Post # 1
I was thinking of a Sunday wedding, especially either Labor Day weekend or Columbus Day weekend.
I wanted to know how many people either didn’t come or left early because it was a Sunday?
Also, did you really save any money by having it on Labor Day weekend or on a Sunday?
Post # 3
We didn’t have anyone decline our wedding because of the date, but we did have a good number of relatives that didn’t come because it was out of town for them. I think everyone started leaving our reception around 8 or 9; it was a little earlier than we had planned, but it was kinda nice to get home and shower by 11. 🙂
We definitely saved money on the venue by having it on a Sunday; especially since our wedding was also on Mother’s Day, and they wouldn’t have booked another event on that date.
Post # 4
I am a Sunday bride who is having my wedding July 4th this year. We did that because most people have Monday the 5th off for the actual holiday. For those that don’t, most are taking the day off or arranging to come into work later.
If you book Labor Day weekend, everyone will have the Monday off from work. Columbus Day- not so sure. I don’t think that’s a typical holiday for most people (just probably those who work for government offices or schools).
When we were researching dates, we did find that most places offered Sunday discounts and only one place wanted to charge us more for the holiday. Since the Sunday before Labor Day isn’t the “holiday” I would think venues shouldn’t be charging more.
Good luck! 🙂
Post # 5
we had lots of oot people decline for numerous reasons, some were because it was on a sunday, and others were both because it was a sunday and because it was a private ceremony so they were kind of pissed that they weren’t invited. they weren’t willing to come all that way and miss work not to come to our ceremony. i think more family would have come if the ceremony was included. we invited 145 and 95 said yes (although i think a little less than 90 actually came, due to illnesses).
we didn’t have any dancing (other than the hora), so we expected it to be a pretty early wedding. it was just dinner, a speech, the hora, and cake. and our venue was about an hour away from home. still, people stayed pretty late. we were surprised.
it didn’t make much a difference for us about money for having it on a sunday. our venue was a b&b so if you have a wedding you pretty much have the place for the weekend, so it doesn’t matter what day it’s on. we didn’t have a dj or band, because there’s no dancing. i diy’ed the flowers. we didn’t have many vendors.
Post # 6
We did a Sunday at 3pm and people complained…quite a few people left early. I was like OMG this one friend of mine had a wedding at 6pm on a friday, everyone was late, stuck in traffic, so give me a break! I figure if you can’t come so be it, Sunday is a very NORMAL day for a wedding! Guests really can be SOOO annoying. God forbid someone got home at 9pm on a Sunday! And yes our venue was amazing and only had like 2 days left and Sunday was a tad cheaper, nothing like a thursday or friday but still not like a Saturday.
Post # 7
I am getting married on September 5, 2010 which is Sunday of Labor Day weekend.
What I have found with vendors is that I have gotten some discounts, but not as drastic because it’s a holiday weekend. I think the best one so far was our caterer who gave us a 10% discount which allowed us to upgrade to a nicer food menu.
Also, my wedding will be about 130-150 people. When I was looking for venues I found that several places made you guarantee 150 guests for a Saturday wedding. If you don’t have 150 guests they charge you extra. We ultimately chose Sunday at our venue because we only needed a 100 person guarantee for that day.
Another advantage to a Sunday wedding is that your rehearsal and rehearsal dinner can be on a Saturday. For us this means that my father can organize a golf tournament for the guys on Saturday and that people will not have to leave work early to get to our rehearsal.
Another fair warning for you is if you are planning a Sunday wedding directly ask potential venues if they can serve alcohol on Sundays (that is if your reception is not dry). A couple of venues I looked at did not have a license to serve alcohol on Sundays.
We have had a couple of complaints, but I haven’t let them bother me. I am not sure I would want to plan a Sunday wedding on a day that is not a holiday weekend, but I am happy with our Sunday holiday weekend arragement.
Also if you are worried about people leaving early you can plan a champagne brunch or early afternoon reception.
So, that’s everything I know so far from my year of planning my Sunday wedding! Good luck with your plans!
Post # 8
I am a Sunday bride as well – Memorial Day weekend. So far we’ve have a few “No” RSVP’s but they were distant, out-of-town relatives (so I’m actually not bummed at all). Most people have been positive about it.
We did save a lot of money – the venue was $1000 cheaper, the DJ was $300 less, and the catering was $5 less/plate.
Be careful if you want a church wedding. We had planned on a Catholic wedding, before we realized that a Catholic church will not do a ceremony on Sunday. We are instead having it at a Lutheran church (I am Lutheran, Fiance is Catholic) and it was no problem at all.
Instead of doing a gift-opening brunch the next day, my parents are going to host a BBQ.
Post # 9
I think Labor Day is a great idea. My brother and Future Sister-In-Law are doing that this year and it seems great for everyone, having Monday off after. Even people from out of town are coming. I haven’t heard a gripe about it at all. I’m a teacher and Labor Day is of course a busy time of year for us, but I can see the good sense in it, and still have a day to head back before school starts on Tuesday so it’s all good with me. I say go for it!
Post # 10
I am getting married on Labor Day Sunday and we saved $20/person with the caterer. Also, the minimums were much lower, which for our 75-guest wedding was really important.
Only Out of Town guests have complained about driving back on Labor Day (lots of traffic, apparently), but all of our friends and guests we care about have not complained.
Post # 11
Wow, $20/person is huge!
I’m going to a Labor Day wedding, and I’m a little bummed because I usually go up to my family’s cabin that weekend, but not bummed enough to make me not attend.
Post # 12
I’ve been to two Sunday weddings. One I left early, as I had a 1 and 15 minute drive home and I really didn’t know anybody that wasn’t in the wedding party except my parents. It was a friend of my sister’s. Many folks left early.
The other Sunday wedding I went to was this past Memorial Day weekend. The wedding broke up an hour early. I think this was due to the bride and groom leaving. We also had an hour and half drive over unfamiliar roads. This was a dry wedding. More complaints were heard about it being dry versus on a Sunday.
Post # 13
I had a Memorial Day weeked wedding. It was just a small wedding and I think everyone who came would have been there regardless of the day of the week, but I was able to save a bit with my venue. I had it at a bed and breakfat and for Friday or Saturday wedding, they require the entire place be rented out which I couldn’t afford nor did I need. I don’t think people would have left early except those that would leave early anyway (like my grandmother, or those with kids with them), but we didn’t have dancing or anything so everyone was gone by 10:30 or so.
Post # 14
I have been to a lot of Sunday weddings and I find most people are gone before the sweet table is open…the immediate family stays but a lot of people left. I imagine a long weekend you’ll have more people staying later, and be prepared for the whiners who will complain about it taking up their holiday weekend. don’t like it? ..don’t come!
Post # 15
We saved over $3000 by having our wedding on a Sunday!!!
First, the venue rental was waaay less then a Sat, plus we got a great deal from our photographer & caterer since it was a Sunday.
Our wedding was out of town as well, so thats why I think a few people declined. And yes, we did have a few people leave a little early, which was a bummer…but at least our closest friends & family stayed till the end (which wasn’t late, the wedding ended at 10 🙂
Overall, we still had the wedding of our dreams and think that we would of still pretty much had the same turn out if it were a Sat wedding, and I think those same people would of left early because they are a little on the boring side 🙂 It’s your wedding & your money. I’ve learned that if people want to complain, they will find something to complain about, so go for the day that suits you best!
Post # 16
even if your wedding was on a saturday you’d still have some people leave early.