- 5 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
So last night my BFF was talking wedding with her Fiance, me (I’m her MOH), and Darling Husband. Her Fiance asked my Darling Husband to be a groomsmen, and he accepted. They’ve been asking us for a lot of advice since we just got married, so it has been a lot of fun reliving our wedding planning.
We thought about the comfortability of the wedding party when we got married. We wanted pics outside. However, knowing July is hot we decided if it was too hot we’d move inside. I couldn’t see having the groomsmen stand outside in tuxs for 3 hours in the sweltering heat! We got lucky and it rained the night before, so it was cool for us, but I had that backup plan.
My BFF, however, is having her wedding at the end of July, which gets about mid-80s. It’s at her house (which has no air conditioning). The wedding is outside as well as the pics with absolutely NO backup plan if it is too hot (or even if it rains). Granted she has time to change her mind, but she’s been set in her ways for 3 months now. The dresses are perfect for summer, BUT I’m worried about the groomsmen. It’s a western wedding, so the men will be in black cowboy boots, black wranglers, long sleeved Western-collared shirt, vest, WOOL JACKET, scarf and cowboy hat.
I told her all the guys are going to be sweaty, crabby, and smelly by the ceremony (which is at 5, so all the pics are in the afternoon-the hottest time of day and picture window is 5 hours because we’re taking pics with horses too) and I told her that my biggest worry is that one of the groomsmen is going to faint from heat stroke. I tried to give her some suggestions on maybe nixing the wool jacket and just doing the wranglers and a long sleeved buton down shirt, at the very least. She got very forward and said, “I don’t care what other people want. It’s OUR wedding, and this is what we want.” I reminded her of how tired they got after only 3 hours of pictures at my wedding, and they were even inside for the last hour of those pictures. These guys are going to continuously be outside in heavy clothes. She just reminded me that it was her wedding.
At this point I can’t get her to consider a different option, but do you guys have ideas or things you did at your wedding to help your guys combat the heat? I guess it isn’t my wedding, and maybe I shouldn’t be so worried about the Groomsmen, but if my Darling Husband is going to be shelling out moolah for an outfit he’ll only wear once (we’re not western people so we’re going to borrow a lot of the ensemble except the jacket, scarf, and jeans) then we’re thinking maybe Darling Husband should back out of the wedding. I wouldn’t even consider doing that, but I think this is a matter of safety at this point, and we’d rather do it now than wait until beginning of July to see how the weather will go.
We want to help make their day special, but Darling Husband also doesn’t want to be a sweating ball of misery for the day either. Should Darling Husband stay in and deal with it (and if he does what can we do to make this comfortable) or should he drop out? Are we being unreasonable?