Post # 1
Having a sunset dinner cruise the night before the wedding in Cabo. I am also making a brochure with info on hotel, tips, travel info and itineray of wedding events.
Under the time slot for dinner cruise I want to put something about wearing White and Kaki for a themed event. BUT i want this to be completely optional.. how would you guys word this?
5:00pm Sunset Dinner Cruise
(White and Kaki atire optional) ?? HELP!
Post # 3
we invite you to wear white/khaki attire
Post # 4
@GroovyHippieChick: Do you think people will feel it is a reiquirement with that wording? I do like it!
Post # 5
I see the “we invite you to wear” as more of a requirement then a suggestion but I don’t think it’s that big of a deal. It’s really not much different than requesting Black Tie. You can request anything you want but it never means someone HAS to do it. The only thing I’d find out of the ordinary is that you aren’t requesting it for the wedding but for a pre-wedding event. All that being said, at the end of the day write what you want – people will wear what they want anyways!
Post # 6
If its optional then who cares?
The cruise sounds like a blast!!
Post # 7
Wanted a color theme for a big group pic on the beach prior to the boat ride but do not want to impose anymore costs on the guests ”/
Post # 8
Since it’s the day before the wedding, and not the wedding itself, recommending/suggesting a wardrobe is a little overreaching to many folks. It’d be different if you were recommending long sleeves because it can get buggy at night, but since it’s just for a photo op, you might want to let it go. If you name a color/theme, there are definitely some guests who will go buy those items, so you need to weigh your photo op wants against the potential costs to the guests. Perhaps you could either broaden the “look” (I.e. Welcome all pastels) so that more people would be likely to already own something suitable (like many, I dont own a single white or khaki item, nor do any of my friends, but I do own several light blue/light green items), or hand-pick a few folks who you know already have the wardrobe, and use them to “frame” the photo with the rest of the guests dressing however they want.
Post # 10
@ReyDar64: sounds like fun! Most people should have a white item.
I just found this link http://www.ehow.com/how_7013274_there-color-guests-wear-wedding_.html
Basically it suggests you state it this way “we invite you to join in the wedding’s color palette by wearing khaki or white.”
Edit: Or insert cruise
Post # 11
Could you buy some white tees for everyone to slip on for the photo? I hate being told to wear something specific but in the end will feel guilted into going out and buying whatever is needed which in this case would be a white top and khakis two things I don’t have (the only white clothing I own is my wedding dress!). I would also not want to turn up and be the only party pooper not in proper colours!
At the end of the day I know it seems really important now that everyone co-ordinates but in 5 or 10 years will it be important? Or will the photo full of friends and family dressed in whatever be important enough!