(Closed) Sulking BM walking up the aisle!!!!!!

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Did you have a bridesmaid that sulked walking up the aisle?

    Yes and I had a problem with her

    Yes but there was no issue between us

    No, all my bridesmaids smiled walking up the aisle

  • Post # 47
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    2010 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    There were a lot of smiling faces at our wedding. But also, in some of the best pictures, my photographer has captured people naturally. Because I want to remember the people who shared my day as they are, not grinning manically like loons. None of my pictures were ruined if people looked thoughtful and none of yours are ruined because of the expression of one person who wasn’t either the bride or the groom.

    Move on from this before you allow it to ruin what should have been the best day of your life. You can’t reinvent history but you can spoil all your memories by obsessing over one element.

    Post # 48
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    32 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @PetalFace:  I totally understand that you’re hurting. I’m having my own issues with bridesmaids and just kicked out my Maid/Matron of Honor. I guess what I was trying to say is… think of all  the amazing and positive things that happened that day. You married the love of your life and anyone who didn’t come or came with a puss on their face doesn’t matter.

    Post # 49
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    874 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @SweetartMD:  LOL!!  Yep….this will be me and my girls too focused on not falling to smile.  My biggest fear to fall in heels…..I am such a clutz in heels.

    Post # 50
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    2655 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @SweetartMD:  They look like they are walking down a runway 🙂 I agree, beautiful!

    Post # 51
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    6386 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Its like catching a friend talk behind your back.

    @PetalFace:  While I understand you’re disappointed, I have to disagree with this statement.  To put things in perspective, you’re equating someone not smiling in your pictures to someone talking about you behind your back.  I think you are making yourself more upset than you need to be.

    Post # 52
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    1988 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @PetalFace:  What does she look like in the posed group photos or candid photos from the reception?  If her expression that you are concerned about is only during the ceremony that may just be the way she looks when concentrating, or she was nervous having people looking at her.

    Post # 53
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    5879 posts
    Bee Keeper

    You are totally over analyzing. I get it you had issues with her while getting ready. But I know tons of people, my SO included, who do not smile in pictures. Sorry, bridal party members, aren’t professional models, they are real people, who get nervous and feel anxiety. You’re married now, your pics of you and your groom are what really matters. Refocus your energy. 

    Post # 55
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    165 posts
    Blushing bee

    @housebee:  +1 

    How a photographer caught your bridesmaid’s expression at your wedding does not equate to her saying things behind your back, plotting against you, etc. I think you are making this into a much bigger deal than it needs to be. 

    Post # 56
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    7813 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    @PetalFace:  I would just be focused on walking straight 😛 I wouldn’t be looking around to see if anyone was taking my picture to smile at the camera. I would have my regular face on – which is not a scrowl or a smile, but is neutral. If I was posing for a picture I knew about, obviously I’d try to look nice in it. I guess I am a non-smiling egotistical poser because I don’t smile all the time.

    Post # 58
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    7813 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    @PetalFace:  People get self-conscious. Maybe they are already worried about how they look, if they will fall over in their heels, if they should have done something but didn’t…and then add fake smiling at nothing to the mix and it puts the awkwardness to a new level. I hate fake smiling. I’d rather have neutral faced pictures than a bunch of crazy fake smiley ones, lol.

    Post # 59
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    527 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Our photographers actually told us to not smile unless you actually felt like you had to (same with laughing, just do it if you need to).  They said forced smiles just look weird sometimes.  Perhaps she just wasn’t ready to break into a full grin.  I honestly wouldn’t worry or be slighted by it.

    Post # 60
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    92 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    One of mine didn’t smile in her walking down the aisle, but I think she was too nervous. I went to another wedding where the Maid/Matron of Honor didn’t smile at all. She looked pissed. She wasn’t thought. That was just her face at the time. ha!

    Might be reading too much into it. But, that is odd that even the posed photos look weird.

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