to find another one. Suddenly, that caterer became acceptable. Ha.
What about Combatant Gentleman? Our GMs are getting their suits made there, and for $160, it’s not a bad deal / fairly low risk. They own all parts of the supply chain, from sheep to finished product. Tony Hsieh, the founder of Zappos, is an investor.
Post # 7
We have yet to even pick the Groomsmen yet but I can already see the problems ahead. Money is going to be the main issue. I think guys just don’t really like to spend that kind of money. The Bridesmaid or Best Man are easy though most girls are all on board. Well at least mine are but guys can just be as complicated as women and don’t like to admit it.
Post # 8
Rolls eyes. That sounds just like my Fiance a few weeks back. Grouchy all day, we couldn’t agree on what we wanted, and he ended up in a sulk the rest of the evening. They really can be big babies. To top it off, we were only around 8 weeks away from the wedding at that point, and we’d not even begun thinking about the groomsmens suits. Jeez.
Eventually, I just told him to get his act together and go shopping with his mates. At least I knew that he wouldn’t be such a whiny thing with them the way he can afford to be with me.
Well he surprised me and came home with a decent suit so it all worked out… But I feel your pain!!
Post # 9
- Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast
Finding suits is hard! I ended up letting the guys have “mismatched” suits. We have 2 “big & tall” groomsmen and another that is “short & small”. They just plain don’t make the same suit in those 2 sizes! 2 of our groomsmen got a merona suit from target for $70. 2 other’s got a suit from JCP for $120. Both are a similar mid-grey shade. My fiance is going to get a light-grey suit from Express. I looked at a lot of pictures of mismatched groomsmen and in the end figured as long as they’re all pretty similar “mid-grey” that It can work. Our bridesmaids will be matching so that should help make the bridal party look ‘cohesive’. https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/736x/c7/ed/7a/c7ed7a766729177d05eb00cfb8f8a40c.jpg