Post # 1
So my husband and I have already been invited (well I guess received Save the Dates) for about 6 weddings from May to August. Since a couple of the weddings are for late May, which is when the baby’s due and they’re a couple hours away I’ve decided just to say no to those, for all we know we could be having a baby the day of the wedding and it’s friends but not BFFs or family members.
So I’m not sure if the baby is invited to these weddings or not but most of the others are in July and August. So when’s too soon to travel to a wedding with or without baby. The one I’m most questioning is when the baby is 2 months old and a wedding is 7 hours away. Is that too soon to leave her at my parents for a weekend or for her to go with us on a trip that long? I’ll be nursing but don’t mind leaving breast milk in a bottle and pumping while we’re gone or is that too much pumping for a whole weekend?
Post # 3
Whoops, meant to put this in babies
Post # 4
For you, it’s up to you when you feel comfortable leaving your child. You probably won’t know how you will feel until right before that wedding.
8 weeks is too soon to take a child to a wedding for all kinds of reasons. Germs and things are one of them. The babies immune system is week and I don’t know if I would want them around all of those people. Plus the noise would be by biggest concern. Those delicate little eardrums probably couldn’t handle it.
Post # 5
if you want to go to the wedding that’s 7 hours away, i would have someone like your mom go with you. then you don’t have to pump the whole weekend, and your mom can watch the baby while you and dh go to the wedding. obviously, it’s not ideal and easier just to skip it!
Post # 6
Our Baby will be about 6 or 7 weeks old when we hop a plane to FL (from NY) for my sister’s wedding. Obviously we wouldn’t be traveling that early for for just any wedding, but I don’t think it’s too early to travel with a baby. For me it would be too early to leave the baby for a weekend. I am planning to breastfeed, so my hope is that my husband will be on baby duty while I’m doing wedding things before/during the ceremony. It’s a smaller evening, beach wedding. We’re staying right there, so we are close to the things we need.
I would ask the bride if it’s okay to bring your baby to the weddings. Some people will be adamant that you can’t, and others will make an exception for a young baby who is still breastfeeding. Obviously you should be mindful of noise level, germs, etc… but I don’t think that is any reason not to go.
Post # 7
My husband’s brother and his wife had a baby right before our wedding (we actually pushed our wedding back a few weeks as soon as we found out they were pregnant, before we had booked our venue and before the save the dates went out).
We got married about 1.5 hours from our house, so it was very easy for them to travel. But they got a night nurse to stay with them for the weekend to make it easier. This way they could both leave the baby in the room with the nurse, and they didn’t have to worry. It also allowed them to sleep a little more throughout the night (although my SIL was still up throughout the night feeding the baby) so they could enjoy the weekend festivities.
They did not bring the baby to the wedding, but that was their choice. We did not have kids at our wedding, except our 2 flower girls, but I would not have minded if they had asked to bring him. They brought him to the rehearsal dinner, but did not bring him to the wedding (due to germs, people wanting to hold him, etc).
Getting your mother or Mother-In-Law or a sister/friend to join you for the weddings you want to go to might be an option. (Or a night nurse/ weekend nanny.) That way they could stay in the room with the baby during the wedding/reception, etc, but you wouldn’t have to be away from the baby the entire wedding.
Post # 8
Our nephew/god son was 5 months old when he was in our wedding. He was such a good baby though, that we didn’t even really notice he was there. I think that your comfort levels are your own, on whether you should leave him behind or not. I also agree taht maybe your mom can go with you to help with the baby.
Post # 9
I think it’s a personal decision. My husband’s good friend’s wedding is when our baby should be about 2 months old, it’s a long plane ride away. I’m going to skip it and let him go alone. I just don’t want to have to worry about it, and if I have any issues here I have my parents and his to help me.
Post # 10
So I guess the trip seems feasible depending on how the LO likes carrides and if she’s invited.
I don’t think my mom or sisters would want to do the trip, though I might be able to bribe a sister into it. A babysitter/nurse, I donno, I feel like I’d be really hesistant with her being so young on trusting them and being able to enjoy myself out (and it would be a stranger since we don’t know anyone in the area of the wedding)
So no ones done a weekend trip away from baby at that age?
Post # 11
It looks like I’ll have a 8-10 week old when I have a work trip to Amsterdam. I’ll be needing to bring the kiddo. My parents traveled with me at that age so I’m assuming with enough planning everything will be fine. I’m sure a car ride wouldn’t be that big of a deal.
Post # 12
One of my friends had a baby about 2 months old & went to a local wedding; another had a baby 5 months old, same wedding, but she had to travel 8 hours by car to come. For the 2m mom, she & hubby left baby with in-laws who are local & pumped through the night. For 5m mom, she hired the 2m mom’s babysitter to watch the 5m in their hotel room during the ceremony; then 2m & 5m moms both left for a “pumping party” (5m to actually breast feed & 2m to pump in company) during the cocktail hour(s) & rejoined our group for the reception, leaving again about 3 hours later for another “pumping party”. It definitely helped 5m mom that the babysitter was someone recommended by a reliable friend (2m mom). Maybe you could try that route, getting a babysitter from a local trusted source? & paying the sitter to come to you – like stay just a few hundred feet away in the hotel?