Post # 1
So to get the Ballroom we want, we were thinking of scheduling our destination wedding on May 24, 2020. This is the Sunday before memorial day. This way, people can come to CA for Memorial Day weekend and our wedding. What do you think? Is this rude to have a wedding on a Sunday even if it’s before a major holiday?
Post # 2
I personally do not like weddings on long weekends and holidays. We usually have plans and are now forced to choose between your wedding and our family plans. We have been invited to a wedding on the Sept. long weekend on the Sunday this year. We have an annual trip with a group of friends every year over the Sept. long weekend. Because of the wedding, all our friends have had to adjust their schedules and use an extra vacation day for our annual trip as we are going the weekend and week after the long weekend now. It’s not the end of the world, but it’s less than ideal. At least if the wedding was on the Saturday, we could potentially fly out that evening and salvage some of the weekend, but the Sunday is right in the middle of the weekend, so any plans other than the wedding are basically moot. So yeah, if I received an invitation to your wedding, I would groan and wish it had been a different weekend.
Also, I’m generally in favour of Saturday weddings as they are easiest for the majority of guests.
Post # 3
If this is a true destination wedding, meaning local to neither family or the couple, then that’s the more problematic, ie potentially perceived as inconsiderate, aspect.
Weddings in general can be held at any time. Personally, I dislike attending weddings on major holiday weekends, but that doesn’t make them rude. However, between the fact that it’s a holiday and a destination wedding, you will likely get more regrets.
Post # 4
Its not rude. You are having an event and inviting people to it. What would be rude is if you get angry at anyone who declines to attend.
Post # 5
In Judaism you can’t get married during Shabbat (fri sundown – sat sundown) so most people get married on Sundays. We had ours the Sunday of the August long weekend in BC. We had a couple family members from the states that had to drive back that evening but most people were local. We also had an afternoon wedding (noon-6pm) so people could get home easily. At least for us, Sunday weddings are standard so I wouldn’t bat an eye at it 🤷🏽♀️
Post # 6
- Wedding: April 2017 - City, State
Not rude to have a Sunday wedding as long as you’re willing to accept that some people may opt not to come.
Post # 7
It’s not rude to have a wedding on a Sunday. People can choose to come or not come. It’s an invite not a summons.
Just don’t get upset if people decline because the date doesn’t work for them for whatever reason.
Post # 8
Some people may have long standing/traditional plans that you force them to either change or skip your wedding for. If that situation doesn’t apply to your guests, I don’t think it’s a big problem. You will need to accept that your wedding date will make it more difficult for some, but easier for others. Just go with the flow when people tell you of their decision.
Post # 9
I think it’s the destination aspect more than the Sunday that’s the issue.
Post # 10
I dont think its rude. I think you would need to examine your guest list! Wedding are expensive for guests- typically paying for a gift and new outfit, then travel related costs (which will be much higher any where near a holiday). Totally not being snarky here, but when you say “they can come to CA for memorial day and our wedding”, are you thinking they will make a vacation out of it? Because I probably would not. A Saturday wedding gives people travel time on Friday and Sunday, where as a Sunday destination wedding would more than likely put them into the next work week. I know my vacation days are precious to me, and I probably wouldn’t go for that (unless you were my sister or BFF). Just being honest!
Just to put in perspective, I chose the weekend after labor day. I knew flights and hotels would be higher labor day weekend. What I didnt realize, is that school starts (in a lot of places) the week after labor day (we dont have kids and didnt even THINK of that!). BUT, by having a Saturday wedding, my teacher friends are a still able to fly in.
Hope this helps!
Post # 11
Destination. Sunday of a major holiday weekend. Yeah, I don’t know if it’s rude, but it’s definitely inconvenient. I would not want to go. Expensive to travel & ruins my holiday.
Post # 12
It doesn’t matter which day you choose, you’ll never be able to accommodate everyone. People decline invitations all the time, even if it’s a local Saturday wedding. Pick the day that works for you and have realistic expectations about the rsvp’s. That’s it.
Post # 13
I think it’s more rude to have a wedding over a holiday weekend TBH. It cost guests way more to travel, they may have other plans, and all together it’s just more inconvenient but with that being said guests can dencline. I would just be prepared for a good amount of declines
Post # 14
Not rude, just inconvenient. Be prepared for more than usual guests to decline. Bright side, cuts costs!
Post # 15
Honestly, as a Mon-Fri worker, I find this a lot less inconvenient than all the Friday afternoon weddings I’ve been to lately. I wish more weddings were during long weekends so I didn’t have to use my precious annual leave.
Either way, you’ll never be able to please everyone. Have the wedding when and where you want, and people are free to accept or decline.
My only concern would be the local accomodation. Is there a chance people will travel to that location for the holiday? Could it affect your guests getting accomodation?