(Closed) Sunday wedding / conflict with church

posted 7 years ago in Christian
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I actually considered a Sunday wedding and honestly I don’t see the issue. Unless your Bridesmaid or Best Man have elaborate up dos or anything them getting ready shouldn’t take long. The set up might be hard in that time also, if you have the possibility of hiring someone who WON’T care if they miss church to help with the set up, you wouldn’t have to worry as much. I hope that helps

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Is there a church youth group that you could hire to work with minimal supervision to do your set-up? This would  free up the wedding party to be with you and get ready.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

I depends on if you want to take pictures with them beforehand. I’m not sure why your attendants wouldn’t want to miss one day of church to attend your wedding. Those who are just guests have plenty of time after church to come.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Since the church has a small congregation, do you know most of the people and the pastor very well? If so, I don’t see why you couldn’t decorate the church (at least the big things) on Saturday and then, during the regular Sunday service, the pastor could make a reference to your wedding that afternoon so everyone would understand why things are decorated. The congregation could also pray for you and your Fiance.

 

Post # 8
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Helper bee

OK here goes!  Will I get my head chopped off?

What if you have your wedding at the Sunday church service?  it’s a small church and probably tight community and as you said yourself ‘half’ the church is in the ceremony anyway.

I think it would be lovely.  Afterwards you can serve cup cake [save the real cake and cutting for the ‘formal’ reception] and punch.  I bet the ladies guild will even throw in some sandwiches.  Then you can go off for the traditional wedding reception later on.  In between you can do photos!

If you don’t like that idea; speak to the pastor.  I don’t think it would be difficult to get everyone ready after services, they’ll just be tuckered out.  Let me know your thoughts.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

can people go to a saturday night mass instead?  I don’t think you’ll have enough time to get everything ready if people aren’t there until 1230 or 1.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I think first of all you should talk to your pastor. I know my pastor wouldn’t mind at all but some would. So see what he says. Maybe the BMs and everyone can have their hair and nails done before church so all they have to do after is get ready with you.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

I kinda like the idea @Momma has… Especially since it’s a smaller church, I’m sure you’re close or atleast know everyone & I think that would be great to be able to incorporate your church family!

We go to a large church and we’re pretty involved so we invited a good portion of the church anyways.. lol

Plus then you get YOUR pastor to marry you (unless you already had something else in mind). I know how much we love our Pastors & would love if he could do our wedding.

Definitely something to think about…

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I think after church is FINE! My Fiance plays in the worship band…..and we’re getting married on a sunday…..late afternoon (5:30)…..as long as no one HAS to miss the service….no biggie!

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Yes, I definitely think it is ok after the service as long as you realize that Sunday is typically the day that people spend with their families.  They may not want to attend.  Plus, God should really come first on that day (well, any day really, but Sundays are typically set aside for worshipping first, family second, etc. ) so asking anyone to skip church for any reason even if it is your wedding doesn’t seem like a great way to start off your marriage.  I know you said there were a lot of reasons you couldn’t get married this year, but poor you having to wait so long (I say this as an individual who is very impatient and is just dying to get to her September 3rd wedding!  I can understand though.  We’re waiting until September because he has youth away events (he’s the youth pastor) in June and July and he thinks August is too hot.  Tongue out

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